Who Should Pay For a Date Early On?
Should you pay for drinks or dinner?
Who should pay for a date?
Why are so many men asking me these questions?
So many guys are asking me this that there must be some doubt or confusion about this topic, or else it wouldn’t be such a common question that I’m asked.
First, let me start of by saying that dinner is very different from drinks. We’re essentially dealing with two different questions here, so I’ll tackle both issues separately.
Should You Buy Your Date Drinks?
Let’s start off with “should you buy your date drinks?”
My answer is… Yes and no!
Here’s what I always say to a woman when we arrive at our agreed-upon date spot (and this can be either a bar, lounge, coffee shop, club, etc.):
“I’ll buy the first round, you buy the second. Deal?” (And I put up my hand for a high five)
The reason why this is so great is because it will take away from any of awkwardness of you not buying her a second drink. At the same time, it lets her know that you’re not going to bankroll her whole evening!
A date is about if two people share a mutual interest in and chemistry with each other. It should not be about money.
A lot of men will say that she’ll think it’s rude if I don’t buy her all of her drinks or she won’t think I’m a gentleman, bla-bla-bla…
If she’s not into because you don’t buy her all of her drinks than she’s not the woman for you! I promise you that. If a woman really likes you, buying her drinks or her paying for her own drinks won’t make a difference.
The amount of money you spend has no relation to the amount of attraction a woman will feel towards a man on a date!
I’ve been on hundreds of dates, maybe even a thousand or more. Trust me, I’ve never had one woman not sleep with me because I didn’t buy her drinks.
More importantly, I’ve never had one woman sleep with me because I did buy her drinks!
If a woman is expecting free drinks and for you to pay for everything, then you’ll be better off with someone else. This type of woman to me is a selfish little girl who isn’t worthy of my attention. I have enough experience to know a good woman from a bad woman.
Out of all the dates I’ve been on, I’ve only had a handful say something back to me when I tell them I’ll buy the first round, you buy the second.
As a matter of fact, recently a woman said to me, “I’m used to the man paying for my drinks.”
I knew she was testing me and that she wasn’t really serious. Often, when a woman likes a guy she’ll test him to see what he’s made of and I always pass their tests!
So, what did I say to her to pass her little test? I said with burning, flirty eye-contact, “Interesting… And I’m used to getting a b.j. if I buy drinks. So, maybe you should take a few minutes alone in the corner to decide!”
Needless to say, she laughed hysterically, hit me on the arm and said, “I like you. You’re funny!”
Dates can get very expensive especially when drinks are on average $10 to $18 each. If you’re going on a few dates a week this can pile up really quickly. This is just yet another reason why you should value your money.
Women will not sleep with you because you bought her drinks. It doesn’t make you more attractive in her eyes. Chemistry, attraction and connection is what will get a girl to go home with you, not the number of drinks you buy or the money you spend.
Only buy her a drink if she agrees to buy the second round. If she says no, just buy yourself a drink and continue on with the date! A high value man would never let a woman dictate how he should spend his money to him.
If a woman can dictate to you how you should spend your money, she will lose all respect for you as a man!
“Should I Ever Pay For Dinner?”
As for dinner… NEVER!
Dinner is only for couples or people who are dating seriously, not two people who are on a date!
Dinner is the ultimate attraction killer. Most women hate dinner dates.
How do I know?
I’ve asked them, that’s how! Dinner dates are boring.
When two people sit across from each other it sets up a dynamic that is usually not in the best interest of either of you. Most dinners end up in an interviewing style of date where you both just ask questions to each other. Boring!
Women are emotional junkies. They are always on the hunt to have their state of minds raised from average to that of excitement. Raise a woman’s emotional state and watch her attraction level rise. Lower it and watch her shrivel up.
Think about this, when you eat and your belly is nice and full what usually happens to your emotional state and energy level? It drops. Food and digestion actually makes you tired and slightly more lethargic–that’s probably the worst combination if you want a night of fun physicality to follow.
Another reason why dinner is such a bad idea is that at the end of your dinner date your waiter or waitress will eventually drop a bill on the table.
Talk about an awkward moment for the guy…
Who the hell wants to spend $50 or more on a date with no guarantee that anything will happen afterward?
Not me and you shouldn’t either.
My Secret Formula to Avoid Dinner Dates Entirely
If a woman texts you before the date asking what you have planned just say this:
Her: “What do you have planned for tonight?”
You: “Awwwww… Trying to figure out what to wear? Lol”
You: “Dress hot so we match and just a quick drink”
If a woman asks you or says she’s hungry (which some women will do. They have no shame in trying to get a free meal), just say…
Her: “I’m really hungry” –or- “Can we grab some dinner?”
You: “Eat something before so that you’re not grumpy. I already have dinner plans before we meet.”
Whatever you do, do not fall into the trap of paying for a woman more than you should. How many dates have you already been on where you paid for the whole night, only to have her not go home with you? Why go through that again?
Your Next Steps…
I can tell you about my wealth of experience from going out with hundreds of women, but don’t just take my word on it–the data backs me up.
And not just any data. I’m talking about “big data”–hundreds of social networks, dating sites, and other sources of data on how women really act (and how they want men to act too).
Fortunately Craig has compiled and analyzed a bunch of this data and put it in an easy-to-understand format.
So here’s what you do next: click on the link below now to see what big data says women really want.
