Is It Possible to Get Sex on the First Date With a Girl You Met Online? One Man Shares His Proven Tips & Tricks…
So you’ve made it this far:
You met a woman online…
Asked her out…
And she said yes to a date. Things are going well for you so far.
Maybe, if you’re like a lot of guys in our community, you don’t want the date to end when the official “date” part is over.
So, when things are winding down on your date… how do you get her back to your place (or hers?)
If it was easy, it would happen all the time.
I’m not going to tell you that it’s easy or will always happen. But with a little work and a lot of attention to detail, you can end a date by leaving with the lady more often than not.
So that’s what I want to show you today. Here’s how it’s done:
How I Personally Get Girls Home With Me on the First Date
Chemistry–a connection between you and the lady–is essential to escalating the evening events from a date to one of your places.
Sometimes, the connection is almost automatic.
You’ve been chatting online and your conversation makes the first meeting almost a formality, so to speak.
You verify that you both look pretty much like you do in your profiles…
Have a couple quick drinks…
Pay the tab…
And find the nearest bedroom. The chemistry is already there.
This does happen. And I’m living proof of it.
I had been on-and-off chatting with a woman on Bumble–let’s call her Heidi–for a couple weeks. Then one Sunday evening, we just kept going.
I asked if she wanted to get together. I named a bar near her and we met 45 minutes later.
We hugged hello, I got her a drink, and then I sat down across from her in the booth.
In 15 minutes, we were sitting next to each other, and in another 30 we were at a hotel.
In this instance, Heidi and I basically went 90 minutes from Bumble to bed. We still get together every now and then.
Another time, a woman named June sat next to me at a bar.
We just started chatting, and after about an hour, she asked, “Do you want to go have sex?”
After a quick stop, we ended up spending the night at my place. She met a guy and got married, but we still chat.
What’s the difference between these two examples?
In the first, Heidi and I had created a connection through chatting. In the second, June and I just felt an immediate chemistry between us.
While this does happen on occasion, it is not, in my experience anyway, the norm.
Most times, there’s a little more caution–even if you find each other immediately attractive.
This means you need to start creating some sparks. And when that’s the case, there are 3 steps I follow that work most of the time.
Here’s what they are:
1) Be A Great Listener
One of the best ways to get some subtle sparks flying is by being an awesome listener.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk–you have to participate in the conversation–rather, you need to get her to talk.
To do this, you need to ask questions. Ask questions about details she’s shared with you.
Get her to share more details, and then ask follow-up questions.
Really listen to her responses. Even if you don’t care.
It’s hard to fake real listening, so you’ve got to put in the work. Trust me.
To show her that you’re listening, make eye contact and make appropriate gestures and facial expressions.
Show empathy by nodding, smiling when she smiles, and sharing things about yourself, as well.
But be careful not to overshare.
Answer the questions she asks, and offer some stories that show why you two would get along.
Does she like skiing? Tell her about your favorite time on the slopes. This, of course, is just one example.
All the while, pay close attention to her gestures and facial expressions.
Look for positive signs like smiles, whether she touches her own hair, or gestures like touching you when she talks or laughs.
These are all good signs she’s having a good time and things are going well.
2) Get Her Honest Feedback (By Giving Your Own)
Once you start seeing positive signs from her, and if you’re feeling ready to move to the next level, it’s time to start making a segueway.
What exactly do I mean by that?
Well, you need to get some feedback about how she feels the date is going.
After a while–when the date feels maybe two-thirds over, like toward the end of dinner–tell her that you’re having an awesome time and that you’re so glad to have met her in person.
Then wait for her to respond.
Her response will let you know how she’s feeling and what the next steps should be. This is a crucial moment. You can’t rush it.
It’s very possible that she’s willing to go home with you that night, and you might be able to sense it.
However, she may have certain ground rules for herself. If you try and rush something on this date, you may shoot yourself in the foot for good instead of sealing the deal on the next date.
If you get a positive response and she’s enjoying the evening, ask if she wants to do something else after the “date.”
Suggest something that sounds innocent but will get you a little closer to one another. For example, taking an after-dinner walk.
This serves a dual purpose:
First, if she agrees, you’re moving into progressively closer physical intimacy.
Second, it gives her the opportunity to make a counter-suggestion–and believe me, this does happen:
You: “Would you like to take a walk after dinner?”
Her: “That would be great,” or “My feet are a little tired, how about a glass of wine on my deck?”
If she suggests something else, agree to it.
Tell her what a great idea it is and be truly happy to join her. It means she wants to spend more time with you that night.
If she says no or wants to be done, be supportive of her decision, walk her to her car–or offer to walk her home–and ask her out again.
And if you do continue to hang out, it’s time for step 3:
3) Continue The Conversation With Some Casual Touching
When you’re in the post-date stage, keep building intimacy by talking.
Use some casual touching during the conversation–on her hand or shoulder–to signal your interest.
Take her by the elbow or hand and ask, “Is this OK”?
If a woman has extended her time with you after a date, it basically means she likes being with you.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that she wants to jump your bones right away, but she’s interested in you.
You have to keep paying attention to the signals that she’s giving.
But what exactly are those signals?
I mentioned that she’ll usually give you some positive body language when she’s having a good time with you… but what about the signs she’ll go back to your place?
If She’s “Having a Good Time”… Does That Mean She’ll Come Home With You?
Allow me to answer this question with a personal story:
I was at dinner with this woman “Meg” a while back… and as the night went on, she was getting closer to me… smiling a lot… and laughing at (almost) all of my jokes. All the right signs.
So naturally, after the check came… I followed my usual routine & invited her back to my place for a “drink.”
Well, I’ll spare you all the details, but basically… the disgusted look on her face told me she definitely was NOT interested… and as you may have already guessed, there was never a second date.
What went wrong…?
Wasn’t she having a good time…?
Why had she rejected me…?
I had so many questions… which is why I brought them to our community leaders, to see if I could get some answers.
As it turns out, I was on the right track in looking for some “signs”… though I had missed some very important details… and it’s these details that reveal when a woman is ready for same night sex.
This community resource showed me exactly what those details are… and since discovering it, I’ve had way more success on first dates. So maybe it can help you too:
Discover the crucial signs that reveal exactly when she’s ready to go home with you.
