What Is A Sapiosexual & How Can You Tell if You’re One Of Them?
I love talking to my girlfriends about our wildest sexual fantasies.
For example, one of my closest friends told me she has a fantasy about Albert Einstein going down on her…
And my neighbor told me she’d love to sleep with Bill Gates.
Was it for his money? Or maybe his fame?
That’s what I thought at first…
But no. Instead, it’s because she’s a “sapiosexual.”
Welcome to the erotic world of the sapiosexual: people who are sexually attracted to intelligence.
What Does it Mean to Be a “Sapiosexual”?
This is great news if you thought having ripped abs and bulging guns were the only way to get the ladies to take a second look at you.
Many people want to truly be stimulated — and not just physically, either.
That’s the core of “sapiosexuality“: It means that you’re attracted to intelligent people only.
So it’s not about being interested in a specific gender — it’s just about your brain.
Think about it:
One of the easiest ways to have strong sexual chemistry with a woman is to have many things in common. This includes an interest in learning, and an appreciation for intellect.
Plus, if you can pique her intellect and curiosity, she will likely want to return the favor (AKA keep talking to you).
Even if you wouldn’t call yourself a sapiosexual, more and more women these days say they are attracted to intelligence.
So with that in mind, here are 3 key signs that you might be a sapiosexual, plus some tips to show every woman you meet that you’re a masculine, intelligent man.
1) You’re Attracted to Well-Read Women
One of the first dead giveaways that you’re a sapiosexual is that you’re interested in women who are cultured and well-read.
And if you’re interested in attracting a sapiosexual woman, here’s a trick that’ll be sure to impress:
Within the first few minutes of meeting a woman, try asking her about the books she’s recently read.
From there, you can mention books you’ve read too — this shows her that you’re interested in her, and that you have something in common.
However, it’s a good idea to think through your answer before blurting out the first book that pops into your head.
(After all, telling her you just finished the most recent Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition probably isn’t the best idea.)
If you haven’t read anything recently, now is the time to revisit one of your former favorites — you could even make a “cheat sheet” of the most important plot points.
Here are a few examples of books that will really impress her:
- Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson…
- To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee…
- High Fidelity by Nick Hornby…
- Less Than Zero by Bret Easton Ellis…
- Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer…
These book selections are all winners when it comes to having intelligent and masculine conversation with a woman who is looking for some brain power.
Which brings me to the second sign you might be a sapiosexual…
2) You Appreciate a Good Story
Another key sign that you’re a sapiosexual is that you enjoy hearing stories about her travels, or experiences she’s had throughout her life.
So how do you get her to tell stories like that?
It’s simple: Tell her your stories of traveling and the experiences you’ve had!
This is your chance to connect with her on an emotional level, and perhaps stir up her wanderlust and adrenaline.
But you don’t want to overshare — storytelling is an art.
She probably doesn’t want to hear, “I went to Alaska. It was really cold. I am hoping to go to Mexico next year.”
The best stories always have a strong beginning, middle, climax, and happy ending.
Don’t be afraid of being animated and passionate.
A Simple “Story Style” That Gets Hot Sapiosexual Girls’ Attention…
Here is a tried and true storytelling technique, that if mastered, will sweep her off her feet and right into your arms.
The method is called the Monomyth, otherwise known as the hero’s journey. And here’s what it looks like in action:
A few years ago, I was set up on a blind date. The guy arrived and he was super tall, lanky, and geeky. (Not my type at all.)
But then he started talking.
Turns out he was a Cartographer. “A what???” I wondered…
And then he told me — it’s a person who makes maps. Cool!
Then he spent the next hour making me laugh as he told his stories about sailing the world to gain knowledge and accuracy for his many detailed maps.
He was not the buried treasure under the X marks the spot I was hoping to discover, but I enjoyed his company, and actually introduced him to an adorable friend of mine.
Together they sailed off into the sunset to explore new lands and each other — for life.
Using the Monomyth method gives you a chance to share your intellect, wits, and emotional capacity. And that is super sexy.
3) You’re a Good Listener
This one isn’t so obvious, but if you take the time to listen to what she has to say, then you might be a sapiosexual.
Because a man who can listen to what a woman has to say is often open to learning new things. And an appreciation or desire to learn new things is a huge sign of intelligence.
One of the simplest ways to show a woman that you’re a good listener is to pause before you speak.
Try taking a breath before responding to her — this is a sign of a good communicator. Women like that in a man.
Plus, pausing gives you a chance to come up with a positive response, even if it is a topic you are not interested in or familiar with.
On top of that, listening builds trust. Trust is the key to a vibrant sex life. So listen closely.
Here’s an example of how to do it:
Let’s say you’re at a work-related conference and you are seated next to an attractive woman. You have 10 minutes before the keynote speaker takes the stage.
You: “Hi, I’m Mark. I work over in the IT department.”
Her: “Nice to meet you, I’m Susan. I work in Marketing.”
You: “How long have you been with the company?”
Her: “Almost 4 years. You?”
You: “I was transferred here about 6 months ago. How do you like it here?”
Her: “It’s had its ups and downs, but I hope to be here for a long time. Overall it’s a great place to work.”
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You: (Nod and pause slightly) “What would you say have been some of the greatest things you have gotten out of working here?”
Her: “Well, first of all, the people, and especially my department head, are great. She always has time to listen and teach.”
You: “Wow.” (Pause… thinking) “That is all so good to hear. Makes me feel really glad I moved here. Where are you from originally?”
Her: “I was born in Dallas, Texas, but I grew up in Amarillo.” (Continues on about her life for 30 seconds or so)
You: “I’ve heard some great things about Dallas.” (Speaker is about to get started) “Hey, after the last speaker of the day, would you like to meet in the lobby for a drink and keep talking?”
In this scenario, you didn’t come on too strong, but you still showed her that you’re interested in her in an intellectual way.
And that’s why she said “Yes” to meeting you in the lobby after the speakers.
Once you’ve gotten her interest… here’s an easy way to hookup with her:
How To Have More Sex With Smart Women…
The way to get a sapiosexual woman’s attention is to tease her mind.
The way to get her into bed is a little bit different though…
True being witty… funny… and charming goes a long way with these kinds of women…
But at the end of the day… if you want to hook up with her… there’s one very important thing you must do:
After all, it’s pretty tough to have sex with a woman without touching her (though it can be a fun foreplay game to try ;-))
And unfortunately… this is where most guys (especially smart or kinda “nerdy” guys) mess up…
The girl is at least kinda interested…
And if only they knew exactly where to touch her to turn her on… they’d seal the deal a lot more often.
These aren’t “scandalous” places at all… in fact I’ve had guys do each of these to me in public, no problem–no one else noticed or cared…
But let me tell you what–they’re about as close as we can come to Viagra for women…
And they work ESPECIALLY well on hot, smart girls…
Click the link below to see:
- Where exactly to touch a hot girl to turn her on right away
- The proper order of these touches (the wrong order often sends girls running for the hills), and
- How to go from touching her to having sex really fast.
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on August 14, 2019.]