How to Take Things to the Next Level the Way You Want–Will You Get Lucky Tonight?
You probably know at least one guy who seems to just get women.
Not only just how they think, or how to best interact with them socially…
But also but to also get with them. The guys that can seal the deal — no problem.
You may think back on some of the stories your friends have told you about their sexual adventures.
They may have mentioned things you would never have thought to do.
After hearing how this person operates, you may find yourself asking, “Why can’t I do what they do?”
It’s a fair question and one that you may actively be trying to answer.
Well, let me help you better understand how some men effectively interact with women with sexual intent.
It all begins with what I call the “sensory feedback loop.”
What Is the Sensory Feedback Loop, And Why Does It Matter?
The guy who just seems to “get” women has what I like to call “sexual intuition.”
It’s one of the most important things to master if you want to become better at getting the women you want.
I can’t stress this enough:
Learning how to understand the unspoken language of women is a very strong tool in making you better at attracting the woman (or women) you want.
Intuition, as we know it, is like this gift from birth that some people have. The sniper who can hit a target from a mile away, for example.
However, when it comes to sex, you should throw this idea out the window.
While some guys may have a sense of intuition about sports, or flying a fighter jet, every single guy can learn sexual intuition. Seriously.
If you’re reading this, then you’re well on your way. 🙂
I’ve created a tool to better understand this sexual intuition in the form of a technique that I call the “sensory feedback loop.”
How to Use the Sensory Feedback Loop to Get Physical With the Woman You Want
It’s a simple thing to grasp, believe me.
But before we dive into this technique and what makes it effective, it’s important to know that nothing works every time guaranteed.
At the end of the day, the problem with sexual techniques is that even if you do them well, there’s a chance it may not work.
By now, you may know that every woman is different and what works well with one lady may not fly with another.
There’s no technique that works in every situation.
These are the facts of life. That’s the way it is.
So today, I’m going to mainly focus on how sexual intuition is used in a sexual setting — but lesser forms of this technique can also be used to get women out of the bar and back to your place.
(We’ll talk about that too later on, but if you want to know more about how to escalate on a date, then try this cool little touch trick. It works nearly every time.)
With that in mind, let’s begin to consider what this technique has to offer.
The mastery of this sensory feedback loop is going to train you to be able to sense what to do…
When to do it…
And ultimately, to develop your confidence both in and out of the bedroom.
There are three steps:
1) Make Her Feel Good
To get a grasp on what feels good for her really begins with understanding a woman’s basic instinct.
It’s important to remember that women are built to feel each other’s emotions.
The word “intuition” can seem like a magical thing sometimes — some sort of real magic that certain people can wield — but it’s nothing more than a science most of the time.
About one-third of the human brain, the mammalian part to be exact, is meant to sync emotions. At first, it may be better to associate this concept with a contagious yawn.
The contagious yawn is something you may have long considered to be a man-made myth, but it’s actually a mirroring property in our brain.
When somebody yawns, your brain thinks about being sleepy. So as a result, you end up yawning.
It’s also why two people on a hot date will mirror one another, at least in some of their movements.
Keeping with the idea of working in a fluid fashion with each other on a date, potential romantic partners will do what the other does. This kind of mirroring gives off the unspoken sign that things are going well.
That means you’re meshing with one another.
(Note: There are a lot of non-verbal signals women give off when things are going really well, & she wants to go home with you. Here’s what they are.)
Keep this mirroring property in mind, as it’s primarily what you’ll be using to effectively utilize the sensory feedback loop.
Think about what makes you feel good. A physical touch, I mean.
It Doesn’t End There…
What kind of touch do you notice, and what kind of touch makes you feel good?
It doesn’t have to be another person touching you — you touching another person can make you feel good as well.
Touching a pretty girl’s leg may very well make you feel good, for example (especially if you touch her like this).
With your touch comes the sensation that you’re experiencing her. And hey — she feels that too.
This physical contact is a two-way street, but you’ve got to be the one to introduce it. For most women, it’s just the way it is.
Follow that feeling of what feels good for you, because this simple idea has a lot more to it than you think.
Regardless of how well you may know this woman, you’re never going to be able to really guess how she’ll react to certain physical signs unless you actually do them.
You won’t know the kind of day she’s had or what she’s thinking about, so you’ll just need to test the waters to really find out.
So let’s get practical with what we’re laying out here.
Say you’re looking to have sex with a woman who you’ve come to know pretty well.
You’ve gotten her back to your place…
Made her feel comfortable…
And now it’s time to introduce the idea of sex.
Hopefully, she’s thinking about it too. To find out, you just have to initiate with a touch.
