Being Cool Is Easier Than You Ever Imagined…
Who do you picture when you hear the word “cool”?
Maybe Clint Eastwood…or James Dean…but what does it really mean to be “cool”?
And on top of that, why does it matter? Is being “cool” really that important to women?
In my experience, I’ve learned that the answer is “Yes” — so if you can a) understand why being “cool” is so attractive, and b) convince a woman you meet that you’re “cool”…
Your odds of eventually taking her home go way up.
So today, I’m going to show you exactly how to be “cool” with the next woman you meet (even if you don’t feel that way right now).
Why Be Cool?
Being “cool” is much more than buying a leather jacket and a good pair of shades.
It’s a state of being — and a very specific one. So if you can convince a woman that you’re “cool,” the odds that she’ll find you attractive skyrocket…
Before we talk about why it’s attractive, let’s clarify that “coolness” is a masculine strength.
After all, there’s a reason that most depictions of “cool” are of men with their arms crossed and a smirk on their face. Rarely will you see a woman doing the same who you also find attractive.
And that’s because women are emotional — it’s not attractive for them to be “cool,” because being cool is another way to hide your emotions.
A “cool” woman is almost always called “cold”…
And “hard to read”…
But a “cool” man is seen as attractive??? What?
The #1 Reason Women Love the “Cool” Guy
Here’s the #1 reason women love a “cool” guy so much:
A man who is “cool” is very, very masculine (something women crave in a sexual partner).
A cool guy is the opposite of emotional — he’s in control of his emotions. And because he’s in control, he’s able to hide what he’s feeling from her.
So when a woman is talking to a man she sees as “cool,” she’s left wondering if he really likes her…
What he thinks about her…
And what’s actually going on inside her head. This creates a lot of curiosity, and in turn, drives her to stick around so she can figure you out.
Being “cool” gives her the drama she needs to be attracted to you.
That’s Not All…
On top of triggering her curiosity, a “cool” guy will also come off as successful.
Because when a woman sees a man she thinks is cool, she instantly thinks:
- “Here’s a guy who doesn’t worry or freak out…”
- “It looks like things are going well for him…”
- “He’s not worried about what other people think about him…”
- “Wow, he must be so confident…”
So how do you come off as “cool,” even if you don’t feel that way?
I’ve got just the trick up my sleeve:
3 Ways to Play it “Cool” With the Next Woman You Meet
Here’s the truth — you’re not going to believe it, but stay with me for a second:
The key to becoming “cool” is to fake it ‘til you make it.
Sure, you could spend hours online reading about other “cool” men…but the easiest way to start actually doing it is to…well, just do it.
Think about it:
Study after study has shown that when you feel sad, smiling will actually help you to feel happier.
Likewise, if you don’t feel cool, simply acting cool will make you feel cool — and that’s when women will start to see you as the “cool” guy.
So how do you act like you’re “cool” (even if you don’t feel that way)?
Here’s my step-by-step method you can use in a conversation with the the next woman you meet:
1) Wait to Respond to Her
One of the easiest, low-effort ways to come off as “cool” is to wait a few seconds before responding to any question she asks you.
For example, if she asks you where your favorite place to hang out is…
Count to 5 in your head before telling her. An added benefit of this is that it gives you time to really think before you answer her.
You can also try this when she’s not asking you a question — so if she says, “Hey, look at that dog over there!”…
Count to 5 in your head before you look. While you’re counting, start turning your head slowly…but don’t turn all the way until you get to “5.”
The key is to be slow and deliberate with your actions. Which brings me to the next step…
2) Keep Steady Eye Contact
Now, this doesn’t mean you need to stare into her eyes every moment she’s talking to you.
But, when she is looking at you…return her gaze, and don’t be the first to break the gaze.
And once she breaks eye contact (which she’ll most likely do after a few seconds), look away — but do it very slowly. Don’t snap your head around or jerk your body away.
Instead, focus on moving one body part at a time. If you want to turn around, slowly turn your neck…
Then your shoulders…
And finally, your torso and legs.
When you do this, you’re telling her, “Everything I do, I do with purpose.”
3) Smile Slowly
When you picture a “cool” guy — James Dean, for example — you’re probably not picturing a wide grin across his face.
Instead, what do you see?
Maybe some squinting eyes…
And just a small smirk — not fully smiling, but not completely straight-faced, either.
Your smile is one of the most powerful ways for you to communicate how “cool” you are to a woman.
So when you want to smile, smile! But do it slowly. Don’t leave a grin plastered on your face, and try your best not to bend over backwards laughing at her jokes.
This kind of “slow” smile turns women on very quickly, because in her mind, she’ll think you’re being more genuine with her.
So Should You Always Play it “Cool” With Her?
Women are naturally attracted to men who “play it cool” in the very beginning…
But play it too cool, and you risk pushing her away — she’ll find you cold, dispassionate, and possibly rude.
Ultimately, women see a cool guy as a “challenge” — they want to melt his “cool” exterior and get inside his mind…
So if you don’t eventually let your guard down, she’ll just assume you aren’t interested.
It’s a difficult tightrope to walk, but it’s not impossible.
Here’s a little trick I use to show her I’m warming up to her while still keeping my cool:
The “Cool Guy Touch” That Warms Her Up Fast (Where Was This My Entire Life?)…
You’re on a first date with this girl — let’s call her Amy.
At the bar, she seems into you for the first 30 minutes or so…laughing at your jokes…touching your arm every few minutes…
…even mentioning a concert you just “have” to go to together next week (second date, score!)…
But after that, she gets a little icy…arms crossed…looking at her phone (probably checking Instagram)…what the f— happened?
Normally you’d chalk it up to something you said…just get the check and walk away…maybe next time…
But not tonight — not when you’re armed with the “Cool Guy Touch.”
Because women are up to 10x more sensitive to touch than you or I… this subtle, 3-second touch is the most powerful way to melt her icy exterior…and reignite her sexual desire for you…
So you comment on her bracelet, so that she holds her hand out for you…
There’s your chance — you use the “Cool Guy Touch,” and a few seconds later her eyes light up. Nice. It’s working.
You use it 2 more times over the course of the night…
And as the bartender shouts out, “Last call!” she says the words you knew she’d say all along:
“Wanna have a quick drink back at my place?” 😉
This “Cool Guy Touch” is freaking awesome. So check it out — you’ll love it: