If You’ve Ever Asked Yourself: When Will I Meet My Soulmate? Then You Have to See This…
Your “perfect woman” is ruining your life.
Stunned?
You shouldn’t be.
A lot of men dip their toes into the dating world thinking that their search isn’t over until they find the “ideal woman.”
So when they start dating women, they focus on the negatives — why she falls short, instead of why she’s a good girlfriend.
Sometimes, this is a good thing. Of course, you don’t want to be in a bad or toxic relationship.
But at the end of the day, if you keep waiting around for your perfect woman… passing over woman after woman because something isn’t “right”…
Is it possible that you’re just sabotaging yourself?
According to one recent study, the answer is “Yes.”
Ready To Adjust Your Search For Perfection?
More and more studies, like this one conducted by the American Psychological Association, are reporting that the more energy you spend looking for “The One”… the less likely you are to have a good sex life.
Here’s the breakdown:
The study found that people who believe in working through problems in your personal life and relationships are more likely to have satisfying sex than people who have “destiny beliefs.”
What exactly are “destiny beliefs”? For many men, it’s the belief in a soulmate, or that a “perfect woman” exists.
These types of “destiny beliefs” are stopping men from having the most satisfying sex they can have, and they also cause men to give up on good relationships too early.
At the end of the day, all relationships require growth — both mentally and sexually.
So if you’re in a relationship, I want to show you a step-by-step method to stop your “destiny beliefs” from ruining your sex life, and if you’re single, I want to show you how to open your eyes to all of the beautiful & willing women around you.
There are 5 steps in all:
1) Forget About “The One” (Seriously)
It might sound counterintuitive, but in order to have the best relationship you can, you need to retire your image of the “perfect girl.”
If your perfect woman has mile-long legs…
A sizeable chest…
And has an a** that doesn’t quit…
Trust me, you’re not alone. But what will cause you to end up alone is if you dismiss every woman who doesn’t embody these qualities.
Don’t get me wrong — it’s good to have a picture of your ideal woman in mind.
However, it’s time to stop thinking about Ms. Perfect… and start thinking about Ms. Perfect right now.
Why?
Because until you can accept the idea of Ms. Perfect right now, then chances are you’ll be sleeping alone for a good long while.
It’s ultimately your choice, but if you’d like to have some company in bed, then follow me on to step two:
2) Open Your Eyes to All the Women Around You
If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “I don’t overlook women, there just aren’t enough single girls where I am!”… then I’m going to let you in on a little secret:
Women are everywhere.
We’re sitting next to you on the subway…
In line behind you at Starbucks…
And even sitting in the car beside you in traffic.
All you have to do is look for us — I mean it.
Try going to new places and doing new activities if you’re feeling really motivated.
Here are a few easy ways to meet new women in a moderated setting:
- A cycling class at your gym…
- Meetups…
- Cooking classes or writing seminars…
And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
But if you’re not single, going to these events isn’t going to do much for your relationship (unless you use these activities as a way to bond and rediscover each other).
So if you’re in a relationship, here’s my next piece of advice:
3) Work Through Your Issues (If You’re Already in a Relationship)
Let me ask you something: When’s the last time you cut it off with a girl because of an inconvenience or a brief moment of incompatibility?
A lot of guys are quick to end things at the first sign of trouble. They’d rather spend their efforts looking for a new woman instead of working through their problems with the woman they have.
I get it — often, it’s way easier to forget about your problems and move on than it is to work through them.
But stay with me for a second.
Before you just up and leave, try working through your problem (or problems) together. Sit down, put your phones down, and face each other.
Really open up to her about what you’re feeling. Not only will this help you work on a solution, but it’ll help her open up to you as well.
Even when it seems like it’s not worth it or like it’ll turn into a screaming match, take a deep breath and persevere.
You could even ask friends or a professional for advice — just give it one last go before you decide to go.
Why?
Even if you spend a lot of time working through your issues, it’s still probably not going to be as much time as you’ll spend looking for a new woman.
And if you do find a new woman, you won’t know how long it’ll take to sleep with her, how many times she’ll want to sleep with you, or if she’s just as bad as (or worse than) your ex.
4) Be Patient & Open-Minded
This goes for single and non-single guys alike:
Be patient & open-minded, and watch the world throw opportunities at your feet.
Compromise with yourself. Take your picture-perfect model yoga instructor and replace her with a beautiful woman who stays active, for example.
Keep your basic idea of the woman you want to end up with in mind, but allow your boundaries to be pushed and molded.
And from there, start saying yes! Give the woman who are interested in you a chance — whether she’s a friend you’ve known for years, or a woman you’ve only recently met.
But what if you aren’t sure which women are interested in you?
It can be pretty nerve-wracking to approach a woman who you don’t know… especially if you aren’t sure how she’s feeling.
That brings me to your final step — and it’s my favorite, too:
5) Look for the Signs She’s Interested In You Sexually
I was talking to my guy friend the other day… I asked him:
“You know, every time I go out and see a guy I like… I’ll try and get his attention, but he never seems to notice me! Or if he does, it’s just small talk and then he’ll leave. It’s like he’s totally blind to the most obvious signals. What’s going on?”
He paused… and then said, “What signals are you talking about? Show me.”
I showed him 3 of (what I thought) were my most obvious signals… his reaction?
*Crickets*… and then:
“Uhhh… that’s it? I mean, I can see what they are now that you pointed them out to me… and since it’s broad daylight. But holy s**t, if I didn’t know what they are, then I’d never realize you were into me.”
This’ll sound crazy, but I literally had one of those “lightbulb” moments in my head after he said that.
If my guy friend couldn’t recognize the signals before I pointed them out to him… then I suspected he couldn’t be the only one.
And when he came to me a few weeks later… wearing a s**t-eating grin & talking about the girl in Whole Foods who “practically threw herself” at him in the bread aisle…
And the 20-something in Starbucks who “wouldn’t stop eye-f***ing” him… my suspicion was confirmed.
So if you don’t know how to spot the signals, this should help you a lot:
Discover the Signs She’s Interested in You Sexually (Most Men Never Spot These!)…
