Discover Why You Should Have Sex on the First Date & How to Always Make It Happen…
How many of us have heard the rule “no sex until the third date”?
How many of us think that rule is bogus?
This is a common rule in society I have heard my entire life. I first encountered it in movies and books.
The protagonist’s friends always told her she had to hold out until the third date…
“Make him wait.”
Of course, in these movies the guy would try his hardest to get her into bed sooner, but also trying not to be the typical pushy stereotype.
When the couple finally gets to the sex scene, it is all hearts and fireworks… and both of them are probably wondering what good the three-date waiting did.
Where Did the Premise of Waiting 3 Dates Come From & Why Is It Still A Thing?
Obviously if I’m not feeling it, or he’s not feeling it, I won’t do anything.
But, just to wait until the third date because that is what I’ve been told my whole life from Hollywood? Weird.
I’m not saying that waiting is bad. In fact, I practice “waiting” as a personal rule.
However, what would happen if you did not wait?
If you’re not waiting for marriage and you’re already planning on having sex somewhat early, why wait?
If you both are into it and comfortable, why would you let societal norms pressure you into anything?
If you are one of the guys that follow the societal standard of third dates, you may want to speed up the process.
I have some ideas that might make you want to get down and dirty a little earlier on.
The Study That Proved Couples Who Sleep Together Earlier Last Longer…
Israeli psychologists at the University of Rochester Department of Clinical and Social Sciences conducted a study recently.
Their findings suggest that sex sooner in your relationship can create a stronger bond.
So, this means that sex early in the relationship can help foster faster emotional connections (and obviously physical connections).
The study found that in both men and women, sex forces couples (even strangers) to connect.
In four studies conducted, the researchers paired up strangers. They found that anonymous attraction triggered behaviors that are known to promote emotional bonds.
They wanted to find out if the anonymous attraction was linked to non-verbal cues called “immediacy behaviors.”
Each participant was asked to lip-sync with an attractive “plant” participant (a researcher in on the study, but the participants thought they were also a participant).
After, they were asked to rate their attraction.
Researchers found that the hornier the participants were, the greater their immediacy behaviors synchronized with the “plant.”
It Makes Sense in Real Life Too…
After all of their studies, the scientists found that triggering the sexual system resulted in behaviors of suggested caring of a partner’s well-being.
They say this is an established signal for if someone is interested in a relationship.
Think about it. You don’t get naked for just anyone.
Unless you are at the gym every day and proudly display your washboard abs, there is probably a part of your body you are not that confident about.
We all try to hide it for as long as we can–especially in the beginning.
We suck in our stomachs, stay flexed at all times, wear socks (if you have a foot thing, idk), and every other crazy thing we do.
All of this in order to delay the inevitable:
Them finally getting a good look at what we have been trying to hide. Once they finally see it, that becomes a deciding factor in the relationship.
Most times, they are completely fine with it and it just makes the relationship so much more comfortable and easy.
One Final Surprising Benefit of Having Sex on the First Date…
Imagine getting that out of the way a day into the relationship rather than a few months.
Could you imagine how much easier and relaxed the first months of getting to know someone would be if you already showed each other what you are both most insecure about?
Sex sooner in the relationship forces you to connect, and it often can keep a woman interested in you for much longer than if you were to sleep together later.
But what about the logistics?
How do you go about transitioning from the end of your first date, into bed with her?
That’s what I’ll show you next:
This “Secret Ingredient” Gets You Laid on Every First Date You Go On…
… there are many times when a woman will make an excuse to leave, or end a first date early… without so much as a freaking handshake.
And in my experience, this happens for ONE big reason:
Yeah it might sound kinda simple, but think about it… as a woman, if I’m going to sleep with you on the first date, I need to know that you want me first.
And unless there’s SOME touching, and some kind of physical connection… I’ll probably just assume you aren’t *that* into me.
But if you DO touch me… it shows me you know what you want. You’re confident. And it makes me want to have sex with you even more. 😉
All my hot girlfriends & I agree… on a first date, a little touch goes a LONG way, and can really turn us on when you do it in the right way, at the right time.
And when I say little, I mean little.
You don’t want to do it in an obvious or “groping” manner.
You wanna do it in a subtle way that turns her on… and gets her more and more excited to sleep with you…
… so when she wakes up in your bed the next morning, she’ll think it was HER idea: