Confident Vs Cocky: What's Hotter In The Bedroom? Pornstar Katy Kiss Reveals EVERYTHING Below…
As an adult actress, I get asked a lot of sex-related questions…especially from guys.
Stuff about girl-on-girl action…
A girl's biggest turn-ons in bed…
And how to be confident with any girl (even a pornstar like me!).
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So today, I'm going to show you all that…and then some.
Ready to dive in? 😉
Why Is Confidence So Damn Sexy?
Before I get too far ahead, let me introduce myself: I'm Katy Kiss, and I'm a pornstar.
I've only been in the industry for about 6 months now…but I've learned a lot so far. And one of the biggest lessons I've learned is that nothing is sexier than having a confident man next to me in bed.
Most women — not just pornstars — are naturally drawn to confident men.
Confident men are sexy as hell. They're self-assured…
And just downright alluring.
A confident man will keep me safe…and warm at night. 😉
Though there is one danger of displaying your confidence loud and proud — confidence can easily turn into cockiness. And trust me…no girl wants a cocky guy.
Cocky guys look like they're overcompensating for something…
And they make me feel scared and disgusted…not safe or turned-on.
So how do you tell the difference? Here's my tip:
Confidence Vs. Cockiness: How to Tell the Difference
The first step to understanding the difference between confidence and cockiness is to know what not to do. Things like:
- Putting other people down…
- Bragging about your achievements…
- Flashing your money…
- Talking over her…
These are huge no-no's for an attractive girl!
The biggest thing you should avoid is putting other people down to make yourself look good. A man who does this will never — and I mean never — be invited to join me in bed.
So how can you avoid being cocky and instead project confidence?
Do things like:
- Look her in the eye…
- Continue the conversation with her…
- Make fun jokes (and laugh at hers too!)
- Compliment her…
These will all make a woman feel good without coming off as cocky.
For example, it might seem simple, but a lot of guys don't know how to make eye contact with me. They just ask me a question and immediately look away or down at their feet.
Though a guy who can ask me something and keep looking straight into my eyes? That's hot as hell…and it's a huge sign of confidence.
If you aren't sure how to keep the conversation going, ask her questions about herself — every woman likes to talk about herself every once in a while. 🙂
Be sure to respond to her answers and show her that you're listening.
And as far as compliments go, keep them simple and non-sexual — tell her her hair looks nice, or she has a great smile, or maybe she has an amazing sense of humor. Complimenting my personality is a huge turn-on for me.
But the biggest turn-on? Great sex, of course!
Here are my 4 tips to be confident in bed with the next woman who comes home with you:
1) Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay!
Ahhh, foreplay. Foreplay is your time to shine. And I'll be honest…most guys I've been with don't spend enough time on foreplay.
The key here is to take it slow. If she's down to get naked with you, then sex is at least on the table. There's no need to rush it.
Take your time when you kiss her — make out for 5, even 10 minutes. Then slowly use your hands to start touching her body…warm her up a little.
You'll notice she might start to speed things up…you can choose to go with that, or if you really want to get her all hot and bothered, try resisting.
That way she'll be begging to take you all in by the time you're revved up and ready to go.
2) Explore Her Secret Desires
From there, the next amazing thing you can do to make sex great is to discover her biggest turn-ons.
For example, I looooove when a guy breathes into my ear. It's just so f'in hot. And when I get really turned on, I start breathing heavier…
I get wetter…
I bite my lip, and I might moan a little…
If she starts doing any of these things, it's a huge sign she loves what you're doing. Keep doing it. 😉
And if she doesn't respond, that's not necessarily bad…it's just a sign you should try something else!
Try kissing her neck, or touching the small of her back. You could also kiss her inner thighs or simply stroke her.
The only way for you to figure out what she likes (without asking her) is to explore her body…why not have some fun with it?
3) Focus On Her Pleasure (Trust Me, It’ll Pay Off)
Alright, so you've got her primed and ready to go…time for some amazing sex! But don't forget about her while you're pumping away.
Look at her face…does she look like she's having a good time? Most girls love when a guy makes eye contact during sex.
It's important to show her that you're still paying attention to her — stroke her breasts and touch her body…
You could even try and give her an orgasm before you start having sex with her! That's hot as hell…and most guys don't do it, so she'll remember you for a loooong time afterward.
In fact, if the sex is amazing enough, you can keep her coming back to you for more and more…almost like you can have sex “on-demand.”
So how do you do that?
Just check this out:
4) Get Her “C–K Drunk” on YOU
“Girl…you’re freaking c–k drunk!” My bestie Edyn told me…
I had spent the last hour telling her aaaaaalll about my f–k buddy “Jim”…how amazing he felt inside me…
How even though he wasn't super “huge,” he f**ked me so hard, and SO deep I almost felt like I couldn't stop coming…
(…Mmm, I’m getting turned on just thinking about it…)
But “c–k drunk”?? That’s a first. “What the hell does THAT mean?” I had to giggle (you try saying “c–k drunk” out loud without laughing)…
A look of hurt crossed her face…”You didn’t watch my video, did you?”
She had sent it to me like an hour ago…but I was “working”… 😉
She held up a finger and pulled out her phone…”Here, just watch,” she said, pressing play:
“If a guy can give me the pleasure I crave…if he can turn me on the way I want…well, I’ll keep coming back to him day after day…and for one reason only: I want his c–k inside me. It’s what I call being ‘c–k drunk’.”
So I WASN’T crazy! All those urges…my carnal desires…the wet dreams I had been having about Jim every night for the past 2 weeks (yup, girls have ‘em too)…I was just c–k drunk.
I never knew how to put it into words…but you can watch Edyn show you, step-by-step, how to do it here:
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on September 8, 2019.]