How to Approach Women With a Powerful Ally–Do You Know What Makes a Strong Wingman?
Approaching women may seem like a daunting task when you’re flying solo.
In some cases you’ll be outnumbered by women surrounding the one you want to talk to… and that can feel a little scary.
How do you confidently approach a woman, and handle the women around her?
I get asked questions like this a lot–and so today, I want to give you all the answers.
Hi, I’m David Dupree, and every week I’m answering one of the most difficult, burning questions guys have when it comes to sex & dating.
And today, I’m answering this one:
“What is a wingman, and why do I need one?”
Catch The Full Video Transcript Below…
First, let’s talk about the different types of wingmen.
The best kind of wingman to have is a close friend.
If you don’t have a best friend, anybody will do. It’s not as smooth, but anybody will do.
The worst people to have as a wingman, for me personally, are guys that get in fights.
I don’t like them. I don’t like being around them. And that’s a big deal-breaker, personally.
Of course, there are different kinds of guys who get in fights. Which leads us to the second type of wingman…
Good Wingmen Vs. Bad Wingmen: What You Need To Know
There are defensive guys who get into fights because they feel low about themselves.
They throw around their low self-esteem, and it messes up the night.
It scatters the women.
There are also guys who are too aggressive with women.
But in those cases, I can keep the guy’s attention, so I can stop them from doing it.
But it’s not something you want. It makes the women look at you as a problem as well, so they just stay away.
That’s no good.
In fact, if I’m talking to guys that are not with me, but they’re being aggressive to the women and scaring them away, I’ve gotta get rid of those guys. That’s my job, and the women expect it of me.
If you are with a close friend, you would know this beforehand. Usually, you only find out if a guy is like this if you pick up a wingman on the fly.
The “Instant Wingman” Hack for Ultimate Sexual Success
The third type of wingman, and this is the only way to do it if you are alone, is what I call “instant wing.”
The instant wingman can be any good-looking guy in any place. For me, I want to be near the good-looking guy in a bar.
I want to stand next to that guy, because wherever women are looking, I want to be there.
So I’m standing next to that guy–that means I’m gonna talk to him about whatever I can come up with. It’s much easier to talk to guys than to talk to women anyway.
“That’s a nice phone,” can spark a conversation. It really can be that easy.
I won’t compliment the way he looks. So don’t do that.
For really good-looking guys, especially straight guys, if you compliment the way they look, they get just like women do. They’ll try to get away from you because they’ll feel uncomfortable.
So keep it simple. For most guys, it’s easiest to mention a digital item like a phone. You could also mention something else like his glasses, or even a shirt that has a name on it. Anything that is identifying him works, really.
Now, when you find that guy you want to be around, bring women over.
Bring them to meet this guy, and say, “Oh, you’ve gotta meet my friend…” and introduce them.
And at that point, you don’t even know his name. “What was your name?” And introduce them to the guy.
This works because, let’s face it, if you bring four women over, he’s not talking to all four women.
Moreover, especially with those kinds of guys, if you bring four women over, he’s only gonna be interested in one of them.
And the rest are interested in you!
Does Your Wingman Bring Value?
If you don’t have a wingman or you’re wondering if you need one at all, consider the major advantages.
1) Your wingman makes sure you have a good time no matter what.
The first advantage is your mood. If you really get along well with somebody, whatever you’re doing, you’re going to have a good time.
I have a friend that, no matter what we’re doing, we always just say, “Here’s to a good night.”
That’s one major value.
2) Attractive women love an attractive wingman.
Another value is that sometimes the other guy is very attractive.
The guy I wingman with, for whatever reason, women love him. They’re so drawn to him.
When I’m next to this guy, there will be women around.
You’ll also find that guys who are more attractive to women are generally less talkative and less seductive with women. And so there are basically too many women for him to handle, so you get some of the action.
3) A wingman can build you up the right way.
And the third advantage is, there’s somebody to do the things that you can’t do.
“What are those things?”
Well, you can’t talk yourself up.
Talking yourself up is a qualifier and it makes you look low-value.
But if there is somebody else to say that you’re good, it works. When you are quiet, somebody else can talk, point at you, and refer to you. If you want to just get the woman’s attention, it’s better to do it off of someone else.
For example, one of the things that I’ll say would be when a good-looking guy and I walk into a place, and when the women look over.
I’d say, “Ladies, there’s no reason to stare. His name is Dion.” …because they’re looking.
Now, if I said, “There’s no reason to stare. My name is David,” …that boastfulness is very unattractive and it may cause them to lash out.
“I wasn’t looking. I didn’t stare at you. Don’t think you’re all that.” They’ll immediately get defensive.
But when you say it about somebody else, they want to lash out in a different way. They feel something immediately, and they’re engaged right away because they feel defensive.
The One Wingman Trap To Avoid…
The best wingman is a close friend that you hang out with. But, be careful…
If you have a great friend you hang out with and you’re in a bad mood (especially if he’s also in a quiet mood), then the two of you will just end up sitting quietly together in a bar.
Now, that can be okay. To my friend and I, it doesn’t matter. If we sit in a bar and the two of us drink, it’s a great night.
On the other hand, though, it’s not effective. So sometimes it’s necessary for somebody to make a move–to step away from the other one and do something to engage.
For example:
“Can you help me with my friend?” or “Can you tell my friend?”
If you’re in a conversation, you can turn to a woman and engage her with what you were talking about.
For example, if I’m not talking about anything, this can be the first thing I say:
“Oh, come on…. Excuse me. Is France better than Germany?”
It doesn’t matter what I’ve said, really. Just say whatever comes to mind, and now she is engaged and interested.
How Your Wingman Can Help You Hookup With A Girl
If you have a great wingman, then not only are you going to have fun… but you’re probably going to talk to a lot more girls in a night too.
However… even if you have a great wingman, this doesn’t guarantee anything…
So if you want to get her phone number, make out with her, or even possibly take her home that night, it’s practically crucial that you flirt with her a little on your own.
This means having an engaging conversation… getting her to open up… as well as building some sexual tension.
Luckily, if you’re shy or introverted (like a lot of guys in our community)… there is a technique developed by my fellow dating expert Magic, that can add some extra kick to your game.
Now…this isn’t some ancient secret that makes women uncontrollably horny with the snap of your fingers.
And it probably won’t help much with girls who have boyfriends, or girls who just aren’t that interested…
However, it’s a great way to make her feel more comfortable around you so she opens up more… and it can help turn things sexual too.
Which means there will be a lot less resistance toward the end of your interaction… so if you ask for her number, try and score a date, or even invite her back to your place…
She’ll be way more likely to say “yes” :-):
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