The One Word You Should NEVER Say to a Woman (Instant Mood Killer!)

How to Be a Smooth Talker No Matter What the Situation — Will You Make Her Yours?

When I take on a new client, there are a few “layers” of coaching I bring him through.

There are different areas of growth — vocal tonality and body language, for example.

When it comes to conversations, in particular, these two things are especially stressed.

But what about the actual words you say to her? It seems downright impossible to prepare for a conversation that you haven’t had yet, doesn’t it?

(Especially with a new woman who you’ve never met before.)

Though I can’t tell you I know the secret to predict exactly what she’ll say to you… I do have one trick up my sleeve.

It’s not about what you should say to her — instead, it’s about what not to say.

Is it Possible to “Plan” a Future Conversation?

Talking is not as simple as filling your mouth with things to say.

We are all conversation generators, and preparing for your future conversations surely improves your ability to come up with things to say.

Making a list of what you love talking about increases the chance that the conversations you generate are interesting. (And it makes you look good, too.)

But you’ll also need to respond to the things she says.

And here’s the truth: You can’t predict what she’s going to say, word for word… but what you can do is plan for it.

With the right plan and preparation, you can not only have a great conversation with nearly any woman, but you can respond to any of her unexpected wild cards as well.

For example, let’s say her ex-boyfriend texts her when you’re trying to “Netflix and chill.”

Or maybe a good-looking man comes over to ask her something, and their conversation seems to be developing.

Either you sit there with your mouth shut and watch him talk his way into her head…

Or you take the position of social authority and guide things to a place that benefits you. Here’s a start:

how to be a smooth talker

How an Improv Class Taught Me Everything I Need to Know About Going With the Flow…

If you’ve never taken an improvisation class, I highly recommend it. It’s a great way to learn how to think on your feet, and it can help eliminate your nerves as well.

That’s how I like to think about the first conversation you have with a new woman — it’s sort of like a practice in improvisation.

Through coaching, I help my clients learn how to improvise conversation, so they know exactly what to say, and when to say it.

And with a few simple tricks — one in particular — you can learn how to improvise and master the art of conversation as well.

How do you do that?

The first lesson is one that sounds simple, but it’s fundamental to your success:

Never say no.

Be Positive (AKA Be a “Yes” Man)

The importance of this rule cannot be emphasized enough.

“No” is an inherently negative word. And in your first conversation with a new woman, it’s important to eliminate as much negativity as you possibly can.

That’s why it’s always best to say “Yes” — it helps the mood of your conversation remain as positive as possible.

Positivity is a feeling. It’s a state. And if you’re feeling positive, chances are she will too.

Positive is a strategy — a “big picture” kind of thing.

And when you say “No,” you kill that positivity. Here’s why:

Why You Should Almost NEVER Say No to Her During a Conversation

There is no faster way to help you get results, and start developing a good habit, than to remove the word NO from your social conversations.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t disagree with her. And it also doesn’t mean you should lie.

I never recommend dishonesty during a conversation — it’s simply not good for you.

When you lie, you use up too much time. You’ve got to keep all the fake facts in your head, not to mention be aware of anything that structurally weakens the lies.

“No” is not only about disagreement, though. No shuts down conversation.

When you’re talking to a woman, chances are she’ll mention something she’s interested in. And when you tell her “no,” it’s sort of like saying you don’t care about her interests.

And guess what? No woman is going home with a man who she thinks doesn’t care about her interests.

That’s Not All…

What does ‘No” do?

“No” cuts off a) The thing you said no to, and…

b) The positive vibe she was feeling with you.

Here’s an example:

Let’s say you and I are talking about careers that excite you.

I’m interested in this conversation and I join in. In one minute we’ve begun what can be a great conversation.

You: “Yeah, if I didn’t do what I do, I’d love to be an accountant.”

Me: “Yuck! I’d never want to be an accountant!”

And just like that, the conversation grinds to a halt.

What did I say “no” to there? You may have noticed that I didn’t actually say the word “no.”

But when I said words like “Yuck” and “never,” it’s clear that there’s some sort of disagreement and judgment going on:

  • Am I not impressed by pursuing a career as an accountant?…
  • Or maybe I’m just disinterested and don’t want to talk to you?…
  • Do I think you’re boring?…
  • Or do I think you’re lame?…

See the problem here?

Internally, you don’t know exactly what I’ve disagreed to — and that probably makes you uncomfortable, and might cause you to second guess everything you’re thinking.

The same can be said when you’re talking to a new woman.

The One Word You Should NEVER Say to a Woman (Instant Mood Killer!)

How to Easily Bypass the “Conversational Guesswork” With a New Woman

It really comes down to one thing:

Talk about topics you’re both interested in.

But you don’t have to guess what these are… or run into conversational “brick wall” after “brick wall” in search of “the perfect topic.”

That’s because we’ve done all of the work for you… and used data from a bunch of “big data” sources to predict exactly what she wants on a date… before she even wants it.

This easily creates that deep “connection” or “spark” so many girls talk about… and while it’ll seem totally natural to her…

In reality, it’s all backed by hard data and science.

We’ve put together 3 of the top insights into a “quick start” checklist for you right here:

3-Step “Big Data” Checklist to Build “Natural Attraction” When You Meet New Girls

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