The “Nice Guy” Really Does Finish Last…
This is one of the more crushing blows to nice guys I’ve read lately.
Just in case you’re still clinging to the last shreds of the “women want a nice guy” myth, this final punch in the gut will make you want to jump ship and swim to Jerk Island.
There was recently a shocking finding at the Hartpury College in England about men and “narcissistic tendencies” (AKA bad boys).
Even though it is scientifically proven that self-centered people make bad relationship and marriage partners, most savvy and experienced women are unable to ever truly learn this is the case (even after repeated failure).
According to researcher V. Tamara Montrose…
“The narcissistic male does not make a good partner, but even experienced females do not realize this…”
Now just for some background, this was a study done on 146 different women, so it was pretty thorough.
And if you’ve been clinging to “nice guy” straws lately, this may be the final statement that pisses you off enough to say “f— it” and finally give up hope that there any good, smart women around who would love to date a nice guy.
Here’s where Montrose drops the bomb…
“To the researchers’ surprise, they found that women ‘wishing to get married were more attracted to the narcissistic male personality than those not desiring marriage.’ Specifically, marriage-minded females responded much more positively to such assertions as ‘I am drawn to a man who displays authority’ and ‘A man who uses manipulation to influence his success at work is attractive.’”
That’s right.
The MORE a woman wanted to get married, the POORER her decisions became.
And again, I’ll restate, the research found that a woman’s desire for narcissistic behavior did not change, even after repeated failure or bad experiences with these types of men.
So basically, they are saying that older or mature women are not making “better” decisions as they age, and that women almost never change their preference for “bad boys” throughout their entire life.
So What Is A Guy To Do?
Listen, if you’re a nice guy, I really would love to have hope for you, but part of the game of love is accepting the rules, and this looks like a rule to me.
Now when it comes to rules, there are always two choices:
1) Get upset about the rule and try to fight the system (which never works)…
2) Accept the rule and use it to your advantage to get what you want and beat out men who don’t know what the rules are, or who refuse to play by them, dooming themselves to a life of celibacy and frustration…
What Is A Nice Guy, Really?
If you suspect you have even a fiber of “nice guy” in you, I highly recommend you read “No More Mr. Nice Guy” by Robert A. Glover.
I read the book about three years ago after someone gave it one hell of a recommendation.
Basically, they told me that a friend of theirs (a now-semi-famous actor in Hollywood whose name I cannot mention) read the book, and it totally changed his life. His career exploded, he got famous, and he dates super-hot women – just from reading this book.
So I read the book, and even though I didn’t identify as a nice guy, I loved it and thought it was extremely informative.
It’s definitely a page turner, very entertaining and very credible.
There’s some solid theory in there, and also some very solid and specific actions to take.
And zero filler.
The “DNA” Of A Nice Guy…
The most important takeaway from Glover’s book is that being a “nice guy” or a “bad boy” isn’t really about being “nice” or “bad” at all. The true difference is between “weak” and “strong” characteristics and choices in life.
Embracing this idea allowed me to give women more of what they wanted without ever lying, being dishonest or doing (or saying) anything I knew I’d end up feeling bad about.
I realized giving women a “bad boy” experience didn’t mean making the world a miserable place for them, or for myself.
If you truly respect women and are a mentally healthy man, then developing a few “bad boy” characteristics can be one of the best things you can do for your woman, and it’s a truly empowering feeling as a man.
Think of it as going up and telling the teacher in class that you’re worried you’re not getting enough attention from her, versus keeping your needs inside because you’re nervous or feel like you’re imposing.
Some men might feel as if they’re stepping on toes by sticking up for themselves, but the reality is, a good teacher will respect you for this and will act on it and help you out.
At the same time, you’ll improve the quality of your education and feel empowered for taking action and meeting your needs.
What I Recommend You Do Right Now…
Take a few pages from the playbook of my friend Magic Leone.
Magic was the ultimate nice guy. Hs story is brutal, but he came out on top.
Now he’s a guy I deeply respect and learn from constantly. He does what he wants, speaks his mind and women absolutely love it!
The truth is I’m not even sure our friendship would exist had he stayed a nice guy, that’s how big of a difference it makes.
So here’s what to do next…
I highly recommend you listen to Magic’s story (starting at about 2:30) and the breakthrough principle he developed to winning a woman over quickly right here.
This presentation by Magic is totally free. All you have to do is click on the link above. Enjoy.
