How to Be Good in Bed Every Single Time–Are You Avoiding These 5 Deadly Sexual Mistakes?
Ever wonder what not to do in the bedroom? Look no further!
In a new survey of 5,000 people, the biggest bedroom turnoffs have finally been revealed.
Women know exactly what they don’t want when it comes to a sex partner, so if you want to rock her world in the bedroom, then read closely.
Here’s a quick quiz to determine just how good in bed you are — if you’re avoiding these 5 mistakes, then chances are she’ll invite you back, time and time again. 🙂
Ready to dive in?
Beginning with question number one:
1) Do You Make a Lot of Noise During Sex?
Recently when I went to a movie, I felt irritated the whole time by the guy in the row behind me. He chomped on his popcorn and slurped his coke.
And on the metro the other day, it sounded like someone was wheezing and kept clearing his throat.
Just like in life, weird noises during sex are annoying at best and potentially gross and a libido destroyer at worst.
Smacking your lips, high-pitched shrieks or any other sounds that could be interpreted as “weird” should probably be left at the door.
However, I will admit that not all grunting or howling is bad.
Us women love knowing that we are turning you on. For example, it is super sexy for you to moan in our ear.
But it’s also good to tone it down sometimes — loud noises are OK when you’re in the heat of the moment, but during foreplay or a more tender lovemaking session, quiet whispers and soft moans are best.
2) How Much Time Do You Spend On Foreplay?
For most women, foreplay is key to enjoying sex to the fullest.
In fact, it may take us upwards of 20 minutes to really start to feel the sexual tension rising.
So as you may have guessed, no foreplay and then a quick three to seven minutes of penetration is not going to do it for us.
Plus, if you don’t spend enough time on foreplay, you’re more likely to prematurely ejaculate.
Why?
Because when you initiate sex, you’re probably thinking about how good it’s going to feel (not about how you’re going to connect with the woman you’re with).
But if you spend a little more time on foreplay, then you’ll be much more likely to establish a physical connection with her, which will make it easier for you to stay “in the moment” with her during sex.
For example, my man likes to build the sexual tension throughout the day.
He sends me sexy messages and whispers what he is going to do to me when we are alone.
These mind games get me in the mood and turn me on throughout the day, so by the time foreplay is instigated, I can barely hold myself back. 😉
3) Do You Change Positions When She’s About to Have An Orgasm?
Another frustrating common occurrence happens when we women are starting to get really close to the “big O.”
I love when you’re doing your thing and hitting all the right spots…
But then if you change positions?
I lose the sexual momentum, and having an orgasm becomes a lot more difficult.
So when we say how good something feels, and that we are getting closer and closer and closer… the key is not to stop.
Keep doing exactly what you are doing.
To be completely honest, the reason that a lot of women love their sex toys so much is because they can control the speed and location to accommodate their needs.
So if we say, “right there”…
“Don’t stop”…
Or, “Yes, yes, keep going!”…
We mean it. Trust me. 🙂
4) Do You Ever Go “Half-Hard” During Sex?
Sometimes, guys can go “half-mast” during sex… and while it’s not always controllable, I’ve gotta say — it’s a pretty big turn-off.
In fact, I was once with a guy that I couldn’t even feel inside me. I seriously wasn’t sure that he was in there.
Sure, that wasn’t what ended our relationship… but it definitely didn’t help.
So if you’re guilty of not staying rock hard while you rock her world — it’s OK.
There’s a solution for that.
And in fact, it’s way easier than you might think:
5) Do You Stimulate Her Clit?
As you probably already know, there are thousands of nerve endings in the clit… and with juuuuust the right amount of pressure… this kind of stimulation can lead to a mindblowing orgasm. 😉
However, it’s easy to “miss the mark” with this kind of touch… because we’re so sensitive down there.
Pounding it… rubbing it with rough fingers… biting it… these can be really painful.
Your best bet is to let her guide you. But because a lot of women are shy about vocalizing their wants and needs… the next best thing is to watch an expert show you:
