How to Text Women to Land a Date in 3 Messages or Less…
Getting a girl’s number is a huge accomplishment. It’s a sign she wants you to contact her — and that’s your next step.
But I’ve watched guy after guy successfully get a woman’s number only to completely ruin his chances in the first text he sends her.
And I don’t want that to happen to you.
In summer, there are more parties happening with more women (some of whom might be from out of town and looking for a one night stand)…
And that means more chances for you to get numbers — AKA more dates.
So here’s how to take those 10 digits and turn them into your next date — guaranteed.
What Your First Text Should Accomplish…
Basically, your goal with the first text you send should be to get her to agree to see you again.
Women like planning things in advance, so your best bet is to suggest something between four and six days from when you text her.
This provides her with a window to give you a time that works, and it doesn’t give her an opportunity to bail because it’s “too last minute.”
But before you ask her out, you have to reestablish the connection you made in person (and remind her why she gave you her number in the first place).
Rather than saying, “Hey, it’s Alex…remember, you met me yesterday and gave me your number? Sup?”…
…You can use clear, concise openers that make her feel tingly and excited without making you look like a total creep.
Here are the five most effective ones:
Send Her These 5 Openers to Make Her Squirm (in the Best Way Possible)
1) “Hey, it’s that really charming, irresistible guy from last night”
Send a woman this, and she’ll start grinning from ear to ear. She’ll immediately get a sense of your playful side, and she’ll associate you with the words “charming” and “irresistible.”
This accomplishes two things: It invites her to flirt back with you and it shows her you aren’t desperate for women.
Women hate men who look desperate, so by calling yourself “charming” and “irresistible” you’re showing her that you’re willing to risk looking like a fool (if she finds you neither charming nor irresistible) just to make her laugh.
When she flirts back, you could send her text number two…
2) “How’s your week looking? Let’s grab a drink”
This is a more direct approach, but it’s just as effective if text number one isn’t your style.
When you ask how her week is looking, rather than how her day is going, you’re implying that you want to make plans later in the week — not that same day.
Try making plans with a girl in the same day or that night, and you’re giving her an immediate out to say that this is too last minute for her.
And when you say “grab a drink,” you’re implying something casual.
She’ll be much more likely to say yes to a quick drink than she will to dinner plans — the lower the time commitment, the higher the chances are she’ll agree to it.
3) “Hey, how was that [insert something specific she mentioned when you met her]?”
This text doesn’t immediately suggest a date, but it does show her that you listened when you met her.
So if she mentioned a test…
Her cat’s annual vet visit…
Bring it up in your first text!
You can also use this text to remind her of how she felt when she met you — and that can help build your emotional connection with her.
(Remember, if she’s going to eventually go home with you, she has to feel an emotional connection.)
The more specific you get with what you mention, the higher the likelihood she’ll respond and continue the conversation.
When women go radio silent over text, it’s often because the messages they get are too generic. By sending a specific opener, you’re setting the tone for the rest of the conversation.
4) “You can stop worrying about me — I made it home safe last night”
Here’s another one that will get a lot of laughs.
“But won’t I come off as needy or clingy?”
I understand why it looks that way, but the truth is that you’re flipping the gender roles a bit — and that shows her you can make fun of yourself.
Again, this accomplishes two things: It shows her you’re not desperate and it invites her to flirt back in a playful way.
By framing yourself as a vulnerable person who might not make it home safely, you’re emasculating yourself — something women assume desperate men would never do.
And this is the kind of “emasculation” that will actually make her like you more — trust me.
5) “I heard you met a really awesome guy [insert time of day when you met, e.g. “last night”] — I’m OK, thanks”
Finally, this opener is a bit of a combination of opener numbers one and four. Here, you’re reminding her that you are the awesome guy she met and you’re making her laugh when you say “I’m OK, thanks.”
This woman has already met you, so she knows you’re a man who can take care of himself.
By sending her a joke like this, you again create a playful vibe that invites her to flirt back and will make her feel comfortable.
The “Magic Bullet” that will get her ACHING for your next text…
Of course, there is another trick that will not only get her to respond to your texts almost three times as much…
…but it’ll have her waiting for your next text on pins and needles…desperately hoping that the next notification on her phone is your text.
But you need to use it way before you send her a text or even get her number.
In fact, you should probably start using it from the moment you meet her.
It’s a simple, straightforward method to touch a girl in a way that lets her know that you’re interested…
…without anyone else having to know. There’s no risk of a huge blowup, embarrassment, or “nuclear rejection” at all.
When you combine it with these texts, it’s so easy to get her totally hooked on you that it’s like fishing with dynamite!
Just click here now to see why touch can be such a powerful amplifier to a woman’s emotions (and how you can use it to get her hooked on you as soon as tonight)…