Want to Know How to Make Her Want You Now? Read This First…
In my last article, I discussed all the ways your “Imaginary Past” prevents you from landing hotter women.
The reason I did this is so we could talk about the “S” word.
Yes, that “S” word — Sex.
But there’s something you need to realize before we go any further:
Most of what will successfully get you in bed with a woman has nothing to do with sex…
It’s all about the buildup of desire.
“But building up desire is just the start to sex, right?”
Nope.
Touching and groping and talking dirty is more about physical arousal than the act of building desire.
And hey — if that’s a strategy that works for you, then keep doing it.
If you’re not quite there yet, trust me — you’re not alone. Let’s back up.
A lot of guys let their fear of rejection stop them from talking to more women, but here’s the kicker:
Building that desire can be risk-free.
In fact, that buildup should be risk-free every time you do it. I’m going to show you how.
Why Is This So?
Here’s the order things usually go with women:
Flirting → Building Desire → Sex
So why am I talking to you about that buildup first? Why now?
Last time, I talked about why your past, fears, doubts, and future are so important to your ability to make women want you.
For a lot of guys, their biggest fear is that when it comes time to have sex they won’t be aroused…
Or won’t look good…
Or their equipment is sub-par…
Or their technique is worthless…
Or they simply have no experience…
These fears interrupt them before they even start flirting.
To truly make a woman want you, you have to overcome and ignore these fears that just keep getting in your way.
Now, by showing you how to reduce these fears, I’m not implying you can relate — no way.
But maybe you’ll recognize one of your friends in the description that follows, so feel free to read along and save this information for later.
In my experience, some guys — not always those who realize it, either — are worried when building desire that they won’t be capable of pleasing her if they get her into bed.
They’re afraid that she’ll laugh when she sees them naked…
They’re afraid that they’ll get nervous…
They won’t know what to do…
She won’t have an orgasm…
They’re afraid that they’ll disappoint her sexually and she’ll ridicule them — either in her head, out loud right there in his face or to all her friends, who, having seen his picture online at the “canhepleaseher.com” database, will whisper things to whoever they’re with and laugh mercilessly at how pathetic he is.
Well, I’m not here to tell you how to handle that scenario, but the truth is that you won’t have to worry about that at all if you get that buildup right.
If you can make her want you, you won’t have to commit to anything.
At every step of the buildup you can back out before it becomes full-blown sex.
The reason you can back out is because the buildup is not a full commitment to sex until that line is crossed.
Now you know why building desire is risk-free — let’s talk about what that buildup actually is.
How to Easily Build Up to Sex Without Embarrassment
Building desire in a woman is basically sexual flirting.
Before I start, let’s make it clear that this is a working definition.
It’s not at all important that I give you the dictionary’s definition, the agreed upon guru definition, the professional designation, the Bro’s Code standard…
I’m describing it so that you know it better when you see it — so you have a feeling when you’re close and how best to get closer.
Making a woman want you is not the same as arousing a woman..
Although it hopefully will lead you there.
Building her desire — like flirting — will allow you to say, “What? That’s not what I meant…” should you not get the response you’re after.
And like flirting, this type of denial is not one you ever want to use.
“Then what is it for?”
Have you heard of the Right of First Refusal?
Let’s say I talk a property owner into an amazing deal.
Even though I did all the negotiating and persuading, the real estate board — in this case, the holder of the Right of First Refusal — is allowed to jump in and take over my position, exercising their Right of First Refusal.
In this case, you’ve put all the work into making her want you…
But she’s exercising her Right of First Refusal when she accuses you of flirting with her.
What I’d like to talk about now is something I like to call the Right of Second Refusal.
Your “Emergency Eject” Switch If She Tries to Shame or Embarrass You
The Right of Second Refusal becomes relevant when you’re building that desire in a woman, and she suddenly gets all flustered and says, “Hey!! I LOVE my husband! What are you insinuating!?”
“Woah,” you safely reply, “I think you may have misunderstood me. You’re beautiful and all, but it’s my policy to not hit on ANYONE unless I’m certain they’re not a man.”
This Right of Second Refusal is only an emergency measure — a backup parachute, so to speak.
The purpose of it, in fact, is NOT to save you when you need it. If you’re using it right, you should never need it.
The purpose is twofold:
1) To make sure your approach is ambiguous.
If you think approaching a woman and making it clear that you want to have sex with her is the way to go…
Then try it.
You might fool yourself when you imagine the scenario, and you could even blunder your way through it the first few times you try, but you will be only too aware, after six or seven attempts, when your attitude leaves no room for interpretation.
This stuff will be majorly echoed when we do talk about flirting, but when you give a woman a direct request, her response is much more likely to be “NO” than if you approach her ambiguously.
Basically, don’t ask for things you may not get.
When you do, you are allowing her to develop the habit of saying “No” to you, and as I’ve discussed before, habits are hard to break.
So if you find yourself exercising your Right of Second Refusal, it’s a sign that your approach is too unambiguous.
2) To make you feel safe in what you’re doing.
By feeling as though you have a backup parachute, you’re much more likely to succeed. Not only that, but you’ll be more likely to try and make more women want you — which means you’ll be succeeding with more women, more often.
A lot of guys save their “in it to win it” efforts for situations they feel are “worth” it.
Either they’ll wait until they’re sure she’s on board to really “go for it,” or they’ll wait until they find a woman who’s so ideal they wouldn’t forgive themselves if they chickened out.
By leaving room for the woman to interpret your efforts, you’re not giving her the chance to assume you’re flirting with her or are trying to “get” with her…
And that will make you more confident — and, as a result, more successful — in your approach.
The key is to make your approach to this buildup very light — to make her think you maybe like her rather than thinking, “I’m into you, are you into me? Are you? ARE YOU??”
You’ll reduce the pressure on yourself and increase your odds of approaching more women successfully.
This can all be accomplished just by knowing that you have the Right of Second Refusal at your disposal if you need it.
Here’s something most guys don’t realize — 95-99% of the women you have any chance with are the ones you will naturally approach.
Next time, I’m going to show you how to actually do it.
Here’s What You Should Do Now
Remember the flow chart I showed you earlier?
With women, it usually goes a little like this:
Flirting → Building Desire → Sex
I’m going to tell you what to say to make a woman want you — bad — but a lot of this buildup has nothing to do with words…
It has to do with touch.
Women love to be touched, but most men have no idea how to do it.
There are thousands of wrong ways to touch a woman, but only a few ways to do it right.
In fact, there’s an entire industry built around touching women in just the right way so that she’ll do pretty much anything you want her to do…
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