How To Get More Women And Keep Them Satisfied (By Only Texting!)–Do You Know How Easy It Can Be?
Have you ever wondered how to attract more women or how to keep them interested in you?
Texting has revolutionized the way we date, and while it can be relatively simple to do, navigating text messaging can be tricky.
That’s why we created this incredible guide to show you all of the best tips on how to score more dates, keep women interested, and always leave them wanting more.
Read on to find out the best insider tricks for what women really want (by putting in very little work).
Have you ever found yourself looking down at your phone at the name of a pretty woman you’ve just met, whether it was through friends, in a coffee shop or an online dating site, and wondering what you should text her?
Have you ever found yourself texting back and forth with a girl trying to figure out when is the best time to ask her out on a date? Or even wondering if she’ll say “Yes” when you finally do?
Or maybe you’ve gotten a woman’s phone number and you don’t know how long to wait to text her for the first time. Is it 1 day? 3 days? Longer?
If you’ve stressed out over this dilemma, don’t worry! We have a few quick tips that will easily teach you:
- Why texting a girl can be really easy (if you know what to do)…
- How to turn a girl on by text, and…
- How to get a girl to like you over text.
…and these work with any woman.
That’s right: any woman!” You’d be surprised, but it’s actually really important to understand this point.
1) Treat Any Woman Like She Is One of Many
Did you know the average man only goes out on 2-3 first dates per year? Above average men go out on 5-7 first dates a year. That means most guys have only texted a new woman 7 times in the past year, at best.
Because they’re texting so few girls over the course of an entire year, most men put an extreme amount of importance on each woman–he has no sense of abundance. If you only have 7 chances to get a girl out on a date, you’re probably going to play it very carefully, right?
Very bad idea!
If you’re texting with 10 women at any given moment, how do you think you’ll act with each woman? Would you play it “safe”? Probably not.
You know that even if you screw things up with one woman, there are 9 others left that still like you!
This is why it’s crucial to your success to text “any woman” like you have 10 more women who are dying to go out with you.
Women have more options than you would ever realize. In general, they are likely texting with at least 2-4 new men at any given moment until they settle into a serious relationship.
Allow me to ask you this: do you think she remembers the man who’s texting very “gentleman-like” and “nice?” Or the guy who’s teasing her, being aloof and non-needy? If you said the latter, you’re correct.
So, tip #1 is to treat “any woman” like she is one of many women you’re texting. Do not treat her like the special snowflake you might think she is! “Playing it safe” is a dead-end road that leads to lonely nights at home watching lame movies or playing video games!
2) When’s the Best Time to Text a Girl?
There’s a saying we love:
“When you’re with a woman, time is on your side. When you’re separated from her, time is your worst enemy.”
Memorize this and it will serve you well.
If you’re chatting away with a woman and things are going well, then that time you’re spending with her is only raising her level of attraction to you and strengthening your connection with her.
The minute you walk away from her, the attraction that you’ve built and the connection the both of you have made starts to slowly decrease.
The clock is ticking–every second you wait, that attraction and connection keep slowly melting away.
(It works the same way with online dating. Once you’ve gotten her phone number and you’re about to move from emailing to texting, the same premise is at work. Text her right away!)
You also want to be sure to text her the same day you meet – or the day after. Do not wait 2,3 or 4 days to text a woman. Pretty simple.
You always want to be “fresh” in her memory and get her on a date before she forgets about you or someone else comes along (which can literally happen overnight)!
(You can also find some sample texts to keep the conversation flirty and fresh right here.)
3) How To Craft the Perfect Text Opener
Great. Now that you understand when to first text a woman after getting her phone number, it’s a good time to talk about how to create a foolproof text opener.
Your first text to a woman should always be:
- Slightly humorous, and…
Why? At any given moment she is more than likely texting with a few men–you have some competition, and you want to stand out.
If that’s not bad enough, over the past few years, she has probably texted with dozens of boring, uninteresting men.
The easiest way to differentiate yourself from the “average guy” she’s given her number to already… is by sending out a great first text.
So, if you’ve ever wondered how to turn a girl on by text, keep reading.
How To Turn A Girl On Over Text: Foolproof Opening Lines
Here are a few first texts you can send or use as a guide:
“I heard you met a really amazing and handsome guy at (insert where you met her).”
“So… Meet any awesome guys at (insert where you met her)?”
“Do you always pick-up guys at (insert where you met her)?”
“Hey you. It’s your internet husband (insert your name).” (This is if you’ve met her online)
“I know you haven’t been able to stop thinking about me since we met so I figured I’d say hi.”
These texts work well, but should be tweaked for your own personality or situation. Just remember to have fun with them.
4) The Big Step That Most Guys Don’t Even Try
Now that you’ve established contact with a woman and you’re texting back and forth, it’s a good time to flirt and banter with her before you ask her out on a date.
(By the way, NEVER refer to meeting up with a girl as a date. ALWAYS just call it “drinks”).
Women live for flirting and banter. If you can successfully flirt, banter, and make a woman laugh, you’re in!
Not only that, you’ve definitely distinguished yourself from all of the other men who are texting or have texted with her.
Men just suck at this. It may be hard to believe, but men know very little about flirting, how to do it, and why it’s so important. That means if you can do it right, you’ll be getting more dates than you can handle.
Flirting is an art and takes some time to learn but here are a few examples that you may be able to use:
Her: “Where do you live?”
Me: “What? We just met and you wanna come over already? You don’t waste any time, do you?”
Her: “I have to take a shower”
You: “Look at you trying to get me to imagine you with no clothes on. Sneaky!”
You: “On a scale of 9 to 10. How excited are you that you met me?”
Her: “What do you do as a job?”
You: “Why? Trying to decide if I’m husband material?”
With flirting and banter there are literally a million different ways to do it. And learning how to turn a girl on by text is the best trick you’ll ever learn.
The main purpose of texting with a woman that you’ve met is to re-establish any attraction and connection that you made in real life and to get her on a date!
This is where 99.9% of men screw it up. Most guys spend way too much time texting with a woman before they ask her out.
To the point that when they finally did ask her out, she said “No!”
Flirt a little and maintain that connection, but know when to pull the trigger to ask her out. How will you know when it’s time?
5) How Many Texts Should You Send Before Asking a Woman Out?
Always ask a woman out for drinks, coffee, or ice cream within the first 15-20 texts back and forth. You don’t want to waste time with a woman who isn’t serious about meeting up. And you don't want to be put in the friend zone.
Not only that, you don’t want the conversation to get so boring that she decides you’re not the right guy for her. Typically it’s hard for the conversation to get boring in the first 15 to 20 texts.
You will always want to ask her for a drink on a “high note” of the conversation. Women are highly emotional beings. They act and survive based on their emotions. They make all of their decisions from an emotional standpoint, not a logical one like men.
If you ask a woman for drinks when the conversation is boring, her emotional state is low. Therefore she’ll automatically assume that your date will be boring and uneventful. It may sound crazy, but it’s the truth.
If, on the other hand, you ask a woman out while the conversation is interesting and she’s excited, she’ll naturally assume that your date will be interesting and exciting, and she’ll almost certainly say “yes”.
Have some fun with these tips. Realize that you may lose some women along the way but practice makes perfect, and each time you lose one, that’s just one more woman who’s not wasting your time anymore, and making room for another one who’ll be incredibly attracted to you in no time.
Now that you know how to attract more girls via text, let’s dig into how to keep her excited via text about an upcoming date.
How To Keep in Touch With an Upcoming Date…
Many guys aren’t sure if they should keep in touch with a date before meeting up. Is it too needy to text them beforehand?
Is it expected?
What should I say?
It’s a common question guys struggle with, but luckily, there are some pretty easy ways to make sure you keep her interested, without scaring her off.
How and When Should You Keep in Touch With Her?
By the time you two have set up the second date, she is already projecting much more of an “us” image than she was before the first date.
Whether she classifies that as “talking,” “dating,” “soon to be smashing,” or whatever, you two are something.
Demonstrating some affection, then, is a good move.
You want her to feel like you two are moving forward — especially if you weren’t so communicative over text before the first date.
You can do this in a number of ways:
If you two are connected on social media, you can “slide into her DMs” (Direct Messages for non-Instagrammers) with a meme or link that references something you two talked about on date one. Unless it needs explanation, let the picture, gif, or link speak for itself.
You don’t need an excuse to talk to her – you guys are “dating,” or whatever you want to call it.
You could also wish her a great day. Something like:
“Good morning, Lizzy! Hope you have a great day ;)”
“Hey, Beth, just got back from work. Hope your day was less hectic than mine :P”
Anything fun, sweet, or flirtatious works great.
What If You’ve Flaked on Her or Have Been Absent for A While?
If you’ve been flaking on her, then keeping up with her and reminding her that you’re interested with the simplest check-in can make her day.
What’s great is that before you do this, she will also be turned on by your scarcity — as most guys are texting her too much or trying too hard — so have no fear that you’ll come off as needy or chasing.
It’s the warmth she’s been waiting for.
Then, once you do want to see her again, she’ll be excited and glad you finally set it up.
What If There’s a Long Lull Between Scheduling and the Actual Date?
When there’s only one or two days between your last conversation and the day of the date/meetup, it’s probably best to wait until that day to talk to her, and your first text should simply be:
“Hey, Leslie, we on for (insert activity)? ”
However, if there is a lull longer than three days between your scheduling conversation and the actual date, send her a text in the meantime.
Try to avoid the typical, “Hey, how are you?”
It can work for some girls, but others it might annoy or make you look too available for chit-chat.
Instead, send her a friendly, “Hey, hope the day is treating you well!” Or,
“Man, I just stubbed my toe on my bed — hope your morning is going better than mine! Lol.”
Something that’s warm and nice, but not asking for any reply in return (though if she likes you, she will respond) is perfect.
The Texting: What to Send & What to Avoid
Here’s the truth: try to only send texts if they’re either funny/sweet or sexy/flirty.
Funny/Sweet: This type of tone helps with your attainability. Again, these texts look like this:
“Hey, Sarah, just wanted to say hi and I hope you’re doing well.”
You’re not asking her anything, you’re simply showing affection.
If she likes you, she will probably respond warmly or even start asking you questions. It’s affectionate without being needy.
Sexy/Flirty: This is if you are a forward guy in person, sexual, or have set any sexual tone with her. Let’s just say “if you know what you’re doing, then do this.”
Note: If you’re of the more stoic demeanor, and that’s been working for you, then stick to your personality and keep conversations to a minimum.
It’s definitely important to be yourself here, because if she fell for your personality, switching it up over texting isn’t going to work for you.
Now that you know how to keep her excited for a date, you might be wondering what to do if you find yourself falling for a girl.
Some guys worry they might come off too strong via text, so we’ve got a handy guide and video to help you through this common struggle.
How To Get A Girl To Like You Over Text: 1 Easy Step Most Guys Miss
Should you send her funny pictures? Should every text come with an emoji? What kind of texts do women really respond to?
Texting a woman you’re interested in doesn’t have to be rocket science, guys!
It’s easier than you think… as long as you know what to send.
Don’t worry if you’re struggling with this, though. One of the most popular questions guys ask is:
“What’s the best text to send a girl you like?”
The above video answers this question and also explains why emotion is so important in texting.
Girls can’t see what you’re saying or hear any emotion through a text, so it’s important to communicate it as well as possible.
Many guys really hate emojis…
But women respond mostly to emotions! And emojis so easy to send!
So if you can’t convey your emotions in texts, chances are, she’s not going to feel any emotions for you.
In fact, she’ll be more inclined to ignore you.
(If you're in a rush, you can find a cheat sheet of what women really want right here)
How Do I Put Emotions Into My Texts?
So when you text her, try saying something that’s going on for you right now.
Here’s an example:
Me: “Hey! What are you doing right now?”
You: “Right now I’m burning my toast because, clearly, I don’t know how to work my toaster! I have no idea what I’m doing… :’-(”
Get that sad emoji in there!
Anything that engages her to you in the moment is going to make her feel an emotion toward you.
She’ll also feel more compelled to answer and keep waiting on you. It’s a simple way to learn how to turn a girl on by text that requires very little effort.
It’s really that simple! Who would have thought emojis would be the answers you’ve been waiting on all along!
Now Go Out There And Get More Dates!
Now that you know some of the best insider secrets on how to turn a girl on over text, it’s time to put your skills to good use.
Remember, keep it simple, don’t come across too eager, be yourself, and don’t be afraid of emojis. They’ll become your new best friend.
(And if you're curious how to turn her on in person- check out this free guide.)