How to Flirt With Girls & Turn Things Sexual–Do You Know How Easy It Is?
In my last article, I explained why you should feel safe around women, and how the “chase” can actually feel like a good thing.
Because remember — as men, problems are a good thing. They’re challenges that help us grow as people.
Of course, you don’t want to experience any burnout. Hurting and hurting is never a healthy thing, even for the strongest guy out there.
Instead, you want to face challenges knowing that you can overcome them.
But with women, how do you know when it’s going to be a “challenge” you can overcome?
That’s what I want to show you today.
I’m going to show you everything you need to know about the “ladder” of sexual escalation, & how to climb it with the next woman you want.
How Pursuing Women Is Like Playing a Video Game…
Attracting and pursuing a woman is sort of like playing a video game — you may lose a life on the first level, but eventually, with enough practice, you make it to level two.
Similarly, you may not finish the whole game in a week, but if you continue to work at it, you’ll keep moving forward.
When you play Mortal Kombat, for example, you don’t actually get kicked, punched and sliced in two. You know you’re safe at home on your couch (or wherever you are).
Or when you watch an action movie, you know that the explosions won’t singe your hair, and you know you don’t have to dodge the bullets — even if your heart rate goes up while it’s happening.
Ultimately, you know you’re safe.
When you walk into a bar and see the most beautiful woman you have ever seen — some combination between Megan Fox, Jessica Alba and Natalie Portman, for example — it’s exactly the same. You’re actually safe.
You may think that, when you walk up to her, she’s going to say, “Wow, that is the lamest pickup line I have ever heard.” Or something along those lines.
And I know — rejection can feel as painful as this. However, it’s not the reality of the situation.
In reality, no matter what she says to you, you are safe. You can keep going.
The #1 Reason You Should Never Be Afraid Of Rejection…
At the end of the day, a woman you decide to talk to is never going to pull out an electrified sword and slice your body in two. She’s not going to deliver a deathblow to your skull.
Rejection is something we all have to face — and even though it sucks, you can get comfort from knowing that every single guy has been through it.
I’ve heard stories of Brad Pitt getting rejected by women when he was living in the South — before he was famous.
In fact, here’s something I witnessed with a friend a while back. We were out to dinner, and afterward, we saw Matt Dillon outside. This was before he was a big name.
We watched him try to approach a woman who was walking by. However, she tightened up her shoulders, screwed up her face and quickened her speed.
Did getting rejected make Brad Pitt or Matt Dillon less objectively attractive? No.
Similarly, does getting rejected make you less attractive?
No! It only makes you less attractive if you react with shame and weakness, but even then — you’ll eventually recover.
The “Ladder” of Sexual Escalation (& How to Safely Climb to The Top)
This is where the “ladder” of sexual escalation comes in — it’s the easiest and safest way to get physical with a woman, fast.
First, just keep remembering that you are safe. When you walk into the room… when you open your mouth… and when you lean in for the kiss… you ARE safe.
And what happens does not define the rest of your night.
“But… it’s so hard!” You might be thinking…
And I get it. It certainly can feel hard. I hear you.
However, that feeling comes from your own perspective — not from what you’re actually doing.
If you played tennis aginst Serena Williams or chess against Gary Kasparov, for example, it probably wouldn’t feel like a lot of fun for you (or for them).
This is like pursuing women:
If you’re always pursuing women who are way out of reach, then getting rejected over and over won’t feel like fun, and it won’t feel safe.
That’s the next step in climbing the ladder of sexual escalation — to pursue women who are out of reach, yes, but only just out of reach.
It Doesn’t End There…
If you always try and talk to the hottest woman in the room when you go out, maybe take a step back and talk to different women first.
It sounds counterintuitive, but it works. Because if you can have a successful interaction with an “average” woman, then having a great interaction with a super hot woman becomes a lot easier — and a lot more fun.
This is the kind of challenge that you can overcome, and this is what helps you ultimately climb the ladder of sexual escalation.
But how do you know what level, or what “rung” of the ladder, you’re at?
The trick is to always work up to your point of failure — always be willing to go to a lower level until the challenge is motivating for you.
How Do You Know When It’s Time to Climb Further?
What makes interacting with women difficult for you? Think about that, and that’s how you’ll know where you’re at on the ladder of sexual escalation.
If you can’t get conversations to last at all, then back up, for example. Just work on getting conversations going in the first place.
And once you’re getting them to start consistently, work on getting those conversations to last two minutes.
That’s an easy thing to keep increasing — how long are you conversations lasting? 5 minutes? Great!
Then move up to a goal of 10 minutes.
Feel like you can keep a conversation going, no problem? Add touch to the mix.
It will be harder than you imagine, so start small — aim for touching her arm first.
Then move up to touching her elbow, while maintaining the same comfortable rapport.
Remember the ladder at all times — dividing the impossible distance into manageable chunks, you not only can climb to the top, but you can enjoy the climb, too. 🙂
Watch This Video to See the Ladder of Sexual Escalation In Action…
Like I mentioned above, following these steps will help you get physical with the woman you want… and fast.
Though if you’re short on time… or if you’re more of a visual learner… then you might be better off watching this video instead:
It features one of my mentors, Magic Leone, and his hot model “assistant,” showing you how to climb each “rung” of the sexual escalation ladder… and in a way that any guy can replicate, in nearly any situation with a girl.
For many of my students, this video is what made everything finally “click” into place… and a lot of the time, it’s made the difference between having a conversation that fizzles out after 2 minutes…
…and talking to a girl all night long… all the way up until she whispers those 6 little words in your ear:
“Wanna come back to my place?” (Hell yeah.)
You can check it out here–man, I think you’re really gonna like this:
Watch This Video to See the Ladder of Sexual Escalation In Action…
