How To Get More Online Dates In 2018–Are You Using These Expert Tips & Tricks?
Social media & technology have completely changed the way we date.
From Facebook to LinkedIn…
From Instagram to Twitter…
We now have numerous platforms where we can communicate & connect with each other.
And of course, let’s not forget about popular dating apps like Tinder and Bumble.
Whether you’re into online dating or not, there’s no denying that it’s more popular now than ever.
Have you ever heard the phrase, “shoot your shot?”
In order to score a basket in basketball, you have to shoot your shot. And when it comes to online dating, if you aren’t using it… then you’re missing opportunities every single day.
This isn’t just my personal opinion–it’s a fact. You may remember our piece about NYC wingwoman extraordinaire, Erin Davis.
Erin wears many hats, including that of a dating coach, social concierge, and strategic introducer.
We were lucky enough to sit down and interview Erin about how to have the most online dating success in the current day and age… and she delivered, big time.
So today, we’re going to share her 3 best tips to give you the most online dating success next year.
Beginning with tip #1:
1) Mention Something Specific From Her Photos
Whether you’re really into online dating, or just exploring it for the first time, you probably are already aware of the importance of the first message you send a woman.
That first message says a lot about who you are–and it can also get a conversation going fast.
However, if you send the “wrong” first message, then you won’t get a response at all.
So what should you send a woman to stand out and get a response?
Erin has the perfect solution–just mention something specific from one of her photos online!
She says:
I have a picture online of me holding a bloody mary, so when I’m coaching guys I tell them to say something like, ‘Best bloody mary? J.G. Melon. You ever been?'”
That’s it.
Just take a look at her pictures, and comment on something specific (unrelated to her physical attributes or body).
If it’s in her pictures, then you can already guess that it’s an interest of hers. So by mentioning it, you’re showing her that you may share the same interests and have something to offer her.
Personally, I know that when I’m on a dating app and a guy starts the conversation with “Hey” or “What’s up?”… then there probably won’t be much of a conversation.
So use her profile photos to break the ice and jump into an interesting conversation with her.
Trust me–even asking her about her day is a copout. (Most women don’t feel comfortable telling strangers about their day because they either think their life is boring, or they don’t want strangers to know where they’re going.)
So take the time to mention something from her photos, and your odds of getting a response go way up.
That’s Erin’s first tip.
2) The “3 People Per App” Rule
While dating apps are great because they give you access to a large pool of women… they can also be overwhelming.
Because you have so many options, it’s easy to think, “I should take advantage of all of them!”
And in theory, this is a good idea. However… the reality is a little different.
Since you may be matching with so many women, you may end up talking to a lot of women online as well. So at any given time, you could be chatting with as many as 15 women. And they may each be chatting with another 15 guys too, and so on.
As a result, keeping up the conversation becomes really exhausting, and can prevent you from having meaningful conversations that lead to dates.
In the end, you may become frustrated… and that frustration can also prevent you from getting more real-life dates.
Erin knows this all too well, which is why she made this rule:
I tell people they’re only allowed to speak to three people on one app at a time.”
I know it may seem strange at first, but trust me–it’s worth a try.
By limiting yourself to three women per app, you accomplish a couple things.
First, you make sure to choose the three best women to talk to on the apps you use. This forces you to truly consider your options and weed out the women who probably weren’t a good match anyway.
Second, you can’t rely on small talk to carry your conversation and get you that first date. So because each conversation is more meaningful, it’s way more likely to end up in a real-life meetup.
3) Use Social Media to Your Best Advantage
Although Erin believes that meeting in person is the best way to make a meaningful connection, she also won’t deny the power of social media.
She says:
I do teach clients to treat internet dating as a supplement to complement what they’re already doing.”
She believes that social media and dating apps can be extremely helpful… if tbey accompany your real-life dating efforts.
Of course, your online dating life should never overshadow your presence outside of social media. Otherwise, you risk limiting how much face-to-face time you get with women–and as we all know, escalating with a woman sexually is easiest done in person.
As Erin says, “[Online dating] totally works if you know how to use it.”
And with these 3 top-notch tips, we couldn’t agree more. 🙂
But once you get dates online, how can you make sure they go as well as you want?
We’ve got just the trick for that:
3 Ways to Have More First Date Success In 2018…
Just like Erin has used her personal expertise & knowledge to discover ways for you to get more first dates online…
I’ve been doing my own research to discover ways to make sure those first dates turn into second dates… or more. 😉
We looked at women’s surveys… analyzed over a dozen sex studies… and we even got our hands on real-life conversations between men & women on dating apps… (don’t ask how lol)…
And we found the answers to a lot of questions… like:
- What kind of words & phrases get her out on a second date with you…?
- Should you always pay on the first date…?
- What kinds of jokes turn women on… and which ones turn them off?
Over time, we noticed that the men who know the answers to these questions tend to get a lot more second dates… and even the occasional first date hookup.
So if you’d like to see all the answers for yourself… here they are:
3 Proven Ways to Turn Your First Dates Into Second Ones (Or More)…
