How to Get Past Her Fears (And Into Her Pants)…
You’re sitting on your couch with her, and the tension is building…
You start to kiss her, and she returns your advances…
Things keep getting hotter and hotter…
And then all of a sudden, she pulls back.
She says “Let’s wait,” or “I’m tired…”
What’s going on? Did you do something bad?
Chances are something happened that freaked her out or turned her off…
So what happened, and what can you do to make sure it doesn’t stop you again?
The Strange Link Between Fear and Sex
Fear is perhaps a woman’s most compelling emotion.
Thousands of years ago, fear is what kept women alive — it’s how they recognized danger and knew when to flee.
And today, with the current culture surrounding women and rape, the link between fear and sex is stronger than ever. Women are constantly on the lookout for predators and can instantly recognize when they’re being preyed upon.
And because of this, it’s easy for a woman to feel defensive around a new man — especially one she wants to have sex with.
So even if you have the best of intentions and the utmost respect for her…
You might be triggering one of her sex fears without even realizing it!
And that’s something that will send her running away every single time.
A recent study addressed this problem — conducted by SuperDrug Online Doctor, the study examined 2,000 people (916 of which were women) and asked them about their biggest fears surrounding sex.
And what they found might shock you.
Her Top 10 Sex Fears Revealed…
Looking at the image above, you’ll see the biggest sex fears broken down by gender. For women, concerns about physical safety top the list, while men seem more concerned with their ability to get her off.
But let’s put your own fears aside — what I’m showing you today is how to get past her fears and make her feel safe. Because when you can do that, you’re giving yourself the best possible chance that she’ll go to bed with you.
Why?
Think about a woman’s clothing like her defensive armor against her surroundings.
If she doesn’t feel comfortable or safe in her surroundings, there’s a 0% chance she’ll remove a single piece of her armor.
But if you can make her feel comfortable…
Your chances of getting past her defenses skyrocket.
Craig already showed you how to spruce up your place to make her feel comfortable in her surroundings…
Now here’s how to tap into her fears and make her feel safe with you.
A Step-By-Step Method to Blow Past Her Fears and Make Her Yours
Step 1: Let her know you’ll wear protection
According to the study, women’s number one sex fear is that you won’t want to wear a condom.
But this is a difficult subject to approach.
You can’t just say “Hey, wanna come back to my place? I’ll wear a condom…”
She’ll think you’re assuming she’ll sleep with you, and that takes away any opportunity for her to give you consent (her #5 fear!).
So rather than broach the subject in an obvious way, maybe slip in that you “always wear protection” if sex comes up as a topic of conversation.
You could also bring up the topic that a lot of men hate wearing condoms and you “are definitely NOT like that” if it naturally fits in the conversation.
The key is to slip it in naturally so she knows that there’s no chance you won’t want to wear a condom with her.
As an alternative, you could wait until things are getting hot and heavy before you ask, “Should I get a condom?”
However, the best way to shut down this fear of hers is to address it before anything physical happens between the two of you.
Step 2: Compliment her every step of the way
You may have noticed that I skipped over her #2 and #3 fears — that you have an STI and that the condom will break or will result in an unintended pregnancy.
And that’s because if you can assure her you’ll wear a condom, then her concerns about your STIs will go down. (Although it should be noted that condoms do NOT protect against all STIs and STDs. If you do have an STI, then you need to tell her.)
In regards to her #3 fear — that the condom will break or that sex with you will result in unintended pregnancy — there’s really not much you can do about that.
And if you do bring that subject up, you might just make her more fearful…
So it’s best to stay away from that altogether.
Instead, skip over to fear #4: That you’ll find her naked body unattractive.
So as you begin getting closer to her and kissing her…
It’s important to reassure her that you’re enjoying it and that you like what you see.
So as things begin to escalate…
And her clothes start to come off…
Be vocal about how much you’re enjoying it!
You could tell her, “You look so damn hot right now…”
Or,
“You turn me on so much…”
Anything to communicate to her that you appreciate her physical form and are enjoying the moment.
This will make her more comfortable with you…
And that means the sex will be more enjoyable! It’s a win/win.
Step 3: Get her consent
Her #5 fear is that you won’t take “no” for an answer. This one’s a biggie.
Before you do anything with her, you need to make sure you’re on the same page.
This doesn’t mean that you always have to ask her, “Do you want to have sex with me?”
But if you don’t ask her that, then you need some other signal from her that she wants to go all the way with you before you just do it.
So if you’re making out on your couch, you could ask, “Should I get a condom?”
Or,
“Do you want to go to my bedroom?”
Don’t just “go for it.” When you set a precedent of taking action before knowing what she wants, then she might think you’ll do something she doesn’t want during sex without asking her first.
And that’s a terrifying thought for any woman.
On the other hand, if you can make her feel safe by getting her consent…
Then she’ll open up to you — and that means she’ll want to be more sexually open with you too.
Step 4: Lighten up the mood
Her #6 fear is that you’ll do something she’s not comfortable with — getting her consent sets a nice precedent to shut that down. So moving on to #7…
An embarrassing bodily function will occur.
A woman’s body is an intricate thing, and there’s a lot going on during sex — sometimes, embarrassing bodily functions do occur during sex…
And her embarrassment will quickly turn into shame if you don’t let her know it’s fine.
So here’s how to handle that:
Keep it light and fun!
If something happens, then let her know you still think she’s sexy and you want to keep having sex with her. Make sure she knows it didn’t ruin the “mood.”
At the end of the day, sex should be fun for both you and your partner.
If you see her looking distressed or she doesn’t look like she’s having a good time, then back up a step — reconnect with her to get in the moment.
Why?
Here’s the truth: If she has a bad sexual experience with you once, then she’s not going to waste her time having sex with you again.
So if you want any chance of sleeping with her again, then you need to make sure she’s enjoying it.
There’s ONE guy that a woman is NEVER afraid to be pleasured by…
A guy you’d NEVER expect…
Who? The “Happy Ending Massage Guy”…
Did you know in 2015 alone, tens of thousands of women aged 20 to 30 visited Happy Ending Massages?
They don’t even care who he is… they don’t even care about the risks…
Their fears are overridden by the Masseurs silent sexual techniques…
Secrets he learned in 2 years of study…
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