For Men Who Want an Easy Way to Meet Hot Women on Facebook–Will This Simple Strategy Get Her to “Like” You?
So, you’re an older guy in the dating scene. If you’ve read my latest installment and followed my advice, then you’ve started meeting some people…
Made some friends…
And you’ve even developed a bit of an online social circle.
Now what?
Now it’s time to get to work — your next step is to leverage your social circle to get a rotation of women to sleep with. And to do that, you have to use social media.
So today, I’m going to show you exactly how it’s done.
Why Facebook? Is It Really This Easy?
I can’t emphasize enough how important a strong social media game is in this age of dating.
Here’s the truth:
If you’re single and you want to increase your potential dating pool, you’ve got to be willing to put yourself out there.
Send friend requests…
Post and like others’ posts…
Be engaging…
And most importantly, be willing to meet up in person.
One of the keys to maximizing your sexual potential on Facebook is to not limit yourself to current or new friends.
What exactly do I mean by this?
Look back to your past:
- High school…
- College…
- Childhood friends…
- Or even friends of exes…
And reach out! You never know if the ghosts of your past are secretly wishing you’d reach out to them too.
For example, I became Facebook friends with “Barbie” (not her real name) shortly after my divorce.
Barbie is a friend (still) of my ex-wife.
Although she’s my ex’s friend, I’ve now known Barbie for of 20 years. After liking each other’s posts for a long time, we started messaging on Facebook. And after 6 months of messaging, we had a drink and went home to her place.
This went on for a couple months until she wanted to get more serious. I declined because a) that’s not what I was looking for, and b) I get along with my ex and don’t want to make it weird. So Barbie and I are still friends (occasionally with benefits), and I am still single. Win-win, right?
So Barbie and I are still friends (occasionally with benefits), and I am still single. Win-win, right?
The Sexual “Snowball” Effect That Helps You Get a Solid Rotation Of Women…
The trick to side-stepping a relationship and remaining friends is to be upfront from the get-go. Be gently firm, stand your ground, and don’t lie.
Every acquaintance…
Every person you meet…
And every number you get…
All present an opportunity to expand your social circle. You have to be aware of this and also extremely careful not to burn bridges — especially with dating apps.
Remember, even if nothing comes of it, the women you meet on Tinder or Bumble liked you for a reason. Why not keep that going?
In fact, your existing social circle can also help you on dating apps.
How?
Because if you know some of the same people, it lends you some pre-existing credibility. This is what I call the sexual “snowball” effect.
My best personal example of leveraging a social circle for dates and friends with minimal collateral damage started with Little League Baseball. (None of the names used in this example are real either — I don’t want to burn any of my bridges!)
Joanie was the mom of a teammate on my son’s baseball team.
She was (is) divorced and became friends with my then-wife and also worked at my kids’ elementary school. We had some things in common, and a few years after my divorce — after flirting on Facebook, Twitter, and over text — we hooked up.
It stayed pretty casual — a very much FWB (friends with benefits) situation from my perspective.
Then I tried Tinder for the first time. One of my first matches on Tinder, Sadie, was a neighbor of and friends with Joanie.
It Doesn’t End There…
Due to the mutual friendship, Sadie figured out who I was on Facebook and we started messaging that way.
Though we never dated or slept together, we became and stayed friends.
Then came Britt.
Britt noticed my posts and banter on Sadie’s Facebook page and started following me on both Facebook and Instagram.
After her marriage underwent some difficulties, she reached out to me over Instagram, wondering if I’d be interested in hanging out with her. I was, and we still “see” each other pretty regularly.
When I connected with Sharon on Bumble, it turned out that she was mutual friends with both Britt and Sadie.
This gave us some common ground to start a conversation, and we went hot and heavy for a couple months. I even thought I was ready to settle down for a minute, but she wasn’t — and good for her!
So I got to continue having fun with my solid rotation of friends with benefits. And I loved every minute of it.
And Don’t Forget About Bumble!
You may have noticed I’ve mentioned Facebook, Instagram, Tinder, and Bumble so far. However, a lot of guys aren’t super familiar with Bumble — it’s a dating app like Tinder, except the girl has to message you first before you can get the conversation going.
While I was seeing Sharon, I connected with Heather over Bumble. As it turns out, Heather’s cousin took her to this regular Tuesday haunt that is a regular hangout for Sadie. So, paths crossed again!
Heather and I slept together on and off for a few months.
Her marriage was a dangling issue for her and she was looking for more of a relationship than I was (with her, anyway), so we cooled it off.
But while visiting this piano bar with Heather and hanging out with Sadie, I met Nina, who I recognized from another popular spot in town that had recently closed and where we’d spoken on several occasions.
So, Nina and I started seeing a little bit of each other, too.
Here’s the beauty of this whole situation:
I am still friends with everyone but Joanie, who wanted a little more from me and who (righteously so) had some guilt pangs about being friends with my ex, as well.
Any of these women will say nice things about me to others, and a good percentage will still hook up with me.
The takeaway from all this?
If you hope to grow your social circle and leverage for dates — or even the occasional hookup — be honest and kind.
Don’t burn your bridges by lying; it’s counterproductive.
Now, that doesn’t mean you should waste your time in crappy situations. Too clingy, demanding or possessive? Run screaming for the hills.
But if you’ve got a decent relationship with someone, even if the relationship, itself, changes, maintain a level of friendship. The dividends can be many down the line.
And hey — at the end of the day, the easiest way to make sure you’re using your social circle to your full advantage is to follow a few simple guidelines when you meet a woman you think you’d like to sleep with (whether it’s online or in person).
These guidelines, or “commandments,” as I like to call them, are pretty simple… but when used properly, they can be your ultimate secret weapon:
The 10 Commandments of Getting Girls (& How it Changed My Life)
I won’t deny that having mutual friends definitely helped me meet & connect with women on Facebook…
However…
I NEVER (& I do mean never) would have been able to get a rotation of 3-5 f**kbuddies without this:
The 10 Commandments of Getting Girls.
My buddy showed it to me after my divorce… because I was f’in clueless, and had no idea what younger women (or even women my age for that matter) wanted in a man.
Even worse, I was a total Facebook “newbie”… so I needed all the help I could get.
They’re not really “commandments”… more like general “guidelines” I guess… things like:
The best way to start a conversation with a beautiful woman (online or in person)…
A fairly solid method to get girls to ask YOU out (works 60-70% of the time)…
And my personal favorite… the fastest way to get a woman into your bed. 🙂
You can check out all 10 here–man, if you’re anything like me, you’re gonna love this:
Discover the 10 Commandments of Getting Girls (Total Game-Changer)…
