How Putting Yourself First Will Get You Ahead of the Game…
Imagine a world where you have the utmost confidence.
I mean rock solid, “true confidence” — the type that allows you to live a happier and more fulfilling life…
While also attracting more women.
What would you be willing to do to achieve that? How far would you be willing to go?
One woman might just have the key to building this kind of “true” confidence…
And it's got nothing to do with gimmicky exercises or reading self-help books.
Meet the Woman Who’s Leaving NOTHING Off Limits…
In her podcast, Owens literally leaves nothing off limits — she is direct, frank, and humorously probing — all in an effort to open up new discussions about “wild, random, esoteric, and sometimes controversial stuff.”
She’s interviewed sex therapists, film critics, and everything inbetween…
And she’s not afraid to speak her mind. So we sat down with her one-on-one to have an open, honest discussion about what it means for a man to be confident today.
And according to Owens, there are 3 core things every man needs to do to achieve “true” confidence — the kind that comes to you naturally and that women can’t resist:
1) Take Care of Yourself
Here’s the truth: If you’re only focused on who you’re dating…
Or wondering who else is out there…
And what you need to do to get her…
It’s easy to forget about taking care of yourself.
But as Michelle says, you have to ask yourself if you’re happy before you can make another woman happy:
Are you doing everything in your life because it makes you happy? A lot of people make a mistake, where they think they should be doing something because ‘it’ll be accepted,’ or their parents wanted them to do that, or because their girlfriend will be happy they’re doing that or they just want to get that stamp of approval.”
To truly answer this question (of whether you’re doing things because they make you happy), you have to be honest with yourself…
And dig deep into the real reasons you do what you do in your life.
It Doesn't End There…
Do you enjoy at least some aspects of your job? Or are you in it just for a paycheck?
Whose idea was it for you to go down that career path? Was it yours or someone else’s?
Do you have time to spend on that hobby or side project you love?
It’s just about going inward and making sure that you’re taking care of yourself. That’s going to lead to confidence,” Michelle notes.
So if you are in it just for the money, or you don’t have time for your passions, then reevaluate what you’re doing.
It doesn’t mean you have to quit your job — but at least make the time to do things you enjoy. Yes, it's technically selfish behavior, but it's necessary to build true confidence. Think about it:
It's much easier to be happy and confident than it is to be unhappy and confident…so if you're happy with your life, that's an easy first step.
2) Do What You Love—And Do It With Gusto
Once you discover what makes you happy, Michelle’s next step is to do it — and do it as often as you can.
Because according to Michelle, doing what you love “builds confidence automatically.”
So do what you enjoy…
And don’t hold back. Go at it 100%.
If it’s exercising, get in the gym as often as you can. And go hard.
If you love your job, then pour your heart and soul into it.
Whatever it is you decide you love to do, go at it with as much intensity and focus as you can handle.
As you focus on it and start to see improvement and small successes along the way, you’re going to feel less insecure and watch your confidence build, like Michelle says, “automatically.”
And that’s because most of the time, the things you love to do are also the things you’re good at — and doing something you’re good at will make you instantly more sure of yourself.
3) Forget Society’s “Stamp of Approval”
A lot of dating advice simply tells you to “be a man.” And for Michelle, this is a big issue.
What society believes a “man” is might be different than your idea of what it is to “be a man.”
And it’s this separation in ideas that causes thousands of men to feel anxious…
And generally stressed out around women.
After all…how the hell are you supposed to “be a man” if you’re not sure what a “man” is supposed to be?
Michelle has one simple solution:
YOU decide what it means to “be a man.” Not society or anyone else.
Have the courage to do what makes you happy in your life and career. Take a look at yourself and decide to take care of your needs as a man, first and foremost.
And make sure you’re taking action as you believe a man should.
If you start listening to yourself, then you’ll believe in yourself more often…
And that will give you “true” confidence.
What “True” Confidence Looks Like in Action
This type of “true” confidence is something that can really excite a woman.
Michelle tells a story illustrating exactly what this sort of “true” confidence looks like in action:
She was in a group of people and was instinctively drawn to this one man — he was “naturally so open and charming and willing to say hello to everyone.” And because he was so open, Michelle felt the two of them were able to “really connect and talk about things they're passionate about.”
So this “true” confidence directly translates into your ability to connect on a deeper level with women. And that's something that'll make her remember you.
Just take it from Michelle — she ended up becoming “very, very close friends” with the man! “It was almost like he became family to me because he was so willing to connect on this deeper level,” she says.
True confidence helps you connect with every woman you meet — and there’s one more thing you can do to strengthen that deep, sexual connection with a woman:
How Your True Confidence Translates Into Her Sexual Desire
I was out one night and couldn’t take my eyes off the bartender — long brown hair, feisty, and a real sparkle in her eye…just my type.
Thing is, she was busy…and I couldn’t even get her attention. What could I do to make her notice me?
That’s when I remembered this weird trick my mentor taught me…I think it’s called the “Hypnotic Touch of Desire.”
So as the bartender passed me my next beer, I used the “Hypnotic Touch of Desire” on her hand — she stopped dead in her tracks. I was a little freaked out to be honest…
But then she smiled at me and asked how my night was going! It was working. Nice.
I used the “Hypnotic Touch of Desire” every time I ordered another beer from her, and every time she started to look deeper into my eyes…and she even started flirting with me…
By the end of the night, she said “Hey, I know this after-hours place…”
And within 15 minutes of getting there, she pulled me into a corner booth and made out with me for like an hour! We exchanged numbers and she “wants to show me more” this weekend.
This “Hypnotic Touch of Desire” is pretty badass. So check it out — you’ll love it: