How To Ask a Woman for More Sex, More Often–Do You Know How Easy it Can Be?
So you want to have sex more often… but you aren’t quite sure how to have “the talk.”
Thousands of men fall into this situation. So just know that if you’re feeling frustrated and fed up due to a lack of sex, then you’re not alone.
However, because it’s such a sensitive topic, most people don’t really know how to approach it.
Do you just bring it up out of nowhere…? Or is it better to slowly transition into it mid-conversation…?
Or is it better not to talk about it at all, and just do something about it…?
We wanted to find answers to these questions–so that’s what I’m going to show you today.
Bustle recently published an interview with a sex expert who provided 3 top-notch tips to talk about a lack of sex in a relationship; I’ll show you what those are, how to use them, and most importantly, how to get back the sex life you truly deserve.
Beginning with tip #1:
1) Lead With Curiosity
The first approach you can use to talk to a woman about having more sex centers around one major idea:
Nobody is being “blamed” for the lack of sex.
Even if you secretly believe she’s somewhat responsible for your dry spell–sex is a sensitive subject. So it’s best to be as objective and fair with her as you possibly can.
(Plus, she may see the situation differently than you do, so you have to approach it from a neutral perspective.)
So how exactly do you do that?
Try something like this:
“I’m curious why we’re not having sex as often as we used to.”
This is better than leading it with, “Why don’t you feel like having sex anymore?” because when you lead with emotions, then the conversation can easily end with hurt feelings.
2) The “Active Listening” Technique
This next conversation starter is less about starting a conversation… and more about really listening to what the woman you’re with wants.
Here’s what I mean:
A lot of the time, when a man plans out a “serious” conversation with a woman, it’s easy for him to get caught up in what he’s going to say next.
So instead of truly listening to her, he spends 90% of the time she spends talking thinking about his next response.
The better technique is to listen to her, process the information, and then respond.
So when you lead the conversation with, “I’m curious why we’re not having more sex”… then really listen to what she says!
It’s perfectly fine if you tell her you “need a second” to think about it too. In fact, she might take you more seriously that way.
3) Plan It Out With Her
Finally, before you have this conversation, you should be prepared to make a plan with her.
Why?
Because a conversation is exactly that… a conversation. And if you just talk about why you’re not having sex–without actually doing anything–then you’re not really accomplishing much, right?
I won’t deny that a conversation can help get the ball rolling (no pun intended). However, if you really want to get your sex life back, then you’ll want to plan out some “next steps” together.
Is the problem schedule or timing-related? Then plan a way for you to spend more quality time together.
Or do you think it’s something physical? Then perhaps you should both pay a visit to a doctor and go from there.
Whatever the case, approach it from a “teamwork” perspective. After all, there are two of you in this relationship, so you both need to participate if you want things to get better.
But at the end of the day, I know this probably sounds like a lot of work.
So if you’d rather skip over the conversation… and try something a little easier to get her in a sexual mood… then I highly recommend you check this out:
Bonus: The “No Words Required” Trick to Turn Things Sexual (Perfect for Shy Guys)…
Now, what I’m about to show you isn’t exactly a “conversation starter”… however, it works just as well to help a woman open up to you sexually… and it requires ZERO words.
Because while a conversation can be a great tool to make a woman feel closer to you… words alone aren’t going to make her want to f**k your brains out.
That’s where this simple, subtle touch comes in.
It’s designed for guys who are on the shy or “introverted” side… and it also works great for guys who get nervous while talking to women…
…because when the touch is used properly… it doesn’t really matter what you say to her…the touch says it all.
What do I mean by this?
Basically, the skin-to-skin contact on this very specific area of her body sends a signal to her brain… and this signal starts to subconsciously tell her that she’s turned on.
(Note: The touch itself will not seem “sexual” to you or anyone watching… it only makes her feel that way inside. Check this out to see what I mean.)
So even though the touch only takes like 3 seconds to do… the signal in her brain will continue to grow stronger after you do it… so 5 or 10 minutes later… you can be pretty damn certain that she’s feeling horny… and wants a release. 😉
Quite often, this touch will cause a woman to make the first move… so if that’s what you’re looking for, then this guide will show you how to do it:
