How To Let Go & Allow Her to Come To You–Would You Try This Counterintuitive (Yet Highly Effective) Approach?
Often, I have to tell a guy to let go.
When you’re sending her texts and she’s not responding, for example.
Or when she’s telling you not to “say that”… or “talk like that”… or “text so much”… then it’s probably a good time to let go.
Another sign it’s time?
She gives you ultimatums. This includes things like, “If you’re not going to take me to a restaurant, then are we even dating?”
In that case, you have to be willing to “let go.”
But what exactly does letting go mean?
And in some cases, can letting go of a woman bring her back to you?
That’s what I want to talk to you today–I’ll show you what it means to let go, and how letting go of a woman got her to chase me (and how it can get a woman to chase you too).
Let’s dive in:
What Does it Mean to “Let Go” of A Woman?
First, I want to show you what “letting go” is so that you can actually do it.
Because if you don’t know what it means, then it’s unlikely that you can do it.
In many cases, I’ve realized that guys will talk a big, bad game… but when it comes down to it, they don’t want to lose the girl.
So they give me–or their buddies, or even themselves–a whole lot of talk about letting her go. But secretly, they are doing the opposite.
They don’t want to lose her!
Let me first explain what letting go does NOT mean.
Letting go is not the same as dumping a girl. In fact, I’d argue that you should dump that notion, because that’s the one that either makes you avoid this valuable tool or causes you to press the self-destruct button on a perfectly salvageable relationship.
Letting go also does not mean that you don’t care or no longer want her.
Many guys think that they’re “ready” to “get rid of her.” And that’s because they equate letting go with wanting to let go.
This is all wrong–instead, letting go means you are willing to accept her departure.
You’re willing to “let go.”
Not “throw away”… not “get rid of”… not “dump.” Simply let go.
This can be an extremely powerful way to hold on to a woman, win her over, or to get her to stop resisting you and your relationship.
How?
I’ll show you.
Why Is Letting Go So Powerful?
Letting go is one of the most powerful relationship plays for a man, because it is definitively masculine.
“Dumping” is actually more on the feminine side–“letting go,” on the other hand, is fully masculine because you are saying something extremely masculine:
“I’m OK with what happens”… or, “I like me and my life, regardless of where you end up.”
It’s also so powerful because you are NOT doing anything to control what’s around you (although it has a powerful control we’ll discuss in a minute)–you are simply accepting the reality.
Which reality?
The reality that you cannot decide what she does or if she is in a relationship with you.
Unless you are planning to kidnap someone, you can’t actually control what she does or how she feels–and what’s more, you don’t want to.
Believe me when I say that love from a woman who is free to decide what she wants to do feels way better than love that you are squeezing out of an unwilling victim.
On the other hand, when you help a woman to understand that you are not clingy or desperate (the ONLY alternative to letting go) but rather can–like a man–handle it if she says “no,” you make her feel safe in staying.
Letting go is real. Letting go is strong. Letting her go keeps her.
How Letting Go Made Her Chase Me…
So in the past, a woman–a woman I really liked–got mad at something I did, and said to me:
“Don’t ever talk to me again.”
So I didn’t.
And then I couldn’t understand why, one hour later… she started texting me questions and insults.
WTF? Did she want an answer?
Should I have defended myself?
It didn’t seem like she wanted me to talk to her–but clearly, she did.
It Doesn’t End There…
So what?
So, it’s important to realize that letting go can keep a woman interested in you.
However, you can’t use letting go as a tactic to “get her back,” per se.
What I mean is that when you decide to let her go, you must be truly willing to accept her departure.
When you are truly OK with what happens and what she does, then you won’t act angry or hurt.
But do you need to make a dramatic exit for this to happen?
Do you really need to cut all ties with her to get her to chase you back?
No–in fact, the solution is quite simple:
5 “Low-Effort” Texts to Make Her Chase You…
Like I said, you don’t need to dramatically “dump” a woman in person to get her to chase you.
I mean, it’s 2017! And most of how women communicate is done via text.
So yeah, you can show her that you’re “letting go” with a text message… but it has to be the right type of message.
Obviously, you don’t want it to seem too “try-hard”… or “emotional”… which is where these 5 texts come in.
They’re the perfect combination of wit & humor to instantly grab her attention… and make her think:
“Hmmm… I have to know more about this guy!”
Just click the one you want to know more about below:
1) If you want her to text you back in 30 seconds (or less)…
2) If she mentions something about herself…
