Today I’m going to talk about anxiety around women and the seductive power of a good mood, and how to always use this to your best advantage around women you’re interested in.
But first, a little backstory:
It’s amazing that 8 words can have such an effect on me, but I guess when I first heard this I took it as an accusation.
And I do believe it was meant as one–I thought it was an accusation that affected the accuser in a negative way.
I will add that my defensive response made me feel good, so I share it in the hopes that it helps you feel good too and help to end your anxiety around women.
“If what you mean is that getting in a good mood I tend to stay there, you are right. If what you mean is that wandering from a good mood I tend to find my way back again, you’re right.”
“I find that a good mood makes bad moments pass more comfortably and makes good moments more enjoyable.”
“I prefer to keep the nose of my ship pointed toward the sun –even if it’s setting.”
I’m happy to pass on this warning to you–and some methods to heed it:
Your mood is one of the most important things in your toolbelt.
That would be true if the only thing you can look at is the ugly reality before you.
On the contrary, there are several places your attention can go, and the least enjoyable item on the horizon is only one of them.
Rather than look at what displeases you, you can look beyond it, or behind it, or otherwise away from it toward something you want to see.
You can also use your words to review the present moment or shift your attention such that it is not quite so glum.
Here’s An Example From My Personal Life…
I’ll never forget the time I searched for a way to apologize to a good friend about the quality of the service and food at–up to then–a favorite place, that I had chosen for the first of his three nights’ visit.
Before I could stammer out my defensive excuses for the bistro, he interrupted with, “How gorgeous was that waitress?”
As we review, and rehearse and reiterate what’s wrong in the situation, we seem to find it’s not enough and look into the past at other, similar disappointments.
Then we project into an imaginary future and conjure up nonexistent disappointments to heap onto those we’re wallowing in.
Determined to stay in this emotional place–and actually trapped by the echoes of the current emotion–we project this emotion into our future.
“This is awful! It’s like that time when…
“I always seem to end up in these depressing situations…. It’s like Greece all over.”
“That time with the brunette downtown wasn’t even nearly this bad. I don’t know why I told Barry I’d go to his party–it’s going to be even worse!”
“I’m going to make a fool of myself.”
Use these powers–memory and imagination–to remember the past and imagine the future in your favor, instead.
The #1 Proven Technique I Personally Use to Get Rid of Anxiety Around Women…
Remember successes and happy moments–relevant to the present situation or not.
Those thoughts are just as much yours as the memories of disappointments.
To eliminate anxiety around women, try to imagine excellent results and ideal circumstances.
An event doesn’t have to be real to feel bad–or good.
For example, most people are very picky about what they eat.
“Too sweet.”
“I don’t want meat.”
“That’s too much sauce!”
“It’s too dry”
A lot of people are also very picky about what they wear.
I choose what I eat and wear–as most people do–but I also choose what I think and what I say… as very few people do.
All of these have an impact on how I feel.
“My mood is negative only when my credibility is shot,” a woman once told me.
“If your situation was as mine, you would also be stuck in a pretty lousy mood.”
In other words, this bad mood she was in was not even because of her “situation” but because of what other people think.
That’s Not All…
Let’s take a good look at that in the bright light of day.
First, this is not something she has a lot of control over, is it?
The thoughts in other people’s heads are mostly unknowable and fully out of the reach of your control.
If you disagree, I hope you exercise this belief in advertising, where people without your beliefs pay hundreds of thousands of dollars to get a message in front of people for 30 seconds–and that message is mostly not listened to and almost entirely not acted upon.
Second, even if we pretend for a moment that the situation she’s in (or you’re in, or I’m in) is certainly, undeniably, universally “BAD”…
… this would ONLY be a valid reason for feeling bad if the only thing she (or you, or I) can pay attention to is the situation we are in.
As I demonstrated above, on the contrary, we have not only the ability to focus our attention somewhere beside right in front of us…
… but when you focus on the right thing, you may even find yourself in a conversation with a new & beautiful woman who can’t wait to go home with you:
Here’s How This Will Get You Laid More Right Away (Speaking From Personal Experience)…
Something that I personally do to keep my mood high… eliminate any risk of rejection… and always show off the kind of attractive confidence women find irresistible?
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