How To Pull a Woman's Hair for MAXIMUM Pleasure…
A good percentage of women (like with anything, not all women, but a good percentage), enjoy having their hair pulled during sex. (We’re also going to discuss what “pulling” actually means and how to do it without too much force.)
In fact, out of 400,000 OkCupid members surveyed, 62 percent of women admitted to enjoying rough sex and that hair pulling specifically turned them on.
It seems the reason behind this desire may be more physiological than psychological….
Pulling on a woman’s hair tugs on her hair follicles, which energizes (or “activates”) the nerve endings at the back of her neck. Hence, why having a scalp massage feels good.
In addition, the nerve centers for pain and tension and the nerve centers for pleasure are closely related, and especially in a woman’s brain, the response in a brain image for pain and pleasure (particularly when aroused or during orgasm) are closely connected.
The Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response (ASMR) in your brain: This exciting/ thrilling sensation in your brain can be activated by something as simple as whispering (for some), musical sounds, or even spanking…
Kind of like a tingling that happens and runs down your spine…
Certain individuals experience this sensation when receiving a massage, haircut, etc. This same response can be triggered by having your hair pulled as it stimulates the hair follicles.
Add this to her arousal, and it’s an exceptional, almost indescribable, feeling which is why some women can’t quite tell you why they like it… they just do.
Now let’s look at the psychological side…
This is much easier to understand, and what I've been talking about recently…
According to Carol Queen, Ph.D., “Society encourages a woman to see herself as an object of desire; being restrained, submissive, and spanked allows her to act that out”.
Women typically like to be dominated because, by the man asserting his power & leadership, she feels protected, secure, and desired.
(Some surveys have even found that many women desire rougher and more powerful sex, than the man they’re with. I have to assume this desire for roughness/ power is that it demonstrates the man’s physical strength to her. And, again, his ability to protect her.)
How To Pull Her Hair the “Right” Way…
When it comes to pulling her hair during sex- there is definitely a right way to do it and a wrong way to do it.
Let’s start with the wrong way:
You definitely don’t want to grab her hair at the ends and pull. This can be extremely painful and isn’t quite the level of aggression she is looking for in bed.
Now let’s move on with the right way:
What you really want to do is grab her hair at the base of her neck.
To see a great demonstration of this, check out this video with Playboy Radio's Jessica J right here:
What this does is stimulate the arousal responses at the very base of her neck. In other words it will make her feel AMAZING (toe-curling amazing haha 😉 )
Massaging the area before you start pulling can also add a boost to this arousal spot.
Important note: Not all women are into this. Some women have a phobia, or just a quirk, of not having their hair touched or played with. You want to make sure she is the type of woman who enjoys scalp massages, having her hair touched, etc., prior to attempting hair pulling.
The Biggest Mistake Most Men Make In The Bedroom
Unfortunately, many men are afraid to be assertive in the bedroom, or even a little rougher, because they’re afraid they’ll hurt the woman, or she is a delicate little flower who wants everything smooth, slow, and sweet.
While there are some women who do want it this way and only this way, the vast majority desire powerful, rougher, more aggressive (for lack of a better word) thrusting, movements, and actions.
I’ve read a number of comments from women who describe themselves as feminists with domineering qualities outside of the bedroom, but they admit that inside the bedroom they want the man to take charge, assert himself, lead, dominate and really “give it to her”… myself included 🙂
How To Take Her All the Way Over the Edge (& Get Her Hooked on You…)
Did you know that pulling a woman's hair can actually intensify her orgasms?
Like when you're taking her from behind… if you pull her hair like I showed you… the arch of her back makes it possible for you to hit her “Deep Spot” (mmm… my fav).
This “Deep Spot” orgasm is honestly the most intense orgasm I've ever experienced… I still fantasize about the guys who have been able to give me one…
Though now that I think about it… there wasn't really anything special about them. They weren't “huge” down there… (in fact, one was pretty tiny)… but they knew exactly how to hit it. 😉
This video will show you exactly how to do it… check it out, you'll love it (and so will she):