How To Get a Woman Naked & In Bed Fast, Even If You Just Met–Follow These Simple Steps to Make It Happen…
It’s something that most guys have wanted at one point or another… and yet few guys have managed to accomplish:
The same day lay.
And these days, it seems harder than ever to pull it off too.
Even getting laid on the first date is a lot harder than it used to be… and that’s something I used to personally struggle with myself.
So today I want to share what I know, so you can get laid way faster too.
Hi, I’m David Dupree, and as part of my new series, I’m answering your most difficult, burning questions related to sex and dating.
And today, I want to show you the truth about getting a girl home at the end of the night–what works, what doesn’t, and how to seal the deal every single time.
Because honestly, if you follow the right steps… and get some practice under your belt…
… then it’s a LOT easier than you may realize.
So let’s get started!
Catch The Full Video Transcript Below…
Today I’m gonna help you get a girl to come back to your place after a date.
I know in my previous life, before I was a dating coach, it’s something I used to think about, used to have problems with. Now it’s no problem for me, and so this should help you a lot.
Once you know these seven steps, it’ll be really easy. So let’s get started.
1) No Big Commitments
First of all, you don’t start with a big commitment. In other words, dinner. Don’t make dates for dinner with women you don’t know.
What you’re going for is coffee or a drink. One of those two things. I’m gonna recommend coffee.
If a woman says, “I wanna get a drink,” fine.
You’re gonna go to a place that has coffee and alcohol, but you want her to be the one that says, “I would like a drink,” because it means she’s trying to shortcut it for you, she’s trying to make things easy.
If a girl says, for example, “I don’t really have a lot of time,” she doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to meet for coffee.
What she means is, “I don’t want to waste time not having sex.” And I’m serious.
Generally when a woman is not saying, “I can’t,” but she says, “I don’t have a lot of time,” she’s not trying to say, “I’m not that interested.” She’s trying to say, “Don’t make it long, I really would like to get laid.”
That doesn’t mean you go straight to her home. You still make the same date.
Anyhow, you’re gonna make the date for coffee or drinks.
2) Find A Venue With Entertainment (Less Work, Bigger Payoff)
I also recommend it in a place where there’s something else to watch, something else to look at.
For example, my favorite, my biggest recommendations, is not a coffee shop, unless it’s a coffee shop with live music. I don’t recommend a DJ, because you wanna talk the first part of the date.
You don’t want to bring her somewhere where you can’t talk at all. You want her to feel like this is a conversation, so she can ask you all the questions and find out all about you.
You’re not going to tell her about you, but that’s the plan she has, is to find out about you.
What a woman thinks is that compatibility comes from the things she knows about you. It’s not true, unfortunately, or else I would tell you, “Answer all her questions.”
Answering the questions doesn’t help, or it doesn’t matter if you answer everything with what she wants to know.
3) Look For Moments That Move Things Forward
In the conversation, what you’re looking for is moments that move forward.
For example, all of those moments are, when she is suggesting more.
For example, when she says, “I like you,” when she smiles, when she acts like she likes you, when you get the feeling that she likes you.
Those are the things to escalate on. That’s called “bookmarking,” when you escalate on something that is good for you.
Those moments … and I’m gonna give you some examples of key moments … when she touches you is the best you can have, but there’s gonna be moments like, she laughs … especially when she laughs like that, shows her teeth … when she throws her head back and laughs.
Another one is when she’s not laughing at all. Maybe she’s staring at you.
Certain types of women … it depends on the type of women, women are very different, depending on the type of women … will stare at you while you’re talking.
And they’ll play with their hair. But they’re just looking at you. Or they might look down. But they’re playing with their hair. That’s another sign.
What you’re looking for is moments … not general sense she likes you, but moments … where she did something like she likes you.
For example, she started laughing at something you said. Those are moments to escalate on, and what you do is, at that moment, “You’re funny,” for example. Or, “I like your sense of humor.”
Now, realize that she’s laughing at something you said. The truth is, you’re funny, you’re the one with a sense of humor, but you’re rewarding her for this, because what she’s doing is demonstrating, “I like you.”
