Follow My Journey in Online Dating to Get the Tinder Tips You Really Want
I have been experimenting with Tinder since day one.
I had a Tinder profile set up about a week after it entered the market.
And let me tell you, the Tinder of yesterday is very different from the Tinder of today.
I’m often asked which version of Tinder — the original or its current form — I prefer.
It’s a difficult question for me to answer.
I have the ability to adapt and have made a living observing female dating habits over time…
So I’ve been able to plan and change my Tinder strategies accordingly.
But if I was forced to answer the question of which version of Tinder I prefer…
I would say that now is a better time to engage with women on Tinder.
And I’m going to tell you why.
Myself and a few of the other experts here at GC are in the process of building an all-encompassing Tinder guide for men…
It’s really exciting, and I can’t wait to show you.
But until then (stay tuned!), I want to talk to you about the evolution of Tinder and, more importantly, how you can use this information to meet more women.
Old Tinder Vs. New Tinder
When Tinder first hit the mainstream, it took off like a bat out of hell.
It was exciting.
It was online dating boiled down to the bare minimum.
Everyone was doing it.
All of a sudden, you could meet tons of new women connected through Facebook friends (which gives the illusion that you’re an OK guy because of social connections) and have dates every night of the week.
From the comfort of your own couch, you could make plans to actually meet people in bars, the park or a grocery store.
It was simple and easy.
Both men and women loved Tinder, and it was accepted as a legitimate way to meet and eventually date people.
That was then.
The Danger of the “Tinder Trap”
In the first couple of months of using Tinder, I probably went on about 30 to 50 dates.
It was heaven.
Even I, a man who has built his life upon walking up to complete strangers and seducing them, had fallen into the ease of the “Tinder trap.”
Both men and women were eager to go out on Tinder dates.
There was very little resistance to meeting up with a new “Tinder friend.”
People trusted Tinder!
If only it could have stayed that way.
Just as quickly as Tinder became a phenomenon, it received some unintentional branding from its users and the mainstream media.
All of a sudden, Tinder gained a reputation for being an outlet to have random sexual hookups.
People started calling it “the hookup app.”
I experienced this shift firsthand.
I would be swiping, get a match, send a message, ask her what she was doing, and then invite her over…
And it worked!
Men were having completely random sexual experiences with absolute strangers within a matter of minutes of matching with them.
It was awesome.
But it didn’t last forever.
“What Do Women Really Want on Tinder?”
The stigma of Tinder as just a hookup app would linger and linger…right up until extremely recently.
Unfairly, Tinder earned the reputation of being “bad” in the eyes of women everywhere.
Don’t believe me?
Just ask a woman what her thoughts on Tinder are, and watch her eyes roll.
But that’s not the end of the story…
There’s one major catch:
I guarantee that the same woman who just rolled her eyes at you for being on Tinder is still on it herself!
And not only is she still on Tinder, but she’s also secretly meeting men for dates.
Notice how I said “dates” and not “sex.”
Now I’m not saying that there are zero women looking just to hook up on Tinder, but there aren’t nearly as many as there used to be.
For your purposes, I want you to remove the notion of Tinder being an easy way to get a hookup from your head.
Part of this can be attributed to Tinder’s evolution in popularity.
After women began using Tinder primarily as a hookup app, it began to grow in popularity…
But not with women.
Tinder became even more popular with men!
With the newfound perception of Tinder as a way to find “easy” women just looking for sex, millions of men downloaded the app to fulfill their personal fantasies of getting a random hookup.
Where there was once a complete lack of options in a man’s life, there was now the chance to experience pornography-style abundance.
And it started to get to their heads.
Because men started viewing women on Tinder differently from women “in the real world,” they started acting differently toward women on Tinder — and not in a good way.
They were offering unsolicited dick pics…
Asking women to send nudes on Snapchat…
And saying straight-up “creepy” things to their matches.
If that wasn’t enough to scare women away, these men would become incredibly defensive when they were rejected.
They would send mean, nasty messages and would even resort to insulting the women in response.
Tinder was fast becoming a platform for men to unload all of their sexual frustrations and insecurities onto innocent, “virtual” women.
And women responded in a big way.
The Dark Ages of Tinder
When something gets creepy, women run — this isn’t surprising.
What is surprising is that men’s behavior online didn’t cause women to delete their Tinder profiles en masse.
Instead, women began to use Tinder more passively.
Rather than actively messaging men and planning to meet them, women would simply log on to swipe.
Around this time, I found it almost impossible to get a girl on a date using Tinder.
I would have about 100 matches at any given moment, but I would only be able to get about three of them out on a date — if I was lucky.
Tinder, from a time-management perspective, was not returning on my investments.
I spoke with tons of men during this phase, and they all had the same stories.
They would say:
“I have so many matches, but no one is responding to my texts!”
Or, “Every single Tinder match I’ve made plans with has ghosted or flaked!”
I like to call this The Dark Ages Of Tinder.
When I would meet women in the streets or bars around this time, I’d quiz them about Tinder and the answers were always the same…
- Yuk!!!
- Who goes on Tinder anymore?
- “You’re not actually on Tinder, are you?”
Of course, I admitted to being on Tinder just to see these women’s reactions.
But the bottom line was this…
Tinder had become a joke.
Paradoxically, whenever I would jump on Tinder for a swiping session I’d see more woman than usual.
Hotter and hotter women.
What was going on?
Despite the data I was receiving from women when I asked them about Tinder in person, I was witnessing the complete opposite in their actions.
Here’s why.
The One Thing That Stops Women From Deleting Tinder…
At the time when I observed this strange phenomenon, I realized that women weren’t using Tinder to actually date men.
They were, however, still using it to gauge their own attractiveness.
Despite the new “creepiness” of Tinder, women are still using it to seek validation and attention from men!
Because using Facebook and Instagram to fish for appearance-related compliments is no longer “cool,” Tinder became a very obvious outlet for women to seek positive feedback with minimal effort.
Tinder has become their answer — the cure for their natural insecurities.
Women are posting sexy pictures of themselves, men are swiping right, and women receive the confirmation that they’re pretty and show it off to their friends.
Tinder has become the ultimate place for women to stroke their egos.
The bad news: This makes meeting your Tinder matches in person much, much harder for you.
The good news: If you can get a date off of Tinder today, you have a much better chance of sleeping with her.
Here Are Your Next Steps
Now, I know I haven’t officially offered a “solution” to the way women use Tinder today, but there’s a reason for that.
I’m currently working with a few of GC’s other experts on the ultimate Tinder guide for men.
Together, we’re going to give you a step-by-step guide for how to swipe, message, and “Super Like” women on Tinder to get exactly what you want — whether that’s a one-night stand or a long-term relationship.
So stay tuned for the guide, because it’s going to be huge.
Trust me, you don’t want to miss it.
But until then, I won’t leave you totally high and dry.
To bone up on your Tinder know-how, check out Gotham Club’s Tinder Mastery Series!
In the series, Craig sits down with Tinder expert Race duPlessis to address all of the key questions guys have when using Tinder, and it’s a real lifesaver.
So if you want to pick up some quick Tinder tips before we release our ultimate guide, these videos are a must-watch.
Just click on the links below to watch the videos:
Video 1: Introduction and Initial Tips
Video 2: How to Choose the Best Pictures For Your Tinder Profile
Video 3: How to Use Your Tinder Pics to Get Her to Message You
Video 4: 4 Simple Tinder Bio Tips to Help Guys Get More Matches
Video 5: This Amazing Video Will Teach You What to Say on Tinder to Get Her to Message Back
Video 6: The 3 Best Tinder Lines to Use When She Doesn’t Message Back
Video 7: The Absolute Best Time to Swipe and Message on Tinder
Video 8: How to Use Tinder Super Likes to Get 3x More Matches
Video 9: How to Easily Turn a Tinder Match Into a Tinder Hookup
Video 10: 3 Miserable Tinder Fails to Avoid
