Have You Ever Wondered: Why Am I Still Single? The Answer Might Just Surprise You…
Something I find interesting is when a client will ask me:
“Why am I still single?”
And I almost always know the answer. This is the case for many of us dating coaches — mistakes that seem totally obvious to us, just really aren’t all that easy to avoid.
If you aren’t sure what they are, that is.
Though over the years, I’ve discovered that learning these mistakes is half the battle to avoiding them. So today, I want to show you the three most common mistakes that could prevent you from getting a girlfriend.
Beginning with mistake number one:
1) The Way You Smell
We spoke about hygiene a while back, so let’s just review that discussion.
Yes, it is possible to be perfectly clean and still not smell great, but usually, smelling bad means one thing: You aren’t clean.
I remember this one time when a guy told me about a girl who — just before they were about to have sex — asked him:
“Why don’t you take a shower first?”
He told me about it and said:
“Don’t you think that was weird? I mean, I thought it was a little sexy, but when I said, ‘OK, let’s go ahead,’ she was really insistent on me taking a shower.”
I looked him in the eyes, and gently said, “Maybe she thought you smelled bad.” (I immediately knew this was the case.)
How did he respond?
He paused a moment, looking at me as though he hadn’t considered that crazy explanation.
“Nah. That wasn’t it.”
The truth? Yeah, buddy, that was it.
I happened to know the girl — it was my wingmanship that got them together — and I heard the unprovoked and uncorroborated story from her friend.
She said he smelled so bad that she refused to sleep with him since he didn’t shower. And she never went out with him again.
2) Your General Demeanor & Behavior
Some guys just aren’t sure how to act around women — so they end up acting like little boys.
They’re used to either being alone or with their other guy friends, so they don’t have a lot of experience being social around the opposite sex.
Before he was hosting the Tonight Show, the story famously goes, Jimmy Fallon got a visit from a 20-something single, interested Nicole Kidman.
Someone introduced them because she had a bit of a crush on the comedian.
She came to his apartment, and – according to her memory of it, Fallon, wearing sweats and a baseball cap, did and said nothing for an hour and a half except, believe it or not, put on a video game.
Kidman avoided going on the Tonight Show, from the sounds of it, to avoid bringing up a story which she thought would be embarrassing to both of them.
Now, I’m not saying that you have to act like every meeting with a woman is a date.
Not at all. The problem for Jimmy was not that he didn’t know he had a shot with Nicole Kidman.
The problem was that even if you enjoy living in a frat house, you should act like an adult when guests come in.
3) The State of Your House (Or Car)
Another woman told me the story of a guy she was seeing who kept a “special” rag next to his bed.
Sure, women can be slobs — but this is something that will truly disgust her and send her running.
Some men just have an apartment that makes women feel uncomfortable. And a woman who’s uncomfortable in your home is almost never going to come to bed with you.
For example, if you keep stuff all over your couch — pizza boxes, clothes, magazines, whatever — she probably isn’t want to going to sit there.
Some guys stink. Some guys are anti-social. Then there are the “pig pens.”
So how do you avoid all of these relationship-preventing mistakes?
There are a few ways to avoid this happening to you, and I’m going to start with a very big picture item.
For a lot of you, this suggestion is going to seem like I’ve lost my mind and don’t understand what you’re here for, but hear me out, OK?
“But David,” I hear you saying, “if I could ‘get myself a girlfriend’ I wouldn’t be here!”
OR “But David, I’m looking for a player’s lifestyle – you’re telling me that I need a girlfriend to be attractive to other women?”
A lot of you — and you know who you are — could have a girlfriend, but you are too picky.
That girl who has been pestering you is not really your type, so you brush her off. But what I’m telling you is that it’s a good idea to let her into your life.
Why?
A woman in your life can do a lot for changing your most antisocial habits. And that will help you find Mrs. Right even sooner.
So how do you go about actually getting that girlfriend?
Here’s what I show to my clients:
Have a Girl You Want in Mind? Here’s Some Help to Make Her Yours…
If you know a girl who you think would be perfect for you… you don’t need to “win her over”… or drop $$$ “wining and dining” her…
In my experience, this isn’t the case at all. Not one bit.
Instead, all you need is this simple 3-step plan — it shows you exactly what to do, so that she sees you as a potential lover or long-term partner.
Whether she’s “just your friend”… your co-worker… or an acquaintance you’ve only recently met… these steps seem to show her that you’re “boyfriend material.”
I’ll admit that this plan doesn’t work 100% of the time (like if she’s happily married)… though for most women, it’s rock solid. 🙂
You can go here to check it out:
Discover the 3-Step Plan to Get the One Girl You Want, Once & For All…