She’s not demonstrating a sense of humor, and she’s not demonstrating that she’s funny. She’s saying, “I like you.”
So you say something and she laughs, “You’re funny. Are you hungry?” That’s the moment when you are suggesting the next thing that’s gonna happen.
You can also do this … let’s say you’re talking about something that you both seem to like. “Really?? Oh my God, I love jazz!” she says. “I see you as that type. We should catch a performance. We should see those guys in person. You know they’re playing this week.” Things like that.
Notice that you are not saying, “Let’s go see these guys.” Very different.
All you’re doing is tempting her. Teasing. Giving her some options.
What you want to do is see if she helps. If the signs that she likes you increase when you make a plan of something to do, or decrease. If they decrease, it’s too soon. She’s worried. Back up.
You don’t want to offer something that is gonna be rejected. But on the other hand, if you say, “You’re funny. Have you eaten?” and she says, “No, I’m starving,” you don’t say, “We can get something to eat.”
You move on to the next part of the conversation. You just keep moving the conversation forward, but now you have information.
You know, when you pull the opportunity of dinner, there’s a high chance she’ll bite.
4) Make Reservations Where They Know You
When I plan a date, I make reservations. I know where I wanna go.
I wanna go to a place where the people know me, where they treat me well, where I know the menu, where I know how this dinner’s gonna go.
I tend to make them for 8:00, because I know I can fill two hours with chitchat.
And even if we have to go early, we’ll go early at 6:00 or 6:30, but we’ll sit at the bar, and then we’ll decide then, “Let’s go for drinks. There’s a place I know,” and we’ll sit there, and before we’re eating at the bar, the place is busy, I know it’s gonna look really cool if I walk over there and get us a table.
So understand too, if you made reservations at 8:00, your best time to make plans for coffee is 6:45, 7:00. Somewhere between 6:30 and 7:00 you wanna make plans for coffee. That way you have a nice hour to fiddle around with.
You know you have seats there. You know it’s gonna be good and you’re gonna sit at a good … You know this is gonna work well.
So you’re chit-chatting, but you say, “You’re funny. I like the way you said that. I like your sense of humor. You have a really interesting mind. Are you hungry?”
So whatever she’s saying, you’re looking for opportunities to move toward dinner.
5) Do NOT Build Rapport (At First)
So you say, “There’s a place I know, I think you’d really love,” but you keep your conversation going.
“There’s a place I know, I think you’d really love. You said you went to Nepal?” Now you let her … you’re moving on the conversation.
Now, as I mention Nepal, let me tell you what the conversation looks like, in which you’re gonna be looking for these little things to pick out, things to reward.
What the conversation looks like is the opposite of everybody’s conversation. What every guy seems to want to do … and I’ve seen coaches that teach it, too … what every guy seems to want to do is find rapport.
Don’t look for rapport.
They also want to dig when they find rapport, they want to connect on something. Don’t connect on anything. Not now. Connect later.
What you want to do is, at the beginning of the conversation, spend your time moving around, wandering. This is the time for not knowing what you’re talking about.
What that looks like is, when she says something that hits, first of all, you wanna move the conversation at least seven times.
How to do that is, you actually plan, ahead of time, your seven topics.
That doesn’t mean you’re gonna bring them up. You just know them in your head.
You don’t even have to have them. You don’t even have to look for them. All you need to do is, in the morning, rehearse the seven things you like talking about, that other people can talk about, that you sound good talking about.
If you like talking about murder or scatology or car parts, most people are not gonna be conversational for that–those are not things to have on your list of seven.
Travel, however, that’s a thing that most people like talking about. Food, most people will like talking about.
So you have your list of things that you like talking about. Filter that down for things that other people will also like talking about, and then, if you can, find as many among them that you sound good when you talk about those things.
Here’s An Example…
For example, there are things I love talking about, that I really don’t sound that great talking about. Art is one, for example.
Maybe I sound interesting, I don’t know, but I don’t know much about art. I just like it. Whereas when I talk about psychology, or language, I don’t know that much about language, but when I talk about it, people look at me like, “Wow, I never thought of that.”
That means I’m good at talking about that specific thing.
So as you talk, you use a three-step sentence generator …
“Wow. I love the pictures here. They remind me of Rome.” Three steps. I love this thing that we can see, smell, taste, hear, or touch, and some excuse for it.
If you notice, and I just made a random example up, but if you notice, the excuse always involves you.
The pictures are physically here. “I love” … you don’t have a choice, it’s always gonna be a positive emotion … but to say, “It reminds me of Rome,” well I had to have been to Rome to say that.
I couldn’t say that if I’ve never been to Rome, it wouldn’t make any sense. I’m not making it up. These pictures remind me of Rome, I like the pictures in Rome, or I like some Roman artist. It has something to do with my life.
So what happens is, forcibly, some part of you gets in there, but it also takes you out of your head. It takes her out of her head. You chitchat, you’ll find things you connect on.
Here’s what most people do when they connect on something:
“Well, because you know, it’s not that easy when you’re taking care of a dog.”
“Oh, you have a dog? I have a dog, too.”
“Yeah, he’s a black chocolate lab. They’re so bad when they’re …”
“You have a black chocolate lab? I have a black chocolate lab!”
“My God, we’re so similar!” And so they wanna talk about this thing that we have in common.
Do not do that, please.
Instead, right there, hold that.
Put a little note … you have a little marker … black chocolate lab. You don’t have to think of it, you don’t have to try to remember it, you will remember.
What guys don’t seem to realize is, in real life … it’s not like taking a class, where you have to make notes … in real life, you’re sitting across from a person, you’ll remember that she has a black chocolate lab, and you will remember that you also have one.
But what you do have to do is don’t dig into that hole right now. Move on.
How do you do that? Just talk about anything except the black chocolate lab. “You have a black chocolate lab?” “Yeah.” “So do I. That means you must have a big apartment.”
Notice now I’m moving on to the place we live, our apartment. “You have a black chocolate lab? So do I. That means you probably didn’t grow up in New York.”
Even if she grew up in New York, even if you grew up in New York, that changes the topic to where we grew up, to growing up in New York, to something like that.
“You have a black chocolate lab? You probably didn’t go to graduate school outside of the state.” It doesn’t matter what you want to talk about, I can move from black chocolate lab to that thing.
“You have a black chocolate lab? That means you can’t possibly have a studio at home. You probably don’t paint.” It doesn’t matter, anything. Notice that it doesn’t matter.
“You know what that reminds me of? Spaceships.” They don’t actually have to connect. The point is, black chocolate lab makes me talk about something else.
Now we’re talking about this thing, and she may still wanna keep coming back to black chocolate lab.
I’m not saying, “Stop, lady. We don’t wanna talk about black chocolate labs!” You’re not gonna cut her off. You just keep moving to something else.
Why Would You Want to Waste This Connection?
But you’re thinking, “Why would I waste this connection?”
You’re not gonna waste it.
You’re just saving it. It does not come this early in the conversation. You do not talk about the things you guys have in common until you have been talking for at least 20 minutes.
For me, that does not happen until 45 minutes into the conversation, minimum.
Once you get to that part, the conversation starts getting really good. You’ve talked for 45 minutes. You’ve found a lot of things that you guys have in common.
Suddenly, it starts to fade. You can tell. She looks around, or you don’t know what to say. In the beginning, when you first start doing this, this will happen in five minutes because you’re just not used to talking to people.
But after you’ve been doing this for a while … like two weeks maybe, or 20 women … you’ll find that the conversation lasts half an hour, 45 minutes easy, without sticking on anything.
So now, 45 minutes in, you know, you’re looking around, you don’t know what to talk about.
But what you’ll find, if you’ve been using the three-step sentence generator, is that when you look around, instantly you’ll see something that you talked about earlier in the conversation, that reminded you of something, and that will bring back pieces of the conversation.
So you’ll look around, and you’ll see the pictures that reminded you of Rome, and you’ll say, “So, you went to Italy, too.”
