Facebook Dating Advice for Divorced Men Who Are Ready to “Play the Field”…
Being single again doesn’t mean you have to hang around bars to meet women (even though it is fun).
And you don’t have to mess around on a matchmaking site or swiping app to get a date — at first, anyway.
Just take it from me: Using only Facebook, I was able to sleep with a woman within a few days of “friending” her. Not just any woman, either…
My ex-wife’s friend! And guess what? So can you.
Seriously, get your social media game as strong as you can make it, and you won’t even have to leave the house — or write a tedious profile — to score a date.
So today, I’m going to show you exactly how to use Facebook (and one other special resource) to find a date…fast.
My strategy begins with 3 simple steps:
1) Get Your Page in Order
The first step is to make sure any remaining negative evidence of your ex is gone. What do I mean by that?
Make sure you don’t have any recent posts complaining about your ex…or any pictures of her on your timeline.
The key is to make it look like you’re not romantically attached (even if you are!) — so no pictures of you with another woman that would make someone think you might be an “item.”
Also be sure to change your status to reflect your current status. Don’t leave it ambiguous — let the ladies know that you’re out there, and you’re available.
Glenn, one of the experts here at Gotham Club, likes the “single” status; in my personal experience, “divorced” has worked pretty well.
I was married for 16 years, and 5 years afterwards, my Facebook status is still set to “divorced.” There is a reason for this.
Over the years, many people who met me, or knew my ex and I as a couple, only recognized me as a married man.
“Divorced” sends a strong signal to women I met during my marriage, and to those I knew before, that I am back on the market.
On top of that, because I have kids, it lets new women know that I was married once and am not just some wayward baby daddy.
“Getting your page in order” doesn’t sound like a lot of fun…but trust me, it pays off.
In my post-divorce world, because of Facebook, I’ve hooked up with two ex-girlfriends, a high school crush, a friend of my ex and two friends of friends.
Seriously. From Facebook ALONE.
Which brings me to step two…
2) Use Your Timeline Wisely
For us divorced guys, Facebook is not about living in the moment, posting and sharing all the random stuff we like.
It’s about what women will see when they scroll down your timeline.
Do you have kids? Post pics of yourself being an awesome dad.
Scatter in some inspirational, uplifting quotes, and try some funny — not too crass! — videos. (Cats are usually a good bet.)
Another thing you can try: Check-ins at restaurants and concerts. These not only reveal the things you like, but they also show that you go out and do stuff.
So if you’re on vacation or doing something sporty or outdoorsy, post it! But avoid anything that you think will turn women off. For example, if you laughed at the latest “B—–s Be Whack” video on a friend’s timeline, I’m glad you enjoyed it…but Do. Not. Share. It.
Ultimately, the goal of your post-divorce Facebook page is to make yourself look like a decent, well-adjusted man who gets out of the house and does fun things. Which brings me to the next step…
3) Be the First to Reach Out
Now that your Facebook page is cleaned up, and you know what’s on your timeline, it’s time to start reaching out. First, reach out to women you already know.
Always start small. Try:
“How’ve you been?” Or,
“I remembered this funny thing…”
Once the conversation is going, ride the wave by not trying too hard. Ask a lot of questions and be an empathetic listener. Don’t overthink it.
And remember, you can be in touch with more than one woman at the same time — never put all your eggs in one basket.
In this way, you’ll become someone she trusts — someone she’s willing to open up to. And she’ll start thinking of you a little differently.
After you get into the swing of things with women you know, then branch out. Find high school crushes, and send them friend requests.
Think of women you’ve met who are friends of your friends — or better, your ex-wife (what’ve you got to lose?!) — and request their friendship as well.
In these cases, maybe they’ll reach out to you, but you should always start by simply liking their posts or leaving supportive comments before hitting them up on Messenger — you’ve got to have a basis on which to start the conversation.
Here’s the truth: I only have around 500 friends on Facebook, but more than 300 are women…
And I’ve slept with a lot of them. So, even if you don’t sleep with them because of Facebook, always get their number and hit them up with a friend request…
At least you’ll know what they’ve been up to and what to talk about if you want to reconnect.
And Don’t Forget About Instagram!
What?! Instagram? Yep.
If you keep a sharp Instagram game — good photo choices and witty comments — women will notice.
Especially if you do everything you can to expand your circle of followers. Follow all of your women friends who are already on Instagram, and if any women follow you, always follow back.
Keep growing your circle this way and your account will be suggested to other people, who, hopefully will follow you, too.
Then you can reach out to women who strike your fancy, and vice versa.
Just a couple months ago, a woman hit me up with a direct message on Instagram. She’s someone I had never met, but lives in my city and started following me because I was suggested to her:
Seriously guys — this happens!
And that brings me back to the whole point of this article…to share this amazing story with you — about how I slept with my ex-wife’s friend using Facebook.
The “Secret Weapon” I Used to Get Her in Bed, On Top of Me and Begging for More…
I was hurting for some action after my divorce. So when my ex-wife’s friend “Lisa” messaged me on Facebook to “meet up for coffee ;)”…I knew then and there my sexual drought was over.
Though when I actually met up with her, she was a total ice queen! Arms crossed…checking “to see if my kids called” every 30 seconds…I f’in blew it…
Just as I was about to give her the ol’ “I’ve got an early morning…” excuse and run off to the nearest bar, she did something that stopped me dead in my tracks:
She grabbed my hand and put it on her thigh. HUH???
And then it hit me…she wanted me to use the “Secret Weapon.” Because women in their 30s and 40s crave the touch of a man…all it takes is this subtle, 3-second touch (or what I call my “Secret Weapon”)…and then she’s all big eyes and warm smiles…like putty in your hands.
(Which is exactly what happened after I used it on her.) 😉
This “Secret Weapon” rocks. So check it out, you’re gonna love it:
Discover the “Secret Weapon” I Used to Sleep With My Ex-Wife’s Friend…
