If You Really Want to Make a Move, Use This Easy Tip…
One last time, let’s sum up what I’ve taught you so far.
There are five major “trusts” that give you the confidence to approach:
1) The Situation
2) The Other Person
3) The Words
4) Your State, or
5) Your Self.
And let’s start with our three ground rules:
1) Mirror and Connect (especially mirror any negative body language),
2) Consciously Choose an Identity (i.e. identity, scenario, language, etc.), and
3) Aim for High Status.
Now I’m going to write about the final, most important thing you can trust to make approaching come easily to you: Your Self.
You Are Your Biggest Obstacle
Picture the five key “trusts” I mentioned above as rungs on a ladder.
If the first four “trusts” are the bottom rungs, the final trust — Your Self — is the top rung.
It works like this: The Situation or The Other Person makes you feel that the approach should go comfortably.
At first, you may not feel comfortable approaching women “out of the blue,” and yet in some circumstances, speaking to a woman you don’t know is absolutely normal.
Think about anytime you buy something from a female cashier.
Does your heart race before you hand her your credit card?
I didn’t think so.
Eventually, you should recognize that situations change, not people.
In most cases, the person becomes a better thing to trust than the situation.
So when you find yourself having a good conversation with a woman you’re attracted to, your mood — that is, your State — changes accordingly.
When you’re in a good mental state, so many good things can happen…
The words just seem to come “out of thin air”…
The situation you’re in makes everything better…
And eventually, your brain begins to associate that positive State with the good things that happen.
You begin to seek out ways to get yourself into that same State.
I touched on this in my last article.
In my last article, my homework for you was to go out and talk to women so you can monitor your own State.
You see, most guys aren’t practiced in introspection.
They don’t know how to recognize their own State.
Even guys who can consistently get into a good State — the one that makes talking to women look effortless — don’t know what that State actually is.
They might know that a couple of drinks sometimes helps…
And maybe having their buddy Dave Dupree with them works 60% of the time or so…
But they don’t actually know what the ingredients of that State are.
“How Do I Use My State to Attract Beautiful Women?”
Your last homework assignment was designed to get that recipe for your State.
I asked you to do this so you can jump into that State whenever you need to.
Simply by observing how your behavior dictates your mood, you should be able to figure out tricks you can do to get yourself into your desired State.
Whether it’s by smiling…
Moving your arms…
Or relaxing your posture…
You know what makes you feel good.
And after you practice getting yourself into that State over and over, something happens.
Even if you use good situations, easy people or poetic words to get into that State, you naturally begin trusting something bigger than your own mood.
You begin to feel confident that you can get into that State when you need to.
You trust that you know what that State is, and you know how to get there.
You trust your Self.
The Shocking Truth About Trust
Trusting your Self can be terrifying.
Even for me, there are times when I don’t really feel like I can do “it” — whatever “it” is — but I know that once I walk into a place, I’ll be comfortable again and things will go smoothly.
This is how bootcamps and night sessions go.
You feel like, “Well, it’s just easy for David Dupree.”
In fact, my clients trust me as much as I trust them — and I need them to.
The truth is that, like them, I don’t feel like talking to anyone.
When I walk into a bar where lots of guys are hitting on a few girls, I’m not really in the mood to talk to women.
The most beautiful women are being pestered constantly…
…And the guys are going to watch me talking to women they want.
Ultimately, I have to trust myself.
I trust that once I walk in, I’ll smile and I’ll start talking…
And everything will get better and better.
I trust me.
I know that even though I’m not in the mood right now…
…That mood will come.
That’s where I want to take you.
How you’ll get there is by having that trust in your Self.
You need to have just enough trust in your Self to elevate your State, but not so much that you ignore any obvious signs women send your way.
Start with a good excuse — The Situation — that you explain — The Words — to the woman or women of your choice.
You are that guy she’s been looking for…
It’s up to you to believe it.
Here’s What to Do Next
It’s not always easy to trust yourself.
It requires confidence, and that’s something that takes a lot of work and time.
If you’re still struggling with finding the right words to say when you approach women, it’s OK.
I’ve been there…
…And I can help.
Did you know that it’s possible to successfully approach a woman without saying anything at all?
That’s right — by using a special form of touch, you can make her interested in you without worrying about what to say.
I’ll get straight to the point:
If you want to know how to approach a woman but feel cripplingly shy or introverted, you need to learn this special three-step formula.
Just click here to learn about the three steps to attracting a woman that don’t require any words at all!
You won’t believe how easy approaching a woman can be.
Just click here now to access the formula — if you can’t trust yourself, at least trust me.