Because one of those things will connect to something you guys had in common. And as soon as you bring up that thing, she will light up like a candle, because she felt nervous, too.
Things were going well, and things suddenly stopped. So as soon as you do that, “Yeah, so tell me about when you went to Italy,” she’ll go, “Oh my God, it was my favorite trip,” and she’ll light up, and she’ll start to speak.
Somewhere in the middle of that one or the second one you do, if you have more … if you only have one, you have not been talking to her long enough, or paying attention, listening.
But if you have seven or … you should have seven things or so. Three to seven things that you know you can talk about with her.
Once you’re there, you start talking about the first, maybe the second. Somewhere in the middle of that second one, you go, “You know what? Let’s get something to eat.”
What I guarantee you is, in the middle of … 45 minutes into a conversation with somebody she’s enjoying talking to … in the middle of talking about something she really enjoys talking about, that you guys have in common, she is never gonna say, “No, let’s not go to another place.” That will never happen.
So now you go to that place where you have reservations, sit down, and what’s the first thing you’re gonna talk about? That thing that she was in the middle of.
6) From Dinner To Dessert…
That means the conversation’s gonna go really well. She’s not gonna even notice that you’ve moved to another place.
That movement is gonna come so easy that when you say, “Let’s get dessert. There’s a place I know,” she’s already moved with you to one place, and that movement was so enjoyable for her, led to a great conversation …
Because I’m telling you, you’ve guaranteed a great conversation, because you know what to talk about:
Stuff that she likes.
Now… I used to think guaranteeing a great conversation is talking about what she likes, and it didn’t work.
That’s because you were not talking about what she likes in the middle of a great conversation.
You were trying to use what she likes to get a conversation. Not the same thing at all.
The wandering conversation you had for 45 minutes felt … this is a good conversation, ’cause we’re talking about different things … and then when you started bringing up things that she already likes, it felt like, “Wow, this conversation’s getting so much better!”
It’s increasing the joy. So when you go to the next place, it’s even better, ’cause now we’re talking about other things she likes talking about.
So when you reach near the end of that, even if you didn’t save any of the things to talk about …
The feeling she has is, “When we go to another place, the conversation even gets better. I connect so well with this person. We’ve talked about so many different things.”
You never want a conversation where you’ve talked about only one thing. That’s a thing you never ever want.
That is never a great conversation. There is no subject that is good enough to have that as your whole conversation.
So you reach the end of dinner, you guys have met at coffee, and the evening just went, just flowed on to dinner, with no plan at all. That’s the way it feels. It just happened.
That’s what a woman wants.
It just happened. So here you are near the end of dinner … maybe you’ve had dessert … in general, depending on the type of place you go, if you know a better place for dessert, choose it.
It might be drinks, depending on the type of person she is.
The best is if you’ve moved from coffee, to dinner, to dessert … closer to your place.
7) The Line That Gets Her Inside Your Apartment With Almost No Resistance…
So when you say, “I’ve just gotta show you this one place with an amazing view,” and it’s your apartment, when you get there, she goes, “Wait, is this your apartment?”
And you go, “Come inside.”
So you get upstairs … now, I ask you, what is the chance of her resisting movement three when she’s taken movement from coffee to dinner … with no hiccup, no loss in conversation, and only improvement in the night …?
Three movements. That should be all you need to do.
Notice it’s actually two movements, but three places. Coffee/dinner, dinner/dessert, dessert/home. By the time you get home, it’s a done deal.
And here’s the fastest way I know to get her in bed once she’s at your place:
Your Final Move: This Subtle 3-Touch Sequence Seals the Deal Every Time…
This is the final and most important step of the “4-Hour Lay”…
…and that’s because it turns hot girls on REALLY fast, and makes them eager to jump into bed with you.
These touches turn her on without making her feel like you’re “groping” her, or are just trying to get in her pants…
(Which is the biggest reason a girl will get up and leave without sleeping with you…)
And because they’re subtle… you can even use them before the date is over if you’d like to “speed up the process.” 😉
Now, I could sit here and write out each step of the sequence, word-for-word…
Though I’ve found it’s MUCH more effective when you see it in action first: