How To Video Chat With Girls & Know When to Text or Call Instead–What’s the Best Way to Keep in Touch With a Girl You Like?
The past couple weeks, I’ve been showing you the ropes when it comes to staying in touch with women on the phone.
Because the truth is, technology has completely changed the way we date–and it’s important to keep up with it.
For example, what’s the fastest way to get a woman to sleep with you?
Through texts, a phone call or FaceTim…e?
And in a more general sense, what’s the best way to keep in touch with a woman if you want to take things to the “next level” romantically?
That’s what I want to talk about today.
I’ll show you the pros and cons of using the phone to talk to women, along with what you should do in just about every situation.
Because once you know how to master this skill, you’ll be able to sleep with a lot more women, a lot faster–trust me.
Let’s dive in.
Video Chatting & FaceTiming: The Pros & Cons
Let me just get this out of the way right now:
When you have the choice between calling a woman and video chatting with her, almost always choose to call her.
Think about it–when a woman answers her phone, she is not distracted by 100 little things that occupy her attention when she is on video chat.
When a woman can see herself on the screen, she can be distracted by how she looks:
“Is my hair ok? Oh NO! He’s looking at my ZIT!!”
And even how she smells–“I shouldn’t have eaten that onion soup! Why didn’t he tell me he was going to stop by!?”
In person, you can manage her concerns with your responses.
When you are staring at her or giving that soft, mesmerized (and mesmerizing) our-world-focus-on-her, she forgets the little things she feels she should worry about.
However, this is not the case with FaceTime and other video chat apps.
When you’re chatting with her via a screen, it’s usually not even clear what you’re looking at. If you are really good at conveying interest or expressing feelings with your facial expressions, then video can be incredibly powerful–but this is a skill that few men possess.
In video, you often lose a certain amount of her attention to little things that you can’t control–like worrying about hair or trying to keep the phone from falling over–without getting huge compensations (like full-body visuals or amplifying attraction with powerful eye contact).
And this means that talking on the phone is almost always better.
When To FaceTime A Woman (Instead of Calling Her)
Sometimes though–and it’s important to consider this caveat–the woman you’re talking to believes in her visual allure.
She’s hot–and insecure about her conversational skills. On top of that, she believes that talking on the phone is a disadvantage for her. So in that case, go ahead and use video chat all you want.
Keep in mind, though, that if you do try to “take advantage” of video chatting, you fall into the danger I mentioned above:
Can you show that you are interested with your eyes and facial expressions?
Another time you may want to use video chat is if you’re seeing her long-distance. She can’t be close to you in real life, so seeing her face is only a matter of clicking a different button.
However, for a lot of feminine types, you resisting clicking that video chat button just makes them feel like you’re not that interested, or the other way around:
Clicking that video button says, “I’m REALLY interested in you!”
It can be hard to tell how a specific woman will feel about it, so when in doubt, it’s probably best to call her.
(Plus, with the marked exception of meeting someone while traveling–even in an airport or on the plane–it’s rare for the two scenarios I described above to be valid for your situation.)
When Should You Call & Text Her?
Otherwise–especially early on in a relationship–seeing her on video only gives insight into your emotional distance.
This is why it’s best, in most cases, to text and call.
When you can see her on video–her body, her beautiful lips, her amazing eyes, her long, lustrous hair–all of the things that normally intimidate you are there in your face again.
The quick wit and oddball commentary you might be famous for with your friends is often hard to find when you’re trying to impress her.
Or maybe on video, you’re too distracted thinking about how perfect the little dips are at her collarbones, or wishing you could kiss her.
These are all perfectly understandable thoughts to have.
And believe me, those thoughts are really romantic to her. But unless you two are in a relationship, or she has already decided she wants to sleep with you, they are a huge turn-off for her.
They feel more Harvey Weinstein than Nick Sparks.
That’s Not All…
Plus, on the phone, you can focus.
There are only two major avenues of communication to work on–and you’re using one of the channels most of my masculine students already have on their side:
If you’re a guy who likes to take action without thinking too hard about it, words may not be your strong suit (though for some they certainly are). But if you’re the kind of guy who likes to think before he speaks, talking on the phone is often a great bridge to communicate with her without overanalyzing too much.
“Words, words, words, I’m so sick of words!” Eliza Doolittle rants, in My Fair Lady, “I get words all day through, first from him, then from you! Is that all you blighters can do?”
This is true of most women as well:
In person, she wants action. On the phone, your words matter.
But Isn’t FaceTime More “Intimate” Than Texts & Calls?
The surprising reason video chatting is not more powerful than talking on the phone is this:
Phone-related technology has improved to the point where you can hear everything, and, as I discussed in my last article, you hear it in real time.
On video chat, even if you are focused on her face–little dropouts or delays can cause you to miss the micro-emotions that actual face-to-face time gives you in glorious Hi-Definition.
Additionally, because she’s not there in front of you–even when everything is working perfectly–she still may be distracted, and you can’t control that over video.
So by now, it should be clear that if you want to eventually sleep with a woman, it’s usually best to text and call her instead of video chat.
But what kinds of things should you say to keep her interested in you?
That’s what I’m going to show you next.
Once You Know Whether to Text, Call, or Facetime Her…
The next crucial step is knowing what to say & do.
For example, what if she doesn’t respond to your texts right away?
Or what if she seems “cold” over the phone?
Or she’s super distracted on FaceTime?
The good news is that other guys out there have faced these exact same scenarios thousands of times before…
… and still have gotten the girl.
So we analyzed the exact successful steps these guys took… and turned them into a comprehensive playbook, that shows you exactly what to do to get the girl, every step along the way…
And this short video will reveal the playbook’s first 3 key insights, so you can get more girls & land more dates right now: