Discover How to Last WAY Longer in Bed Naturally–No Prescriptions Or Crazy Pumps Necessary…
If you want to last longer in bed, then you’ve come to the right place.
I’ll tell you right now, I used to have a LOT of trouble lasting with girls in bed. In fact for a long time I couldn’t get it up at all.
However, thanks to a lot of research and troubleshooting, I was able to fix my problem…
And today I want to show you the exact tricks and techniques that worked for me, so you can use them to last longer too.
Hi, I’m Ruwando, and as part of my new series, I’m answering your most difficult, burning questions related to sex and virility.
And today, I want to show you the truth about lasting longer in bed–what works, what doesn’t, and how to easily last as long as you want without harming your health or your body in the long run.
Because honestly, if you follow the right steps… and get some practice under your belt…
… then it’s a LOT easier than you may realize.
So let’s get started!
Catch The Full Video Transcript Below…
Hey, Ruwando here, with Gotham Club, and in this video I’m going to share with you 5 easy techniques to developing raging bull stamina in the bedroom.
The first thing to understand is that if you’re coming when you don’t want to come, that’s too soon.
Whether it’s two minutes or 10 minutes or 20 minutes… if you’re coming by accident, that’s too soon.
One of the reasons why that ejaculation will happen is that you’re in your sympathetic nervous system.
Without going too deep into anatomy, when it comes to your autonomic nervous system, there’s the parasympathetic and the sympathetic.
The sympathetic is your fight or flight. It’s your stress response.
It’s when you’ve got to fight a bad guy or run away from a potential threat, and, as you can imagine, it’s not beneficial for sex.
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The other one is your parasympathetic system, which is the feed and breed.
It’s when we’re in digest mode–it’s also called rest and digest.
It’s when we’re chilling, when we’re having sex, when you’re enjoying yourself.
The thing is, most of the time, if you’re working a stressful job 40 hours a week, you’re going to be in sympathetic mode way more than your body is designed for.
Really, we’re only designed to be in that sympathetic mode a fraction, a minority of the time–when there’s a potential danger or we have to go hunt, all those things.
We’re supposed to be in parasympathetic most of the time, but for most people it’s flipped. Not going to go into a sociological study of that, but that’ll affect your bedroom performance greatly.
One thing to understand about it is that the parasympathetic is responsible for arousal, so when you’re feeling horny, that’s the parasympathetic.
The sympathetic, when it comes to sex though, is related to orgasm. So arousal and orgasm are actually part of two different nervous systems.
They say that sex is one of the places where both nervous systems are active, but we want to be in that parasympathetic more because that’s where the fun arousal piece is.
If you’re coming too soon, it might mean you’re living too much in the sympathetic nervous system, because you’re constantly stressed, you’re constantly worried.
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The other reason why you might be coming too soon, if that’s the case, is that you might have a stress response associated with sex itself.
I know when I was having erection issues that was the case, because I was in my head.
I was like, “Oh my god, is it going to happen again? Am I going to fail? Am I going to not be able to impress her?” I might have been chilled out, but as soon as clothes would come off, I’d have the stress response because I have this conditioning to sex.
It’d be like Pavlov’s dog. As soon as sex would happen, I’d be like, “Oh my god, I’m going to get nervous.”
We want to inhibit that, because if that’s the case, then every time you have sex you’re going to turn into sympathetic, and that’s going to cause you to come too soon.
I’m going to share a couple techniques in a moment, but I want you to have this frame of mind when you’re going into sexual situations.
Because a lot of guys will notice that if they can get past their first sexual stress when sex starts–it might be two minutes, it might be 10 minutes, I think 15 minutes max–if you can last up until that point, a lot of guys will say like, “Oh, once I get past that point, it’s kind of a switch where I can suddenly last forever.”
That in itself, if you ever experienced that, is the switch into parasympathetic.
I know for me it’s around like seven, eight minutes. If I can get past seven, eight minutes, I can pretty much last forever, because my nervous system has switched into parasympathetic mode. And now I’m no longer feeling that stress.
Once I get past that point, I can pretty much last forever and come whenever I want to come.
So we want to be in that frame of mind, because even if those first minutes are challenging, you’re like, “Oh my god, I’m going to come, I’m going to come, I’m going to come”… just get past that barrier, and once you switch into parasympathetic, it’ll be easy.
With that in mind, here are my 5 easiest tricks to get into that mindset and last a lot longer in bed naturally:
1) Feel Your Body (Plus What That REALLY Means)…
The first thing I’m going to tell you is that you have to learn how to feel your body.
It comes down to two simple things:
Learning how to breath, and learning how to notice gravity.
I mean, you can feel your body in many ways, but noticing the feeling of gravity, I think, is the easiest way to notice your body. Because as long you’re on earth, gravity is applying force on your body.
Even if you’re numbed out, you’re anxious, you’re in your head, you can take a deep breath.
You can feel your body by noticing gravity, noticing the pull on the bed or whatever you’re doing, noticing your butt in the chair.
You can do this right now.
And when you do this, you’ll notice everything chills.
I’m doing this right now, and I’m noticing my voice is changing because I’m actually grounding myself in this moment.
You can do this at any point. I’d say start now, and make sure you’re doing this in the bedroom.
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2) Notice Your Extremities
The next technique is kind of like this mind hack, I would say.
A lot of people use this when we’re talking about sexual energy or some abstract things. You don’t have to worry about that, but it’s noticing your extremities.
Notice your hands, notice your feet.
If you pay attention to your hands, you’re going to notice that you feel things in your hands.
I mean, some people would say that this means you move energy into your hands. I wouldn’t go that far necessarily, but that’s one way to put it.
It’s simply that if you notice your hands, you’ll notice all the sensations in the nerve endings in your hands, and it’ll force you to relax everything up until that point.
It’s kind of a trick. I tell guys, pay attention to your hands and feet, because if you do that, it’ll force you to relax your shoulders, relax your legs, relax your arms.
A lot of guys have these weird things, like they’ll clench their butt, or they’ll clench their legs, or they’ll clench their neck and they don’t even notice it.
It Doesn’t End There…
If you’re watching this on your phone right now, I’d actually tell you, right now, notice, is your neck clenched?
Are your shoulders clenched? A lot of people when they’re on their phone, when they’re watching something, their attention leaves their body and then they kind of like lock up.
They’re on their phone, they don’t realize they’re doing this weird thing.
So, if you notice your hands and feet, it kind of forces you to relax as opposed to trying to notice every part of your body.
This is a little hack I share with guys. Notice your extremities and suddenly everything in your body will open up and you’ll be able to feel more.
When you can feel more, it’s like your energetic container expands, so instead of clenching your body and having all of your sensation localized to your d*ck, by noticing your hands and feet, you can stretch out, feel more in your body, and you’ll be less likely to have a quick ejaculation.
So have sex, see if you can notice your hands and feet while you’re having sex.
If that is easy for you, if you’re able to do that, I’d say the fifth extremity is your head.
Notice your face, because a lot of guys will do this like scrunched up face and not realize they’re doing it.
If you’re crunched up in your face, that’s also going to cause you to clamp down on your feelings and make it hard for you to really feel your body and expand and stay in your body.
And it might actually cause you to ejaculate too soon because the ring muscles in your face are actually related to the ring muscles in your lower body. So if you’re clenching your body up here, you might be clenching down there.
3) Smile (Seriously)
And an added thing is if you can remember to smile at moments during sex, you’ll encourage your parasympathetic nervous system to be active.
Because it’s really hard to have a genuine smile and be in a sympathetic state.
A lot of public speaking coaches will say smile and you’ll suddenly not feel anxious anymore.