To do so, you can start relatively small.
A hand on her leg, for example — something that’s comforting and securely placed.
This is your way of saying you’d like to escalate things, but you’re not immediately jumping to the point.
It’s not like the movies at all — very rarely can you sweep a woman off of her feet and just start “going at it” right away.
This is not that. This is slow and steady — and it’s also much more common.
Doing what feels good for you is the simple first step of the sensory feedback loop.
Of course, keep things small at first.
A hand thrust up her dress isn’t going to do any good for anybody, and it’s not going to get you to the finish line. That’s for sure.
You’ll need to be conscientious of what you think would feel good, but this is very much based on what the woman feels. Which is a great segue into the second step.
2) Assess Her Feedback
So here’s step two and the most important step in this whole process — assessing her feedback.
As doing what feels good to you is the first half of the loop, it’s then closed by working off of the physical feedback that you receive from your partner.
This means that you’re working with her positive signs, as well as the negative — never against either.
Say you put a hand on her back and she didn’t reel away from this touch. Then you know that that’s the green light that you can keep your hand there and maybe even begin to venture further.
(Not sure what her “green lights” are? Check this out to see more.)
But hold on for now.
Think about what’s happened:
You’ve been allowed to make contact with her because she’s reached a level of comfort with you that means you’re allowed to do so.
Keep in mind that the battle is not won, but you’ve already made great headway.
To every positive, there is a possible negative.
You need to be aware of it just as much — if not more than — you are of her positive signs.
If you had put your hand on her back and she reacted in a negative manner — maybe she tensed up or pulled back, for example — then you need to reassess.
You definitely don’t have to be a rocket scientist to know that if her initial reaction to your touch is to pull away, then she obviously didn’t enjoy the feeling of it. This means you should stop.
While this may be a bummer, it’s not the end of the world.
If this occurs while you’re implementing the sensory feedback loop, then there are a couple of things you could try.
She’s either not into it as a whole, or she’s not into it in that immediate time and fashion.
You may need to slow down, return to the place you know she’s comfortable with and re-adjust.
It’s really not a big deal in a lot of cases, even if she doesn’t want to go any further right then.
Your saving grace in situations where you can tell she’s uncomfortable is to react accordingly by pulling away.
From a woman’s perspective, there is nothing that’s more of a turn-on than a man who knows how to listen and knows how to hear her body.
This may sound familiar to some of you who have been keeping up with my articles and know about the keys of sexual dominance.
If you haven’t had the chance, go back and read up, because we once again find a way that it plays a pivotal part.
A lot of mastering the art of sexual escalation boils down to hearing her signals — not only what she’s saying, but what her body says for her.
If this is your first time getting sexual with this woman and she’s having reservations about it, to pick up on those signs will only retain the chances of you having sex with her. Even if it’s not that night.
And on top of that, to not hear these signs will be a guaranteed kiss of death.
That’s Not All…
In the same vein, you may have had sex with a certain woman 10 times, but on the eleventh possible time, she’s just not feeling it.
Be aware of what her body is saying based on the reaction to your touch, even if it’s familiar territory.
(A lot of getting physical with a woman is about reacting to what she does. Here’s how to know what to do & when.)
You wouldn’t want a good thing coming to a crashing halt just because you’ve been lulled into forgetting about the steps.
At the end of the day, it’s simple stuff — you’ve just gotta be on the lookout for it.
But also know that it could be a rejection. A sincere one.
Not everything is “Oh, she’s just bashful.”
Sometimes the most simple answer is the correct one, even if it’s a letdown for you.
So be it, as they say. Her loss.
But let’s focus on the good stuff — the signs that she’s digging you and the moves you’re making.
You’ve heard what she’s saying with her words and her body and you can tell this isn’t the end of the night.
So far, so good!
You’ve placed a hand on her back, or on her leg, and she enjoys the touch. What comes next?
What follows next is the last step, and since the metaphorical “loop” of the sensory feedback loop is already complete, the next step may be obvious to you.
3) Repeat (But Not How You Think)
Now, repeating doesn’t mean you’re going to lift your hand up and put it right back where it was.
No — I mean repeat in the sense that you’re going to use your hand to feel out past what you’ve already established as her comfort levels.
It’s time to begin to escalate things more physically by continuing to touch her and to move closer to her.
Use the point that you’ve already discovered as “base camp” as you begin to slowly introduce the idea of sex through your physical touching.
If at any point you feel resistance, stay where you are and play things safe for the time being.
Moving gradually is really important to making this work well.
Like I said earlier: Slow and steady.
Things will go well for different people at different rates.
