Get an Inside Look at the Mysterious Charm of a Smooth Talker–Do You Know This Little-Known “Secret”?
What do people mean when they say, “Oh, he’s so smooth!”
It’s a useful expression to understand, because it means–metaphorically speaking–exactly what it says.
Smooth guys are the guys who can escalate with women without… well, any rough bumps along the way.
But how exactly do these guys do it? And how do you avoid these rough “bumps” in the first place?
That’s what I want to show you today.
I’ll describe what it really means to be smooth…
How “smooth talkers” do it so effortlessly…
And why it’s probably a lot easier than you think.
How Aggressive Is Too Aggressive With Women?
There’s a big difference between being “smooth” and being “aggressive,” even though these two behaviors can often get the same result.
Yes, aggressive can be good… but it can also be way too much.
It’s easy for aggressive behavior to feel “rough” for women–and that means she is not enjoying the process.
And unfortunately, when a woman stops enjoying this, she stops feeling safe and comfortable.
Feeling safe and comfortable are two of the most important factors when you interact with women–that’s a fact.
Why?
Well, women have eggs, which are valuable and need to be protected.
Protected against, what? You may be wondering…
Think about it like this:
The result of a woman’s tendency toward safety, combined with the danger that some men represent, means one thing.
If given the “yes/no” question about a guy she barely knows, a woman is most likely to say “no.”
And that’s because “no” is safer than “yes.” She often regrets saying no, but it doesn’t cause her any danger.
Moreover, each step of escalation presents another opportunity for her to realize:
“I shouldn’t have let this get so far! I have to say no!”
So what can you do to improve your odds of getting past these rough patches?
I’ll show you:
What Does It Really Mean to Be “Smooth”?
This is what being smooth is all about. The smaller the difference between where you are going (kissing, for example) and where you are now (holding hands with your faces inches apart)…
…the less opportunity she has to realize that there’s a decision to be made.
“It just happened,” women like to say. And this means that one thing led to another seamlessly, and there was no chance to (as Sandra Bullock asked Keanu Reeves) “stay on or get off?”.
So how do you make the evening feel like, “it just happened”?
Well, you have to make the difference between your escalation steps smaller and smaller until they simply blend into one another.
That’s exactly what it means to be smooth.
But how do you do that?
How to Be Smooth With Almost Any Woman (Easier Than You Think)
The truth is, being smooth is a lot easier than it sounds–definitely easier than calculus.
Making things smooth is basically another way to describe the solution to the two main problems guys have with escalation.
I’ve written about this before--do you remember what these two problems are?
1) Acting without thinking–escalators take actions they shouldn’t take and screw up their opportunity. And…
2) Thinking without acting–calibrators don’t take actions they should and lose their opportunity.
The solution, with both, is to reduce the escalation point.
How does this solve things?
For the escalator, shrinking the difference between one step and the next reduces the likelihood of screwing up. And for the calibrator, shrinking this difference reduces his fear of making that next move.
Ultimately, it makes things seem smooth.
And here’s how shrinking this escalation point–AKA acting smooth–can help you.
It Doesn’t End There…
This kind of shrinking escalation not only makes it easier to escalate, but it’s easier to imagine, too.
When you’re planning the next moment of a new interaction, imagining doing something you’re not sure you can handle can be distracting…
Intimidating…
And altogether unproductive.
However, if it’s easier to go in and take that action, then it’s easier to imagine doing it–and that means that escalating becomes a lot less stressful and more comfortable.
So instead of standing there, trying to answer her questions while thinking in the back of your mind, “How am I going to possibly kiss her?”… all you’re trying to do is get physically closer to her.
Why does this work so well?
I’ll show you:
Why Does This Technique Work So Well?
I hope you understand that this shrinking of escalation steps doesn’t mean that you’re doing more work–quite the opposite in fact.
Think about it in the form of a staircase vs. a ramp.
It’s true that if you spread all the steps in a staircase out to make a ramp, then the distance is much longer than the staircase. And the longer distance takes longer to travel.
If you’re in a wheelchair, however, then no matter how short that staircase is, you can’t climb it. The chair needs absolutely zero resistance.
In the same vein, the steeper stairs need more power to climb–even though they’re a shorter overall distance.
As you increase the distance of this escalation, you require less and less force, until she can’t even feel the change anymore. You are traveling further, yes, but with almost no resistance from her.
Easy.
But how specifically do you do this?
Here’s a technique that’s been working really well for guys in our community lately:
How to Be “Smooth” Without Saying Much Of Anything…
I personally used to believe 3 things that I’ve now realized are false:
- Smooth talkers spend hours studying “lines” and conversational “strategies”…
- They ALWAYS know what to say, and NEVER stumble over their words…
- And they’re naturally social & extroverted. They love to talk to people.
But I’ve now realized there’s only ONE thing I needed to know all along:
Smooth “talking” isn’t really about the talking… not at all.
Instead, it’s about making a woman feel that “sexual connection” with you. Because the moment a woman feels that sexual connection… that’s when she starts saying “yes” to your advances (doesn’t really matter what words you use).
But how do you make her feel that sexual connection in the first place?
Well, in my experience, there’s really only one way… touch her.
Touch her in the right spots… in the right way… and for the right amount of time… and she’ll feel that connection in minutes, man.
That’s why some of our community leaders developed this guide–it explains exactly how to touch a woman to turn her on… without worrying about any complicated “smooth” conversation tricks.
Honestly, I think it’s probably the best touch-seduction resource I’ve seen online (especially for shy or introverted guys)… so here it is if you wanna check it out:
