How To Use Online Dating Apps to Actually Get Laid (And The Secret Reason Most Guys Struggle With This So Much)…
Has this ever happened to you?
You match with a girl on Tinder (or OkCupid, or Bumble or Hinge or whatever)…
The conversation gets going, and things seem to be going well…
And then out of nowhere, she stops responding.
Yeah, it’s happened to most guys (and that includes me)… and it f’in sucks.
It makes you feel like you’re wasting your time, and it sure as hell doesn’t make using Tinder to get laid any easier.
So that’s what I want to tackle today.
Hi, I’m Glenn Pearce, and as part of my new series, Ask Glenn, I’m answering your most difficult, burning questions related to sex and dating.
And today, I want to show you the truth about getting laid on dating apps–why so many guys have trouble with it, and how to still get laid anyway.
Because honestly, if you follow the right steps…
… then it’s a LOT easier than you may realize.
So let’s get started!
Catch The Full Video Transcript Below…
Hey, it’s Glenn Pearce, and we’re back again for Ask Glenn Anything questions.
And I’m really happy about all the guys who wrote in–there are so many wonderful questions, so let’s get right in to in.
So this next question is from Steven, and thank you, Steven, for writing in. Steven writes:
Hey, Glenn. Love your videos, man. I’m starting to put myself out there on the dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, et cetera. I’m starting to get some matches, but my big stumbling block is that after a couple of exchanges, girls ask me, ‘so what are you looking for?'”
I answer, ‘just having fun and see if it develops.’ For whatever reason that seems like it makes me radioactive. Girls ghost on the app left and right. Either they call me a player or they say they just got out of a relationship and aren’t looking to date.”
So my question is, what’s the right answer to this? I don’t necessarily want a girlfriend, but I’m open to it for the right girl. Thanks, man. You rock.”
Alright Steven, let’s get right down to it.
Are You Unknowingly Wasting Your Time On Tinder?
Well first of all, Steven, congratulations on getting on the apps.
But you’re on these apps because–and please take this exactly how I’m saying it–you’re too much of a wimp to go out and meet girls in real life.
So many guys sit at home on these f*cking apps, swiping all day and all night.
The only reason why these guys are on these apps is because they’re probably not getting laid in real life.
Now, am I on some of these apps?
But I do it in my spare time, like when I’m going to bed or I’m on the f*cking toilet taking a s*it.
I don’t take them seriously, and neither do women.
To them, it’s just a distraction as well. OK?
So that’s the first thing you need to know.
Here’s How to Keep Her Interested In You Using VERY Little Effort…
So you’re getting bent out of shape about girls on apps who aren’t taking anything seriously.
They really have no expectations of meeting a guy on an app, or a quality guy on an app anyway.
So my real advice to you is to go out and start walking up to girls.
But I will answer your original question.
So girls are just saying, “Oh, you’re a player.” Or they’re just ghosting you.
If a girl on Tinder says to me, “Oh, you’re just a player”… see, I look at that as like a s*it test.
So you could say:
“Well, no I’m not a player. And I’m looking for a girl who, where we really have something in common.” Which is boring and she’s gone.
But if a girl says, “Oh, I’ll bet you’re a player”… and I’ll say:
“Yeah. I bet you’re right. And why does that turn you on?”
Or I’ll say, “And why do you always find yourself falling for players?”
I mean, you have to remember something too, with these dating apps… and it’s this:
Girls don’t have a big attention span in real life. On a dating app, their attention span is even less.
What If She Stops Responding?
Girls on Tinder have thousands of options.
Women get matches every time they swipe, because every guy is swiping right on every f*cking woman.
So women have millions of options… billions of them.
So don’t get too wrapped up in hooking these girls on Tinder, OK?
If they ghost, they ghost.
I mean, there’s nothing you can really do.
My Secret to Getting Hot Tinder Girls in Bed in 24 Hours Or LESS…
But even though you can’t do much when a girl ghosts on Tinder… there are things you CAN do when you match with a girl, that make sleeping with her a lot more likely.
For example, try to start the conversation as soon as possible.
If she’s on the app right then and there, start talking to her.
Don’t be like, “Oh, I should wait a day.” That’s all bulls*it.
This girl might be on Tinder today, but then not again for another week or so.
And so if you start talking to a girl on Tinder, try to get her phone number as soon as possible.
But what exactly should you say?
Don’t Know What To Say To Start The Convo?
This is often one of the biggest struggles guys go through on tinder…
Creating a compelling first message that will get you an awesome and immediate response.
But you don’t need to worry…
Thanks to data from over 100,000 online dating convos… we now know the EXACT first messages that are way more likely to get a response…
And I’m not gonna lie…
I usually just copy and paste these straight into tinder… toss my phone to the side, play some video games.. and wait for the messages to roll in.
From there I use pretty much the exact same message template to go from messaging, to phone number, to date in no time.
So here’s a 3-step “quick start guide” to get you going…
It makes getting dates, and hooking up WAY more likely: