Most Men Think “Dominance” Is an Outdated, Overly Traditional Quality–But What if It’s What Women Secretly Crave?
When you consider “dominance” in a relationship, you may think, “Gee. That sounds bad.”
These days, in fact, the notion of a dominant partner in a relationship probably seems old-fashioned or even archaic. Especially if the dominant partner is the man.
Partners often strive for equality in relationships, with shared decision-making powers across the board.
Yes. It’s true that dominance can be wielded for evil.
It can be used to prevent a submissive partner from flourishing, living their own life, or even to create an abusive environment.
But milder levels of dominance can also make a relationship more stable. In fact, several studies have found that relationships in which one partner is dominant and the other more submissive–and not in a BDSM way, though that can be fun, too–tend to be stronger.
It’s like an ionic bond:
Super strong opposite charges attract and hold one another, like magnets. So today, I’m going to show you the value of your inner male dominance, and how it can turn an “OK” relationship into an incredibly magical one.
Does The Man Always Have to Be the “Dominant” One?
A lot of guys think that the man always has to be the “dominant” one in the relationship.
However, here’s the truth:
Anybody can “wear the pants”–as long as somebody does.
Frankly, it doesn’t matter which partner is dominant. You can even take turns if you want.
What matters is that one partner takes more of a leadership role in a given circumstance.
But why?
Let’s get back to the ion and magnet example. What happens when you try and touch the positive (or negative) poles together on two different magnets?
They repel each other, right? It takes a lot of effort to hold them together, and as soon as you release the effort, they fall apart.
This is what research shows can happen in relationships where you have two partners who are trying to be dominant (or vice versa–two partners who are both submissive).
In relationships where there are two dominant partners, conflict can arise from the act of trying to make a simple decision. Unwillingness to compromise can lead to anger and festering resentment, which destabilizes a relationship.
It Doesn’t End There…
On the other hand, a relationship in which nobody wants to take a leadership role can lead to passive-aggressive behavior, as well as thoughts like, “We never do anything.”
Such overly-submissive behavior can also lead to resentment, and the relationship may die on the vine because neither partner is willing to take the steps necessary to move it forward.
There is a lot of societal pressure toward equality in relationships, and this, in turn, can put a lot of pressure on a couple–especially if the partners tend toward more dominant or submissive behaviors.
Dr. Eva Jozifkova, who has conducted research on dominance in relationships, told The Telegraph:
[B]oth excessive pressures toward equality in some modern societies, and pressures toward male dominance in some traditional societies, represent a form of repression.”
Willingness to let your partner lead, or when appropriate, take a leadership role in the relationship helps to strengthen the bonds in many different ways.
3 Benefits of the Dominant-Submissive Relationship Dynamic
First, it builds trust.
When you rely on your partner to take charge and get something done, like planning a trip or deciding where to have dinner and then making reservations–and it gets done–you begin to realize that she is dependable. And if you’re the dominant partner, vice versa.
This leads to the next benefit of a mild disparity in relational roles:
Dependability allows you to take a mental break and worry less about things getting done.
If your partner has taken the lead on something, and she has a track record of following through, your stress level about it getting done will decrease. You can relax and think about other things. That’s benefit number three.
On the other hand, if you’re in a relationship where both people are trying to be dominant, you may end up competing with one another instead of complementing each other’s roles. And that will ratchet up the stress level in the relationship.
Likewise, a relationship in which neither partner is willing to take the lead may result in a lack of trust or perceived lack of dependability between the two partners.
How Dominant Is “Too Dominant”?
When talking about dominance–or perhaps “leadership roles” may be a better term with which to start the dialogue–with your partner, it’s important to realize that dominance can be a slippery slope into darkness.
Being dominant does not mean that you disregard your partner’s thoughts, feelings, and input.
Rather, it means that you do; and you take them into consideration any time you act on behalf of the couple.
Moreover, if you are the dominant partner in your relationship, you must be respectful of your partner. And when your partner is in the leadership role, you should expect to be respected.
The idea of a successful dominant-submissive dichotomy requires it to be a mild form. Neither partner should be leaning too far in one direction or the other.
If you’re overly dominant, you essentially become a bully. And if you’re overly submissive, you’re giving up pieces of who you are just to please a domineering partner.
In some cases, the roles may occur naturally. And if you and your partner seem to have a good, strong relationship, you don’t need to do anything.
However, if you find yourselves asking each other, “Well, what do YOU think?” instead of voicing your real opinions, you may want to open a dialogue about leadership roles.
The pressure of trying to be too egalitarian can put a strain on your relationship. Discuss what you both really want.
Work out a system that works for you. Don’t be afraid to take charge, let her take charge, or take turns doing so.
No matter how you do so, introducing a little dominance into the relationship can be a great way of sharing the work of the relationship and relieving each other of some stressors.
So if you’ve decided that you’d like to play the role of the “dominant” partner, how should you go about it?
I’ve got that covered too:
The Easiest Way to Show Her Your “Dominance” (Without Scaring Her Away)…
Most guys assume that the only way to show a woman your “dominance” is with your words… and I used to believe the same thing.
However, over time… I learned that this is a HUGE myth. And in fact, there is a much faster, easier & more effective way to show a woman this kind of attractive “dominance”:
With your body language.
This video, by seductive body language expert Magic Leone, is what opened my eyes to this revelation… in it, he shows you:
- Why looking at a woman like THIS will communicate more dominance than your words ever will…
- Step-by-step instructions to touch her in a seemingly “innocent” way that turns her on fast (whether she’s a girl you’ve just met or you’ve known her for years)…
- And how positioning yourself the “right” way can make her your long-term, committed lover who’s happy to do whatever you want (almost LOL)…
Anyway, this video was pretty life-changing for my sex & dating life… so maybe it can help you too:
Discover The Easiest Way to Show a Woman Your Seductive “Dominance” (Without Scaring Her Away)…
