Get Married At Your Own Peril…
I have a good number of girlfriends in their 30’s and early 40’s. Some are already married. Others desperately want to find a “good man” and get married.
And of this group who desire to get married, there are only a couple who I feel are truly qualified to be married.
The others are in love with the idea of getting married, but have not given any hard thought to the implications & considerations of actually being married.
They want the wedding, the wedding dress, honeymoon, and then to settle in a lovely, welcoming home with this “good man,” who will always be employed & have money, always be healthy, and will always be just as exciting as the first day she meets him.
I hear these ladies talk, and if you listen to their wording, it’s all about getting married.
Only a couple of them will actually talk about being married, and grasp the fact that with the good always comes some bad, and things won’t always be roses & sunshine.
Unfortunately, many men miss this red flag…
If a man wants to get married, he’s very excited to find a woman who also wants to get married.
He’ll ask, “Do you want to get married some day?” Or, “Do you see yourself married with children one day?”
And as soon as she says, “Yes,” he’s thrilled and assumes he very possibly has found the one.
But if a man desires long-term commitment or marriage, he better figure out if she is more in love with the idea of getting married or the true reality of being married.
Because the true reality of being married is that things will change. This will pretty much mean her entire life will change. Very possibly:
She’ll lose some friends or be distanced from those friends…
She may have to move with her husband at some point or another…
She’ll be taking on his family and might not have as much time for her own…
She won’t be able to go out and party as often (or, at least, she probably shouldn’t)…
The sex won’t always be great…
The physical attraction will fade (for both parties)…
There will be multiple struggles…
There will be misunderstandings & arguments…
And sometimes the marriage will seem more like stinky socks & burning hell than it will roses & sunshine.
That is just the reality.
Go in with your eyes open…
So, if you’re a man who desires to get married, or remarried, or you’re looking for a woman to have long-term commitment with, make sure you figure out if she’s in touch with the reality of being married, or if she’s just in love with the fantasy of getting married.
In addition, as narcissism is on the rise, many younger women (20’s-30’s) who have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), or at least traits of narcissism, tend to be enthralled with the idea of getting married, being envied by their friends, being the center of attention and showered with gifts, and so forth…
But, again, they have not given any thought to the reality of what happens after the “big day” is over.
So, test her reality factor. Listen to her wording. Is it all about getting, or is it the practical reality of being?
Here’s What To Do Next…
One of the best ways to make sure that any marriage you enter into will last is to make sure that the woman is really into you in the first place. That can mean taking care of all (and I do mean all) of her needs.
If her physical needs aren’t met, then there’s a good chance she’ll go somewhere else to get them met without telling you.
Don’t believe me? Craig did some interesting research on women going to get “happy ending” massages because their partners couldn’t satisfy them physically.
The results are pretty surprising.
So here’s what to do next: click here now to get access to this shocking free report.
Once you know how to keep her happy, you’ll be well on your way to ensuring that she’s hooked on you, and not just the “idea” of getting married.