It’s hard to feel good and feel anxious at the same time, and this whole thing is about fighting or inhibiting that sympathetic nervous system response.
So, learn to smile.
It might seem goofy to do that in the bedroom, but throw it in sometimes.
She’s not going to stop having sex with you just because you’re happy. Don’t worry about being sexy, just worry about feeling because that’s what’s going to make the sex good.
No before I move on to my last two tricks, there is one thing I want to address:
When it comes to lasting a long time, there’s the worry that you’re going to lose your erection, and there’s the worry that you’re going to come too soon.
In regards to the latter, coming too soon, a very simple thing is that you can pause.
A lot of guys try to go all the way to the edge and they just come. I mean, if you’re going to do that, you’re going to be in trouble. Instead, you can stop and pause.
Now, some guys are worried that if they stop and pause while she’s into it, she’s going to lose it.
So one thing I want to offer you is that, not in all cases but in many cases, a woman’s arousal is kind of like a log.
It takes longer to light up, it takes longer to ignite, but it stays burning. Just because you stop thrusting doesn’t mean she’s going to suddenly lose it.
Whereas a man’s arousal is more like kindling. It can light up faster, but can also go down faster. It can also burn out faster.
4) Find Your Resonant Stroke
If you feel like you’re about to come too soon, stop. Pause, let your erection fade a little bit, and she’s not going to stop.
I mean, she might be like, “Give it to me, give it to me,” but you can tease her with that.
And I actually say instead of pausing and pulling out, for instance, you can pause and grind in her.
If you’re in her, you can grind and maintain that contact. That’ll feel almost as good for her.
It might even feel better to her because you can grind right up against her clitoris, maintain that pressure, maintain yourself inside of her, but it won’t be high stimulation to your d*ck that would cause you to come too soon.
So you can grind, you can stay inside her, you can press, you can pause. Let your erection go down a little bit. And then as you start going back again, it’s like you just added 10 minutes.
And if the opposite’s happening, if you’re feeling like you’re losing your erection, I’d say find the resonant stroke.
You may have heard me speak about the resonant stroke in other videos. The resonant stroke is simply the speed, the pressure, and the location that allows the most sensation to occur.
If you’re talking about penis and vagina intercourse, the location’s kind of set, but you can think about different angles.
You can think about different speeds and different pressures. Because a lot of guys will just go into porn-style sex and they don’t realize that that’s not what their body wants in the moment. So they’re actually numbing themselves out and they’re losing their erection.
They try to go faster and faster and faster, and that’s not what their body wants.
Imagine you were masturbating.
If you’re losing your erection, you wouldn’t necessarily go harder and harder. Maybe you would. But I think in a lot of cases, guys will numb themselves out by going too hard too fast, whereas maybe what they need to do is slow down.
Slow down, feel, go really slow. Really feel the vagina against your d*ck. Really feel that sensation, and that’ll allow your arousal to catch up to you.
It’s kind of like, basically like you’re slowing down for your energy to catch up.
The other added bonus to this is that usually when you do this, you’re actually doing what’s best for her as well, because a lot of women complain that guys go too fast.
And I’ll say if you’re going so fast or so hard when you’re stroking, you’re having sex thrusting a certain way that’s causing you to lose your erection, it’s probably not the best stroke for her either, so slow down.
Find what’s the resonant stroke and that’ll allow your erection to come back up.
And here’s my final trick that will give you raging bull stamina and allow you to last all night long:
5) Eat These 5 Foods
You’ve probably heard the saying “you are what you eat”…
And as it turns out, when it comes to lasting longer in bed this is partially true.
A recent study found that men who eat certain bloodflow-boosting foods not only last a lot longer in bed…
But the added bloodflow boost allows them to blow WAY bigger loads when they do eventually finish too.
(Hot girls love that s*it haha)
So even if you try nothing else on this list… if you REALLY want to last longer in bed, do yourself a favor and try these foods once.
This short, free video will show you what these foods are and how to prepare them: