Is Flirting With Women a Felony? It All Depends on Your Address…
Yes, you read that right. You can now go to jail for flirting with a woman…
…if you live in Nottinghamshire, England.
Police in Nottinghamshire recently expanded the definition of a hate crime to include misogyny.
And that means hitting on a woman in Nottinghamshire can result in an arrest and could be punishable by law.
Sound crazy? Let’s back up a bit and get to the bottom of this.
What’s Really Going on Here?
There’s no denying that sexual harassment is a major issue plaguing our society.
But a law that might make you think twice before just hitting on woman…
That’s way over the line!
And here’s the thing: This isn’t something all men have to worry about.
For example…
If Leonardo DiCaprio were to hit on a woman in Nottinghamshire, and she reported him to the police…
The police would probably just laugh in her face.
But the truth is that you probably aren’t a high-status celebrity, so it’s important to understand the bigger issue at hand here:
When you flirt with a woman, it’s important to read her for signs she wants to keep talking to you.
The last thing you want is for your advances to be thought of as a “hate crime.”
After all, your flirting is motivated by your desire to be with that woman…
Not by hatred or prejudice, like a hate crime would be.
So when does an innocent gesture turn into a hellish hate crime in a place like Nottinghamshire (and other places that are enacting these types of laws)?
When she doesn’t want it.
I know, seems ridiculous, right? Are you supposed to become some kind of mind reader?
After all, she won’t always tell you when she doesn’t want it — as Glenn has written about time and time again, women aren’t logical.
That’s why it’s so important to be able to read her subtle signals to know if she’s secretly screaming “Go away!” or “Take me now!”
And there are 4 easy ways to do this:
4 Easy Ways to Tell if the Woman You’re Flirting With Wants You Back
1) Listen to What She’s REALLY Saying
Learning to decode a woman’s words is extremely important. And as a woman, I know — we don’t always make it easy!
Women often say one thing and mean another, which can be confusing (not to mention frustrating as hell).
For instance, a woman might compliment you out of politeness, rather than general interest.
How much she’s talking also says a lot about how much she’s into you. If a woman is talking a lot, for example, then she’s interested in you.
So when she is talking, be sure to listen to her. You might learn something that will help you get to that next level.
For instance, if she mentions her dog, she’s telling you about something important to her. So if you mention you also love dogs, she’ll feel even more connected to you!
Women love when you can relate to them.
Women also like to hint at things, rather than directly state them.
So if she asks you what your plans are for the rest of the night, what she’s really asking is if she’ll be involved in them.
And if you want to take her home, you don’t want to blow your shot by missing this huge hint. Speaking of blowing your shot…
2) Look for Red Flags
Of course, not every woman you approach is going to be totally into you.
It’s important to pick up on these key red flags that tell you she isn’t interested so you’ll avoid awkward interactions (and in the case of Nottinghamshire, jail time!).
Here are a few primary red flags that she has no interest in talking to you:
- She avoids eye contact or frequently looks away from you…
- She leans away from you…
- She’s glued to her phone…
- She seems tense or her arms are folded…
- She isn’t talking much or gives short answers…
If a woman won’t look you in the eye and seems to physically pull away from you, she likely isn’t in the mood to be hit on.
Don’t be offended…she might just be having a bad day. But don’t continue trying to flirt with her, either.
Of course, it’s easy to move on if a woman tells you she isn’t interested, but women aren’t always that direct.
She might be so nice to you…
Even if she wants you to go away.
But looking for these key signs won’t just help you avoid being rejected — it will also help you avoid wasting your time on a woman who isn’t interested.
Not only will you avoid a tense situation, but you’ll also be able to move on to women who do want to talk to you.
And when she does want to talk to you, here’s what to look for…
3) Learn to Read Her Body Language
You might like to vocalize everything you’re thinking…
But women sure as hell don’t.
And because of that, it’s important to look at her body language to understand how she really feels about you.
Here are just a few body language signs she’s into you:
- She makes a lot of eye contact…
- She leans in closer to you…
- She brushes her leg or hand against you…
- She smiles a lot…
In general, when a woman is into you, she’ll make long, extended eye contact with you.
She’ll also lean in closer to you when talking, not only to hear you, but also to return your flirtation and show she’s interested.
And if a woman scoots over next to you, brushing her leg or arm against you, it’s always a good sign.
And of course, if she’s smiling, then you know you’re doing something right.
Which brings me to the final step…
4) Respond to Her Advances!
You’ve been listening, you can’t spot any red flags and she’s got good body language…
So what can you do next to turn her interest into her sexual desire for you?
Here’s a hint: It has nothing to do with what you say (and in fact, what you say to her at this point doesn’t even matter)…
That’s because women are up to 10x more sensitive to touch than you are!
So if she’s showing you she’s interested with her body language, you need to touch her in these proven, subtle ways if you want to make her feel something for you:
If she’s leaning into you, for example, try brushing your arm against her arm or her thigh.
And if she brushes her leg against yours, move your leg against hers so they remain touching….
Before you know it, she’ll be thinking about going home with you without you ever mentioning it (and she’ll never know it was your idea in the first place).
But that’s just the tip of the iceberg…
To learn more about the insane power your touch can have over women, just check this out:
Shy or Introverted? Science Says Try Talking Less and Touching More…
