How to Approach a Girl Even If You’re Terrified of It
Have you ever stopped to think about why you’re not having luck with women?
Have you really spent some time in deep contemplation as to the exact reasons you’re not swimming in a sea of wonderful and sexy ladies who are dying to spend time with you?
If you’re like most men the answer is “no.” Maybe you’ve given it some token thought but the odds are that you’ve never truly spent any significant amount of time really figuring out the real reasons you’re not meeting women.
I spend most of my time coaching hundreds of men in this exact situation and the #1 reason 99% of men are not meeting more women is just that:
They’re not meeting women!
When a new coaching student comes to me it’s always the same old story. He tells me that he sees tons of beautiful women in his everyday life, but that he’s just too scared to walk up to them and introduce himself.
I get it. I was there myself years ago. The thought of walking up to a beautiful woman was the scariest thing in the world to me. Uggggghh… When I think back to that time in my life, I still get goose bumps!
If you think your fear of approaching women was bad, just multiply that fear by 100 and you’ll have an idea of what mine was like. There were times where I actually thought I was going to faint and pass out when I first started trying to figure out how to approach a girl.
So, I completely understand your pain! You’re not alone.
The Surprising Study That Puts Things Into Perspective…
A few years ago a major University did a survey of men between the ages of 18 and 35. The study was about fear. The researchers asked men what their biggest fears were and they asked these men to put their fears into an order of the scariest to the least scary.
Guess what they discovered?
They discovered something quite unexpected: the fear of approaching women was ranked the highest!
The fear of approaching women actually ranked higher in most men’s eyes than the fear of death, being homeless and losing a loved one! In essence, most men were more scared of walking up to a woman than dying!
I never expected these kinds of results. I was shocked, but at the same time, I could totally sympathize.
I had personal, first-hand experience. I was one of those men in the survey. I knew their pain.
But at the same time, I also knew how easy it is to overcome this fear.
How to Approach a Girl – The Secret Revealed!
Like I said in the beginning of this article, the #1 reason men aren’t meeting more women is exactly because of the fact that they aren’t meeting more women.
Get where this is going yet?
How are you going to meet more women if you won’t meet more women? You can’t!
And trying your luck on Tinder or Online dating services is a decent method of getting dates if you’re good-looking and have some great pictures…but it’s still a “cheap” method of getting dates. These produce average results at best!
Most men barely get 1 new date a month with online dating services, but yet they see on average 100 new women a month they are attracted to.
Trust me on this: Your odds are much better in real life than on dating apps!
I Conducted My Own Little Experiment to Prove It…
I personally experimented with this myself and my online dating skills are some of the best in the world. Absolutely guaranteed!
I decided to send out 50 emails to women and for every email I sent out, I would approach one woman in real life! That meant I was going to have to approach 50 women. I wanted to see which produced the best results.
Out of the 50 emails I sent out, I received 31 return messages and out of those 31 return messages I was able to get about 17 women out on dates.
Some women flaked, became unresponsive, logistics were bad, etc…
Out of those 17 dates, I managed to take home 9 women that same night.
Granted, some of the women were unattractive in real life, heavier than their pictures, had a horrible attitude, or just boring.
Even though I hooked up with 9 women, only 2 were worth seeing again. Most of the women were just not my type once we met in real life.
To me, it was an enormous effort for very little return.
Contrast Those Results With My Real Life Approaches…
Out of the 50 women I approached, I managed to get 39 phone numbers.
Most of the women were responsive when I texted them.
28 of them were ready and willing to meet for a date. Holy crap! I was in trouble… Who has time for 28 dates?
Out of those 28 women, I decided to only meet 15 who were the most responsive and who I felt like I had the best chemistry with. Needless to say, I hooked up with all 15 the same night!
The Verdict is Clear
The clear winner here was meeting women in real life. And like I said, my online game is amazing. If your online game isn’t as good as mine, chances are you’d be lucky to get 2 dates out of 50 emails sent and you’d still have no idea if she looks like her pictures or has a great attitude and actually likes you.
This isn’t to deter you from dating online, as I think it could be a great addition to meeting women in real life. The purpose is to show you the contrast in odds.
Nothing can take the place of meeting women in real life. As a man, there is no better feeling in the world than seeing a sexy woman and walking up to her and getting her to be attracted to you. It’s the ultimate super-power!
So, what’s been holding you back besides your fear?
Practice!
“But Glenn, what does practice have to do with meeting women in real life?”
Everything!
In life, we are always practicing something whether we realize it or not. We’re either practicing something that serves us for the better, or (without our knowledge) we’re practicing something that doesn’t.
Guess what you’ve been practicing your whole life?
You’ve Been Practicing “Not Approaching Women”!
(And I’ll bet you weren’t even aware of it).
As a matter of fact, you’re a professional at not approaching women. Every time you see a hot chick and don’t approach her, you’re practicing not approaching women!
When you listen to those evil voices in your head feeding you excuses for not walking up to her, you’re letting those voices dictate your entire reality.
When it comes to meeting women, you’ve been practicing all of the wrong things!
Practice makes perfect!
It’s time to only practice things that will benefit you, not the things that don’t serve you for the better!
Here are a few tips to get you on the right path:
1) Practice saying “hello” to one woman a day. You’ll be surprised at just how many women say “hello” back and stop to talk with you.
2) Practice asking women for directions and then try to have a small conversation with her. Again you’ll be surprised at how often this leads to a cool conversation and a date.
3) Practice walking up to one woman a week and giving her a compliment. Woman love to be noticed. Just make sure that you compliment her the right way. Need some help? Check out this article from David on how to compliment women the right way, and Craig’s famous guide on what you should and shouldn’t compliment her on.
Practice challenging all of those little voices in your head as to why you shouldn’t walk up to her or why she may not like you. Next time you hear a limiting belief go off in your head and I’ll use the example of, “What if she doesn’t like me?” say to yourself, “I’m not sure if she’ll like but I’m going to find out!”
As of today, make a promise to yourself to start practicing things that will only make your life better. You deserve it.
And If You Liked My Study…
This is just a small taste of the enormous study that Craig has put together that took millions of pieces of data from social networks, online dating sites, and other “big data” sources, and boiled them down into simple, actionable advice you can use to get more women.
So here’s what you should do next: click here now to get access to some of the absolute best information from this study, and start putting it to use getting more, more attractive women today.