The warning signs should be obvious, but also be aware if she’s just a little “shy.”
The green light is still there — you’ll know when it’s changing to yellow, or even red, but some resistance doesn’t necessarily mean that’s what’s happening.
Slow down or move to another place. It’s good to be creative, too.
If something didn’t work, approach her from another angle to see if the results are any different.
Assess and then repeat. It’s stupid simple, but it works like magic. It’s the sensory feedback loop.
So this process continues all the way until you’ve reached your goal: Sex.
Sex is a mutual affair, but you’re leading, at least in this case. You set out one small goal after another until you’ve reached the peak.
If that peak is penetration, then continue to climb until you reach it.
But always keep your eye out for when there may be no further to go.
How Else Can You Use the Sensory Feedback Loop?
The sensory feedback loop is also incredibly useful outside of immediate sexual situations.
The goal should eventually be that it’ll lead there, but the sensory feedback loop can be used to feel a woman out on the first time interacting with her in a public environment.
Imagine you’re in a bar or a restaurant — wherever you usually find yourself interacting with women.
Earlier, I talked a bit about how human beings mirror one another in their movements.
Well, whether this is a serious date or a girl that you’ve just approached at the bar, you should be able to use the sensory loop to begin to see whether or not this night may end back at your place.
Think “smaller” than what we’ve covered so far.
Instead of a sensual touch to her back that may send a pretty clear sign, go smaller.
A light touch on her arm is a great place to try this technique.
Say that you’ve said something that’s made her laugh, or she’s just told you something that needs a dedicated response.
Well, a light touch on her arm can convey that you’re not only enjoying the time you’re spending with her…
But that you’d like things to become physical at some point.
Other great examples are an arm over the shoulder — say as you travel from bar to bar, for example.
Handholding is more direct, but a playful hand hold that may happen during play-fighting or something of that nature would also be a good indicator.
With a lot of these, you’ll know it when you experience it because it’ll feel good. Remember step one.
What you’ve done through this touch is not only express what feels good to you, but also to express that you enjoy what she’s doing as well.
If she returns the touch, then things are indeed going well.
It may not be immediate, and it may not be the exact same place that you touched her, but her physical touch can be a great signal that she may like to move things in the same direction you had in mind.
The “repeat” step in the loop is also in place here, as you can then begin to introduce more intimate touching as a sign that you’re looking to head back to your place.
Of course, there’s going to be a point where your words are going to be what gets her from the place that you’re at back to your house. But the indicators she’s giving off with her physical signs may save you the embarrassment of getting rejected.
I think we can all agree that’d be a plus.
Now Put It all Together…
So, we’ve learned each of the steps of the sensory feedback loop and we’ve seen the range of its implementation.
Whether you’re at the bar interacting with a new face, or sitting on your couch next to the woman of your dreams, you can begin to understand her through your newfound sexual intuition.
Now comes the act of practice.
You’ll need to actually start using the sensory feedback loop to really become good at it.
You know who else has taken the time to do this?
Those guys that you think just “get” women.
This is that intuition — or at least a big part of it.
There aren’t guys with superpowers at understanding women — only guys who know the proper steps that they need to take to achieve what they want.
Learning these signs — these steps to sexually escalate the way you want — is what makes you look like you know something that the rest of the men don’t.
(For example, most guys have no idea that women are dying to act out this bizarre sexual fantasy — have you heard of it before?)
Women won’t always say it explicitly — the things that they desire or how they want you to behave. If only it were that simple, but it’s not.
But if you pay attention, they’ll give you the signs and the feedback that you can work from.
You’ll come to learn the “green light” signals, the “red light” signals, and hopefully, you’ll be seeing a lot more green than red.
Either way, learn to understand when to keep going and when to stop.
Do what feels good to you, assess for feedback, and repeat.
Soon you’ll find yourself reading situations like it’s a language. You may even have a friend ask you, “How’d you know what to do in that moment?”
Like when you’ve got her back at your place, and you’re “feeling it”… what should you do from there?
Here’s what’s been working for myself & my clients:
The #1 Sex Move She Loves (That Almost No Guy Knows About)
Once you’ve escalated to the point where you’re naked, in bed, and ready to take things to the next level…
To complete the “loop”… you should give her an amazing orgasm.
Not just any old orgasm though — one she’ll be talking to her girlfriends about for months afterward.
There are 3 kinds of these “Outstanding Orgasms”… and I have a video that’ll teach you exactly how to hit the right spots… get her moaning and panting…
And it’ll build into a mind-blowing, explosive release. 😉
You can see exactly how to do all 3 here: